My two best friends hate each other. And one of them talks bad about the other. I can't go anywhere with out one being mad and one complaining about the other.(P.S. the one that complains is named bookworm and the other is peanut)
2006-08-30 07:35:48 · 21 answers · asked by Hamster lover! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well, keep bookworm and peanut separated. if you go out, go separately. they obviously don't want to be together. you could try to settle their differences, but that might be hard to do. if could turn out that they could be the best of friends, but it is a horrible position to be in when you are in the middle.
2006-08-30 07:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Regine R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is a very touchy thing but if it is handled fright a wonderful thing. I think you need to tell these Lady's that this thing between them is hurting you and that it need to stop. You love them both just not together, and if this does not stop you are going to have to do things with them separately! And that if either says anything about the other to you you will not be happy with them. Friendship is supposed to make you happy not sad. Good luck. Even if you come out of this with only one friend left It will be a happy friendship with out all the crap.
2006-08-30 08:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sighs,....
They aren't really friends,... they are your friends, but they don't hang out with each other when you're not around.
They are more like adversaries, each other's rival. Either they will eventually grow up and get over their differences or they will go their own seperate ways, whether or not you are still their friend.
We can't always have a friendship with everyone in the world. The reality is that we each are different in our own way, sometimes individuals can not get along with other individuals.
Its just the way life is.
We don't live in a perfect world.
2006-08-30 07:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by somber_pieces 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship isn't supposed to be cruel because if its cruel it isn't friendship.
As far as your friends go, tell each of them that you don't want either of them to talk about the other while they're with you. Talk about other stuff but not the other friends. Just tell them that you are friends with both and don't want to talk about, or hear talk about, the other friend. The only way to stop bad talk is to tell people you don't want to hear it.
If you do this it will make you a better friend to both of them.
2006-08-30 07:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you need to tell each friend that you dont want to hear bad stuff about the other one... Explain to each of them that you feel like your in the middle because they both come to you to talk **** on one another! Tell them if they have something to say about your friend then to go to them with it not to you!!!
2006-08-30 07:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation before. Of course I was walking in your shoes. I had one judge mental friend with all of her opinions and then I had the passive religious friend upset all the time about opinions. Well this was how I handled it. I dug so deep into my judge mental/opinionated friends butt until she thought I was going to cut out her hemorrhoids. She was wrong! I don't usually take sides but I did this time. I've known them both for years and I wasn't having it anymore!
Moral of the story: If the situation is working your nerves girlfriend, you know right from wrong, get in one a*s, get in both a*s*s, but get them off your nerves. Then after you put them in their place, tell them you love them both!
2006-08-30 07:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have alot of friends like that. Some of them I have dumped and the others have learned to behave. I let them know quiet clearly that they need to be nice to each other when around me or they dont get to hang out with me at all.
2006-08-30 07:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're gonna have to lay down some ground rules- are they fighting because they're jealous of the relationship the other has with you?
Sit down, get them to talk- and if they won't talk point out to them they argue and fight enough that shows they DO care- true hatred isn't fighting, true hatred is ignoring someone
2006-08-30 07:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them while you are out with one or the other, that you don't care to talk about them and hear the slander. Maybe they aren't friends, but you like them both. Remind them that friends, don't say ugly things , about friends and you don't want to be any part of it. If they truly are your friends and want to be around you, they will respect your wishes.
2006-08-30 07:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a cruel harsh world now. Do not be put in the middle of their problems. In other words, make it clear to both of them that you are not involved and will not be put in the middle to take sides or pass on messages. That is their problem. Do not make it yours as well.
2006-08-30 07:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋