since Monday (father out of town working) I dont have a car (Im a sahmom) so places to go to are linited as the bus is just a nightmare and everything is an hour away on it. My husband will not buy me a car, and whenever I mention I need one he says "will see what happens" what the hell does that mean?
He has a fancy newer truck so I dont think its fair that I dont have a car, he makes over a hundred grand yearly as well.
I am with the kid way more than he is too.
I will be stuck at home until the weekend at least.
I dont have any friends (due to husbands jealousy and insecurity) so I cant even get someone over here.
BTW, kid is getting very whiny and bored after 3 days in the house.
2006-08-30 07:04:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im under 30 as well and feel like Im being treated as a child, I feel I do way more in this home than hubby does.
Sure he works, but I do as well, only I dont get paid for it.
I am getting pissed off esp, after finding out two of our "his" friends wives got new SUVs and luxury ones at that, yet I still ave too take the bus. Btw, why is the bus not good enough for him but me?
2006-08-30 07:12:06 · update #1
He doesnt rust me because all but one ex of his cheated on him, mind you he cheated on them as well. I feel like I am paying for what they did to him and Im sick of this ****. The one that didnt cheat on him was scitzophrenic, seriously.
I want a car and I know he can afford it.
We have been together for 3 years now.
Having a job will only add to the grief as he will constantly accuse me of cheating on him.
2006-08-30 07:15:22 · update #2
BTW, my family doesnt even live in the province so thats not an option.
2006-08-30 07:16:42 · update #3
And going for walks, Im sick of the scenery.
2006-08-30 07:18:27 · update #4
tell him you want a car or leave him
2006-08-30 07:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by snorfgoogle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when my husband drove truck over the road a few years ago and was gone for 3 weeks or more at a time, and I had a newborn and a 3 year old and never left the house. By the end of the 3 weeks, I really would go pull my hair out in the corner sometimes!! And my son would stop breathing at night, so I was going crazy. If he is physically abusive also, you might want to look into ending the relationship. There are places to help you. I'd try to have family come over and help when they can. I loved to use the internet as an escape when I couldn't leave the house. I have 3 kids now, so this part of my social life!! :)
2006-08-30 07:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a dealership without him and buy a car. If the money is in an account with both of your names then you have the right to use it. Explain to him you must have a car. If he still wont go and get you one then do it yourself. Call family, start seeing them more if you have family. Get on a bus and go buy a car. Dont buy a fancy expensive one, buy something average that can be paid off quickly. put the car in YOUR NAME ONLY, therefore he cant sell it or get rid of it cause it isn't his car. Even if you use "his" money to pay for it. Dont lease, buy a car (finance it). Or use cash (check) and buy a cheap used car if you dont want him to get really mad.
Make excuses like you have to go to your child's doctor, your doctor, the dentist, etc. during the day when he is at work. Also explain you have to food shop and you have no friends to get a ride. Consider putting your child in day care for part of the day and getting a part time job doing anything to get out of the house and meet new people. If he starts getting physically abusive or his emotional abuse gets worse, consider leaving him or seeking counseling.
2006-08-30 07:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he wont get you a car because he wants you stuck at home so he can know where you at all the time!! There is a trust issuse here and it seems like he wants control of you!! I say that you need to leave but you not want to hear that just talk to him and let him know that you need a car that it is not fair and if it dont work you got to go it seems like your not happy and thats not right! Good luck
2006-08-30 07:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by onesexyg18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a marriage, you are living with a control freak. I say stand up for yourself. If he won't get you a car then spend his money on taxi or busses. Get out. You are not in a prison, you can come and go, if you really want to. He will just have to learn to accept it. Also, you need time to yourself. So when you take the taxi, drop the baby off with someone or a daycare and have time to yourself. Good luck to you.
2006-08-30 07:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put the kid in a carriage and go for a walk, no matter what you need to get out of the house once in a while. take an online class, get some good books, dont just mope around feeling sorry for yourself...and seriously consider how much of this you are willing to put up with. what ever you do dont have anymore kids until you figure out if your going to live like this or not. dont panic just plan...look for the best interest of you and your child.
2006-08-30 07:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep your husband sounds controling, Not Good! Don't live your life in a controling relationship..Your son will grow uo and also be controling.. Please enjoy the time you have with your son, they grow up so fast and they are so precious. They are the greatest gift from god..I had a husband like that too..18 years, Intimidated me to the point I was afraid to leave..I wasnt allowed to have friends or visit my sister or my mother when she was alive.. Then one day I woke up asked myself Lifes to short, is this the life I want? good luck to you
2006-08-30 07:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your husband is very jealous and possessive, and feels that if he buys you a car, it will allow you freedom and limit his control over you. Sit down with him and tell him how you feel and explain to him that he can buy you a car to let you out of the house or he can kiss your *** goodbye as you are walking to the bus to leave him! He sounds like a real jerk!
2006-08-30 07:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what it's like to be at home with a 20 month old. he's being controlling and selfish. he obiviously has the means to get a new car. he wants to know that you will be home. he has trust issuses. he needs to understand what you are going through. talk to him. if he still doesn't get it, leave.
2006-08-30 07:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by nikared69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister~ I dont know if you are christian but the Bible says that Husbands are to love their wives as themselves. As their own bodies. Not merely provide for you, but love and nourish and cherish you. If you are not feeling that, you have every right to share that with him and he should at least listen. The final decision is ultimately up to him though as the Head. If you are a christian and your husband does not receive what you say, give it to God in prayer and remain obedient to your husband's wishes. God will honor your obedience and work on your husband's misconception of headship. As for your son, children dont need much to entertain them. A walk around the block will thrill him and tucker him out too...Be encouraged.
God Bless you and keep you...
2006-08-30 07:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, i dont think the car is the issue here. Obviously your husband has control issues and doesnt want you to leave the house.........You need to work this out with your husband, this isnt good. Talk to him (not about the car) but about trust and find out why he doesnt trust you.
2006-08-30 07:10:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋