He is required to have sex with me at least as many times as he looks at porn per month. Therefore, if he looks at it 4 times a month, then I get to get his man stick 4 times per month.
2006-08-30 08:07:59 · 15 answers · asked by eddysmomma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds fair to me.
2006-08-30 08:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by bree30 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think maybe you should cut the porn out of your relationship. Porn gives some men an unrealistic expectation of sex and wouldnt you rather know that your husband is turned on by you and not some bimbo who gets paid to get laid? you guys may want to look into some counceling. This arrangment is not healthy at all.
2006-08-30 08:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that is definitely a fair arrangement. That way both of your needs are met. But what happens if he stops looking at porn. Then what?
2006-08-30 08:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's looking at porn more than he's having sex with you (and you are, in fact, willing to have sex) then he has an addiction to porn and should get help. Search the net for resources-- there are Pornography Anonymous sites, just as there are Alcoholics Anynomous sites.
2006-08-30 08:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds more like a bandaid solution. If he is ignoring your needs (this is the impression I'm left with) to look at porn you both need to find out and solve the real issues. That wont make them go away.
2006-08-30 08:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and if I were you, I'd encourage him to look at porn more often. I know I am going to catch a lot of flack for saying this, but when our husbands/boyfriends start looking at porn, they enjoy it and before we know it, they get addicted to it and we are left out in the satisfaction aspect of sexual enjoyment. Which leaves us very cranky at times. I whole heartedly agree with this..in fact...me and the hubby may have a little discussion tonight!
2006-08-30 08:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds goofy to me. My hubby and I have sex when we want we watch porn when the urge hits. Whatever if it works 4 you I would be angry only getting it 4 times a month!
2006-08-30 08:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow you have a healthy relationship there. You might want to think about how much he respects you as a person. Deep down in your gut do you think he does? I don't think so. He should want to make love to you because it is YOU. Not because he GETS to look at porn.
2006-08-30 08:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by BadAdvice 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be looking at porn in the first place dumb dumb. If you have to make this type of deal with your husband you have low self esteem. You husband should come to you eagerly and willingly when it comes to sex. Why don't you focus on his addiction to porn and get some help for your marriage. Why are settling for this crap? You need your head checked. If u have to play second to porn then he is basically cheating on you.
2006-08-30 08:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Why have someone else be in control of your sex? If you want it and aopproch him and he turns you down, don't kid your self and think it is because of porn.
2006-08-30 08:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by cindy s 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋