My wife and I had yet another fight this morning, after waking up so happily. It seems like whenever things start to go well in our relationship, she wants to destroy it. She has some problems, both physical and emotional; it seems like I spend all my energy propping her up and all she does is wanting to cut me down. She tells my step kids I'm stupid or uncaring but I spend every cent I make, cook and clean the house, and all she does is complain, or scream, or cry. I gave up a great job in a fabulous city to move to where she lives because she can't because of her kids and I hate it here. I can't stand this city, I can't stand my job, and now I can't stand my step kids or my wife. We have all our money in the new house and car we just bought. The company I work for is on the verge of bankruptcy. I'm over-extended financially, all because of this "woman". This morning was the last straw. I'm at a point now where I would prefer the street than put up with her another minute!!!
2006-08-30 07:59:51 · 14 answers · asked by Deeno 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, my friend, I was there about 18 months ago. It actually sounds almost exactly the same as me too.
I put what I could get in my car and left. I felt better as soon as I finished packing the car. I could breathe again. The money thing really sucks still, it cost me everything from a financial standpoint.
Now, I have a smokin hot girlfriend, and I know she don't want money cuz she knows I'm broke, and am going back to college at 39 years old.
Good luck my brother! It gets better!
2006-08-30 08:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wish I could find a guy like you!!!! Your problems aren't just because of this "woman", you make your own decisions and you are your own man,,step up and take control of your progress as a man. She can't step on you if you don't let her.However you did marry her and you knew her problems before hand,,you all need therapy,,sometimes it works n sometimes it dosen't,,you will not know if you don't try. It will make you feel better to tell her your feelings anyway,,maybe get some insight on her fellings as well.good luck and have a better week.
2006-08-30 08:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by sonya w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could be depressed and need help. If she refuses then there is not anything else you can do. at least you tried.
talk to her about therapy... you can look online for some or call your local health center for information about the student therapist... much cheaper. and even then she may need meds.
but if she refuses all of the above again there wont be anything left for you to do. and you should walk.... no one deserves such harsh treatment.
2006-08-30 08:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by becca_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is too big for a Blog site. Your decision, whatever it is, is going to effect your life, your wife's life and your stepchildren's lives. I believe getting professional help is the most honouring thing to do.
2006-08-30 08:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE BEEN THERE BEFORE AND MY GUESS IS SHE IS NOT HAPPY EITHER TRY SITTING DOWN AND TALKING ABOUT IT AND IF THAT DONT WORK DO WHAT I DID HAVE HER SERVIED WITH DIVORCE PAPERS AND REMOVED FROM THE HOME OR YOU CAN JUST FILE FOR THE DIVORCE AND LEAVE
2006-08-30 08:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by preciousprincess1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are burned out,please get some counseling for yourself and her.i know where you are because i was there at one time in my life.dont give up,but she has got to be willing to get help to for this to work.
2006-08-30 08:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to end your marriage. I knew when it was time to end mine. I suspect you do to. Anyone who calls you stupid does not respect you.
2006-08-30 08:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by BadAdvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You KNOW what you have to do....now, muster up the courage and do it! Best of luck to you, i know it's not easy.
2006-08-30 08:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure out how long you've been with her - then subtract one day - that's how much too long you've been there. Go. Now.
2006-08-30 08:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by mxzptlk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need or permission to leave your wife?
OK ...roger that.
2006-08-30 08:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋