my boyfriend play video games all day long how can i make him pay more attention to me?

Question

we have a baby that is a one old and he don't pay us any mind it makes me mad. he didn't games like that befor we had her.

Answer 1

You really need to let your boyfriend know in no uncertain terms that it's either his video games or you and your daughter, and follow through with that ultimatum. It sounds like your boyfriend may be using the video games as a way to escape the reality he's created for himself (i.e. having a daughter). It's obvious that he's not ready to be a parent. So regardless if whether or not he discontinues playing the video games, I would suggest you leave him, for the sake of yourself and your daughter. He's not going to change or grow up. He'll just move on to another distraction. Do yourself a favor and leave him and move on. I promise you, if you think with your heart and not with your head on this one, you'll end up hurt and disappointed, plus your daughter deserves A LOT more than a deadbeat dad. Good luck, love!

Answer 2

Don't do the threaten him with the love or games dilemma. Make an effort to try to play games with him, that is one thing you could do. Games are kind of a guy thing, like shopping is for girls. But communication is key, you can't simply stand there and let your prospects of a future run away like a fly out of a window. Good luck, but to be quite honest.. if you're pregnant and he's ignoring you. That's pretty irresponsible.. =)

Answer 3

I have the same problem however our son is 2 mos old. He played before he was born but I thought that things would change....i talk to him about it and he will change his ways for a couple days, but its like an addiction I think and he just can't stop. I am at a loss just like you, and I don't know what you can do but continue to bring it to his attention that he is playing that video game like a part time job...my husband is addicted to World of Warcraft....

Answer 4

My boyfriend isn't as bad as yours but there are times when I wish he would pay attention to me rather than his XBox. On Sunday night we got in from visiting his folks and he went straight for the XBox, so I did my own thing - tried to ignore him and not pay attention to his game at all - and wouldn't you know I found him asking where i was and how i was doing?! I mean, i was right in the apartment with him, but you could always go for a walk with you baby and dont' tell him where you're going, and then when he calls you on the phone you can tell him to it straight!!!

Answer 5

try playing the games with him. seriously. he cant ignore u if u are playing the video games with him. he has to stop to eat, pee, go to work (if he's employed) sometime. no one plays video games 24hrs a day. be there when he's finished. if you played with him, he will be more receptive to hear what you have to say since u just spend time being his friend as oppose to ¨nagging¨ him as he may have felt you were doing before.

Answer 6

People play video games to escape reality. Sometimes it's OK, but it seems that he's not happy with how his life is going. Talk to him about it. Find out what makes him unhappy.

Answer 7

buy him a few games than he will pay atention to u make sure u get the games 4 the right sysyem tho i h8 when i hey like x-box games and i only have psp ps2 and ps1 (im a big ps fan lol)








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Answer 8

Are you paying attention to him? sometimes guys want attention also, dont push him away when he comes to you. thats probably why hes playing video games cause hes lonely.

Answer 9

He's immature and selfish. Treat him like a little kid since that is what he is. Give him a couple hours a week to play his game uninterupted then demand he spend time with you.

Answer 10

Unless its interfering with his work or school or whatever it is he does, he has the right to a hobby and you need to back off. Maybe you need a hobby as well? There is no way he completely ignores you and the baby, but you cannot monopolize all of his time.