yesterday i went to the hospital and they said im going to have a miscarriage...?

Question

this is such a sad time, i lost my brother on july10th to suicide,and now my baby im going to lose. does anyone know how long it takes to have a miscarriage and around how namy days it lasts????i was 12 weeks along...they said the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks...i need help...and how long afterwards should i wait to try again....

is there something i could have done wrong to prevent it next time, i tried hard took my vitamins didnt drink cafiene, i really thought the baby was ok!!!

i was bleeding red blood lastnight but it didnt lastlong now im back to bleeding light pink, im just confused and dont want to get my hopes up

Answer 1

I'm so sad for you- the very same thing happened to me. I was offered a D&C at the time, but i opted to go home and wait. It took 3 weeks after that and was like a really bad period- very bad cramping fora couple of hours, followed by a LOT of blood all of a sudden. There was nothing remotely recognisable, just like a period, and after the initial big lot of blood, it was just exactly the same as a period in length etc. I was glad to not have to have an op.

I was asked to come in for a scan after that to make sure everything was gone (if any remains it can get infected). You should wait for 3 months to let your body recover, and a chance to get regular again.

Good luck, it does get easier with time

PS I now have a bouncing boy.

PPS, this is NOT something you did or didn't do. Unfortunately 1 in 3 end this way.

Answer 2

As u r just 12 week pregnant a miscarriage so early wont be that painful unless u deliver it naturally. also the bleeding after-wards is just like u have normal periods and it should last for 2 weeks usually. But make sure the hospital is right!!! go see 2 or 3 more gyn/obs and then make ur decision after full satisfaction. I hope everything goes well for u...best of luck!

Just remember one thing even if u have this miscarriage it wont end ur life. i've had one miscarriage and one pre-mature delivery ending in the death of my one week old baby. but i'm still hopeful and know that someday God will give me a healthy baby.

the day my baby died someone told me a truth that these unborn children are the keys to heaven for their mothers. as these babies are angels who have never done any sin so they are bound to go to the heaven...but on the Day of Justice when these babies will be sent to the heaven they will insist to enter with their mothers only. these children will hold the hands of their mothers and take them into the heaven. I'm not sure all this is right or not but it really did help me overcome my grief. now i tease my husband saying that i have got two keys to heaven...i will enter it anyway what would happen to you :)

So keep the spirits high...coz there is always a next time. But i still pray to god that u complete this pregnancy and have a healthy baby. GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

First, let me say, I am sorry for your loss. I had the same problem a few years ago. To be honest, it could happen at anytime and anywhere. Be prepared to spend a lot of time in the bathroom. Get some sanitary pads as tampons are out of the question. It will hurt, sometimes quite alot. Get some Tylenol or Advil handy. Have someone there to hold you when you cry and give you some hot tea when you need it. I would wait 2-3 cycles before trying again. Give your body a chance to recover.

Answer 4

i went for a scan when i was 20 weeks and i was told the baby was only the size of a 16 week baby so they assumed that my baby died at around 16 weeks. i wasnt aloud to go home, i had to go to the hospital the next day and take a tablet to stop the blood from being passed into the placenta and then 3 days later i had to go back into hospital to have my ladour induced. its was the worst time of my life. i am so sorry to hear about your loss. im not sure when you will start to miscarriage, but what i can say is wait untill you have your next period and then after that you should try. thats what me and my partner are doing. we lost ours in june 2006 and we are still trying now. it might take longer for you this time to fall pregnant but it will happen when your ready. just be strong and dont give up.

Answer 5

i recently had a misscarriage at 31/2 months i was so excited my appt was ok except that they couldnt hear a heart beat so they sent me to have a ultra sound and well.....there was no baby just the fetus sac but no baby im still devistated this recently happened on july 11th 2006 its so hard 4 me. i told my doctor i didnt want to wait so i said i wanted the d&c done and two days later i had it done. it feels awful to go through any kind of misscarriage its at a lost for words. i felt so empty and that when i got out the hospital that it felt that working was useless and it left me feeling like i could never have a child again....its hurts so bad to see infants or pregnant people walking around... i just start crying to my fiance...my best friend was pregnant with me she was due this month... that hurt me too im not jelous just heart broken when i held him hopeing that onee day soon i was to have one of my own all i did was ball my eyes when i held him 4 the very first time... and you know what what makes me try and forget that all this happened is that my bestfriend had her wonnderful 8.4oz baby boy on my 20th birthday to me thats a mirical from god telling me that my times near and that i deserve the one i should of had.....im crying writting this......i was suppose to be due febuary 11th 2007 i hope this helps alittle and i always try to think that theres someone out there that has it worst then me.. like my aunt who cant have kids. but keep ur head up and ill do the same. me and my fiance will be trying for another child soon. if you need to talk feel free to e-mail me anytime i wish you good luck hun.

Answer 6

When you feel ready. Some people feel better trying again right away so when they do get pregnant again it takes away some of the pain you feel from your loss. Im really sorry to hear about this, and your brother, im sure its really hard but try and hang in there. Things always get better. If you need someone to talk to you can message me on yahoo with this address or email me [e-mail]

Answer 7

WAIT!!!! Why did you go to the hospital? I was 9 weeks pregnant with my current pregnancy and started bleeding. I went to the ER, and they told me I was having a miscarriage. I am now 36 weeks pregnant. Hmmm.... hospitals do not know what they are talking about. Go see a OB/GYN and find out before you get yourself all stressed out.

Answer 8

Oh, I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I realize that the waiting now will be the hardest part for you. My heart just hurts for you and I will think of you - part of the Answers family. Just in addition, these things really sometimes happen for no reason - I'm sure you did nothing to cause it.

Answer 9

Miscarriages take but 1 or 2 days - you may enounter labor pains as you "deliver" whatever is left.

Wait about 6-12 weeks before trying again.

You have my deepest regrets.

Answer 10

Sorry to hear about your loss. You should check with your doctor about how long it takes to miscarry... I would think they would have done a D & C so you wouldn't have to go through all of this seeing as you should have one after you miscarry anyway.

As for conceiving again you probably should wait a good 3 to 6 months or again check with your doctor and go with her/his recommendations. It takes your body some time to heal itself and for your hormones to get straighted out again.

Give yourself some time to heal physically, mentally & emotionally.

Good luck & God Bless...