2006-08-30 08:11:12 · 22 answers · asked by jb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really feel for you, it is so hard being in a relationship while loving someone else and not knowing what to do. Dont cheat - learnt that the hard way.
You could try talkign to the man you love and saying you need to make an effort to see what coudl happen in your marriage. You owe your husband that for the sake of the vows. Dont see the other man for a month or two months and focus on your husband. Tell him how you are feeling and talk to a councillor abou tit. After two months you may see a way forward with your husband, you might find that the other man has left beacsue he was never really committed and 2 moths was to long a wait, or you might find that you know where your heart truely lies - and that is with the other man.
I wish i had done something like this. I was in love with another and acted on it without thinking and it turned out to all be lies and now my life is full of hurt.
2006-08-30 15:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been through this myself cuz the 1st husband didnt want to do normal things, was boring, and he let our love die and then I fell for my soulmate from 1200 miles away through emails etc. Once I was in love with the other man the husband couldnt get me back emotionally and we ended up divorced. Soulmate was too far away and now I have a different husband. Will your true love give you a ring and commitment if you leave? If not sit tight and do some more thinking...Life is very expensive.
2006-08-30 15:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously sit and talk to someone who can have an objective view on the whole thing. You have to remember that your actions will effect everyone around you. If you are ready to end your marriage and move on to someone else then you should do it in that order. You should not have an affair to see if you should be with that person. It complicates things and peoples feelings will get hurt. I would advice you to end your marriage first and then take things slowly. You do not want your new love to be a rebound. If you truly love that person you want it to last and you will take your time. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-30 15:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been in this situations once but I ended up staying with my wife until she took off with someone else, and just was thinking what if I did that first. I will never know its too late for me. You loved someone else, and the marriage is over already. I would leave the marriages and go with your heart.
2006-08-30 15:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by henbakjjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are in love with somebody else, the best thing to do is to tell your partner the truth and leave. You do not want to hurt your spouse, if you cheat it will be a lot harder them,it will cause a lot more pain. A lot of people change and relationships do not always work out but you cant have your cake and eat it too.
2006-08-30 15:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce your husband first before you carry on with this other man. And keep in mind this new "love" may not work out either. There are certain people in this world who never find themselves content. You may be one of them. I'm not saying it to be mean, I'm just saying that when you think you've found something that makes you happy, it's only short lived and then you are looking for something new again.
2006-08-30 15:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce because you will never be happy and will cause your spouse to be unhappy.
Its not fair to your husband if you are in love with someone else.
2006-08-30 15:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have issues. The love you have for your husband should withstand any infatuation you have for another man. Get over yourself. Work out your own issues and stop looking to another man that you THINK you are in love with.
2006-08-30 15:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you can do is grow up.
The second thing you can do is decide if your marriage is worth anything to you. If you allowed youself to get that close to someone then I suspect you don't give two sh*ts about your marraige and do your spouse a favor and end it.
2006-08-30 15:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by BadAdvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you truly love someone else then you shouldnt stay in a loveless marriage. it isnt good for either party. besides one day you may cheat and that would be the most hurtful thing for your spouse to find out. well to find out you cheated and you didnt love them would be bad. nip in the butt now... just leave.
2006-08-30 15:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by becca_2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋