I just got an invite to speand a weekend in Paris with this older (not too old for me) man. If I am honest, what attracts me most is his stability and income. If I go, I am moving things in a serious direction. Am I wrong to think of what he could do for me? Should I hold out for true love instead?
2006-08-30 07:36:03 · 35 answers · asked by Isis 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Security at all times - the old guy wont mind if you stray - just dont wave it in his face - be discreet - but always make sure you keep the old guy smiling every now & then...
2006-08-30 07:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your defenition of "true love"? Love is only as true as you perceive it. If you think that there's a possibility that you might develop a romantic relationship with this man - go for it. If for whatever reason you feel that you could never be attracted to him long-term and be around him for very long - be honest, and decline. What does your gut feeling tell you? Love can develop out of mutual interest and respect, it's not some magical thing that is either there from the start, or not. From the way you asked this question, it seems that you feel accepting the invitation would commit you to more than you're ready to commit to right now. In this light, perhaps it's better to not go on this trip - but it doesn't mean that you have to burn bridges with this person. Security and love are not mutually exclusive.
2006-08-30 07:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that it is just the stabililty and income that attracts you to this man. I would go to Paris with him and see how you feel about him after this..... but do not stay with him if you don't think you could ever trulylove him...
Love is far more important than stability... but if you can have both then you're laughing!
2006-08-30 09:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot live alone on fresh-air and love. Go for it. Money gives you choices and freedom. Don't listen to all the nonsense about money not being able to buy you happiness, it may not, but there's the fun of trying. With stability there is trust and certainty, a positive energy to bring you closer to your older man. Who knows you may fall in love with him? Have a great weekend and avoid the dog poo!
2006-08-30 07:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Security is a great thing but if you don't love him for things other than his stability and income, than hold out for true love. Because, if you marry this man only for the security; in the end you'll end up lonely and neglected.
2006-08-30 07:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey are you crazy go for it, ive had men come and go all my life Ive yet to find the one and fall in love ,if I had an offer like that Id take his hand off.No way are you wrong or immoral to think what you can get out of it,love for another person sometimes is not instant but can grow from the loving and caring things that they do for you.If you dont want him babes theres a hell of a lot of women out there who would snap him up tonight.Go get him!
2006-08-30 11:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Security and love,both are very important. If you go to Paris,yes,you will have a good time.But what is really gonna happen after?Materials things and money, will not make you never really happy,if you have not love.But together,yes,of course.You can have a man with good stability and income,that is necessary and good.But if there is not love,remember: that relationship can finish anytime,if he discover that you do not love him.you need to have both: security and love.Good luck.
2006-08-30 07:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True Love
2006-08-30 07:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with going for security unless you have no feelings for this gentleman at all. You may want to go on this trip as a means of finding out if there might be a chance for additional feelings towards this man aside from his financial portfolio.
2006-08-30 07:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by big_dreamer2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant you spend time getting to know him and see if you fall in love? We are all attracted to people for different reasons its what makes us date them and get to know them in the first place. There are worst reasons to be attracted to someone. Why not make it clear to him that you want to get to know him but make no promises. Have some fun, if he really likes you he will give you time. If hes not willing to do so hes not worth it. My husband respected that when i first started seeing him i was in a bad place and couldnt offer any promises, we slowly got to know eachother and now are madly in love. We got married last year. Good luck x
2006-08-30 08:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are able to go,go you might find out you really like this man, it dosent hurt to get spoilt once in a while, just remenber you can't bet true love, good luck, its a hard question, its really what you wont out of life, and i think that because you asked the question, you really already know.........
2006-08-30 07:47:04 · answer #11 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋