One of my "friends" keeps buggin my girlfriend. He works with her and whenever she isn't there he texts her asking if only she wants to go out to lunch or dinner with him.....he just askes her, doesnt even mention my name. And one time he texted her in the morning asking if she wanted him to bring her breakfast and then a bout an hour later asked if she wanted to go with him to the gym to shoot hoops. One time when me, my girl, him and HIS WIFE and one of my friends went out to dinner and when we were walking out he pretended to smack her *** in front of my friend and of course my friend told me about it. And another time my girlfriend told me at work that one time they were talking about something and she said "yea it looks good" and he goes under his breath....you look good....and just walked away. He flirts with her all the time in front of me whenever we all hang out too. I need a plan to catch him in the act so i have solid proof of what he is trying to do....help me out
2006-08-30 07:04:48 · 4 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow. Am I seeing what I am reading? First of all your girlfriend needs to nip this clown in the bud PRONTO. He should not be texing her and asking her if she wants to go out to lunch or dinner or texing her to ask if she wants breakfast he should be texing his wife and asking her that. I just don't understand why your girlfriend didn't put homeboy in check from the jump? I take it that she is telling you when he is texting her and telling you the things he is saying to her. That is good that she is being honest with you, but lets cutt the games here either she is going to keep playing you to friends againist one another or she is going to stand by her man (you) and say "look playa I love my man and you are disrespecting him by talking to me like that so you need to check ya self and step" If she stops waranting these unwanted advances then they will stop. Obviously your girl is letting him think that this is accepatable behavior.
As for you and your friend after your girl putts him in his rightful place, you need to do the same. Don't let him get away with disrespecting you and your girl. That is exactly what he is doing his is disrespecting you and taking your friendship for granted.
I also feel that he is jealous of you and it validates his ego to know that he can get at your girl. He is trying to breakup you and your girlfriend and he probally doesn't even want your girlfriend, but he is getting a rise out of flirting with her and making her feel uncomfortable. Not to mention if he is making sly remarks to her at work that is called sexual harrassment.
As for cathing him in the act. Sorry honey but you already have. How much more proof do you need? You said he flirts with her right in front of you. Oh my God, if that was my man, and one of his friends disrespected me and him like that right in front of his face his friend would be in shock trama, on life support and he would make sure all his meals for the rest of his life would be sipped through a straw.
On a serious note you need to take a step back and look deeper into the situation and see if you really need this guy as a friend because he is not your friend a friend would not go for his friends girl behind his back.
Hang in there and good luck.
2006-08-30 07:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to come over and than leave him with your girl and spy on them and than catch him.
2006-08-30 07:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a little b*tch and be a man about it. Confront him to his face you mary
2006-08-30 07:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a man, are you insecure or something? You should be dating numerous women
2006-08-30 07:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋