Is it bad to sleep at a FREIND's house of the opposite sex, when ur mad at ur spouse?

Question

Just a freind only!!! If yes, why and if no, then why???

Answer 1

The optics of that are sooo bad. That's like pouring gas on a fire. There's enough anger and hurt feelings....why complicate the situation more by doing that???

Answer 2

Yes it's bad!
It does nothing else but make your spouse wonder and second guess you and you'll loss their trust, why put such strain on the marriage if there is nothing really going on, it's just a childish head game that shouldn't be play'd, it's mean and not the mature way to handle an arguement. There isn't a friend of the same sex to go stay with and why leave and spend the night elsewhere, you're married try working it out or go to a different part of the house till each of you cool down! Be in control of arguments don't allow them to get out of hand!

Answer 3

Yes, because when a couple has an argument, sure, there's anger, but there's also insecurity. Staying with a friend of the opposite sex will increase the insecurity.

However, you shouldn't even be asking this question. You shouldn't leave your house at all when you're angry. Learn communication skills, and talk out your problems. If you're both too angry to talk, just be OK with silence for a few hours or even a day or two. It's better to stay together, and at least try to resolve your problems like adults, than to go off in a huff like a little kid.

Answer 4

Yes it is a bad idea. Rather than take the difficult road which would mean working through your anger, people sometimes choose to run to their friends for sympathy. Your wedding vows probably didn't say "For better or better", so this means that in hard times you should be able to talk to the one you love regardless if you're mad or not. Next thing you know, you might be using the "one thing led to another" excuse. Don't even put yourself in that situation. For better or worse, he's your husband. Deal with it! Will your "friend" only see you as a friend when you are crying and vulnerable? Will you see your "friend" as such or will the setting be perfect for a touch on the shoulder, a hug, and then...oops, you are kissing!

Answer 5

Yes because it's just adding more wood to the fire even if you weren't fighting about infidelity. Your spouse might think that you were mad enough to sleep with someone else (your friend of the opposite sex)

I wouldn't do it. It would just make things worse.

Answer 6

Absolutely. If my husband and I had an argument and I decided to sleep at a male friend's house, I would have a bigger problem when I finally came home and vice versa.

Even if it's just a friend, that is the last place you should be spending the night. Go home and talk to your husband.

Answer 7

IT'S WRONG! No matter what your vows says for better or for worse. You both just need to sleep in different beds for the night and leave each other alone for the night than talk about it the next day. My husband slept at a "friends" when we fought and he slept with her every time. It can create alot of issues such as suspicion, fear, hurt feelings, and mistrust.

Answer 8

Its going to depend on whether your spouse knows them or not. And how he feels about that person in the first place. If your husband hates the guy then why go and make things worse for you two. If your man likes the guy and knows that nothing would happen anyways, then sure go for it.

Answer 9

I think it's disrespectful, even if its "just a friend". Personally, I wouldnt do it. I would go by a girl friends house if the situation was just THAT bad. If not, stay home and try to fix the problem. On the flipside -- I know that if my man went to spend the night at some girl's house, who is supposedly, just a friend -- I wouldnt have that s***. =)

Answer 10

I think that it's a bad idea because you are vulnerable and anything could happen. I strongly believe that men and women to do not mix. The best thing to do is go to a relative house, when your on a situation like that...