My friend is in a relationship with a guy that is a big loser. She is starting to become one as well.. she already has 2 kids by 2 different dads. My friend is talking about moving into this guys RV!!! Her sister and I know she is too stubborn to listen to us so we think it is best if we can get him to break up with her.. any ideas???
2006-08-30 07:26:14 · 9 answers · asked by Bell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She has already had other chances to make good choices, she hasnt. Would a real friend sit back and watch her make another bad choice??? I would risk our friendship trying to help than to not do anything at all.
2006-08-30 08:00:12 · update #1
***Okay, people...I'm the sister!! READ THIS!! He's a big fat looser because he does drugs & brings them into my home, where I have a son. I've been supporting my sister for 8 months & now that this leech has come into her life I'm supporting him too. She's already lost custody of one child due to bad choices & my friend and I refuse to sit back & watch her loose her daughter too. We will intervene, we just need advise on how to go about it. Thanks.
2006-08-30 07:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't break some one up. I think people should be allowed to make their own choices in life. and live with the consequences.
OK sister I understand your frustration and concern. Sorry to say I stand by my answer. Her actions actions more than his say that it is pointless to try. I guarantee you it will not do one bit of good. If she is as bad a mother as you say then for the sake of the child she needs to lose them. If you are allowing her boy friend to bring drugs into "your home" and you are "supporting him" that's your fault. It's called enabling. Fortunately, that you can do something about.
2006-08-30 07:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. how long have you known her? and if you help her, will it offend her? id personally wanna know if i was messing up my life, but some people dont wanna know...mostly likely if shes come this far (having two kids w/two dads) shes gone too far.. have you talked to her about the first two goofs? if you have already, leave it alone, if not, say something. Gently. You could talk about how roomy RV's are and act like youre on her side, if she is totally set on this, and how RV's are a great investment, perhaps better than a house. lol.
most people dont wanna be judged. i prefer to just let people be b/c thats what will make them happy, not to mention all that energy spent on trying to convince people of something they will be shocked to believe, well. you see what i mean. its pointless, frustrating, and ive lost friends trying to save them from their stupid mistakes and lives. the only life you can control is your own.
i have this former friend who i thought i could be honest with, but apparently i cant, hes recently started freaking out when i tell him something ive noticed. its funny, he feels its okay for him to be a busybody but if i, as his f riend, say something about his life, he flips out. drama king, LOSER
well....reading Kristins response on here...........if you really want to intervene, you have to think before you attack, write a list of reasons hes a loser and how she could do better. you have to have a very strong convincing thing for her to follow b/c your friend sounds like a dumbbutt...
2006-08-30 08:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by california gurlie poo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. Why do you think he's a loser? Maybe she sees something in him that other's can't see. But anywho, it's her life, the only thing you could do is support her in her decisions in life, if you can't do that, then just accept the fact that she wants to be with this guy.
2006-08-30 07:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. If you do what you want to do, she'll resent you for messing up her life. Let her learn from her mistakes (if she REALLY is making one) and be there for her to help her pick up the pieces afterwards (without the I-told-you-so). Who knows?.....they may actually make it work
2006-08-30 07:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by LoneWolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just really try to scare him off the best way you know how like telling him lies about his girlfriend saying she's a maniac or schizophranic or something whatever works!
2006-08-30 07:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by lacy_gllsp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is her life,let her be,she will open her eyes in due times
2006-08-30 07:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her learn on her own.
2006-08-30 07:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's her life, all you can do is be by her side and be supportive. and PRAY for her!
2006-08-30 07:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋