my dad is going to be having to go in the 6th of sep to get cancer removed for the 3rd time and i am really starting to get alittle scared about it! what it if comes back again? what if it gets worse? i really need a friend at the time-- and it really seemd like all my friends up here are just there for me when they need something! and i think thats a bunch of bullciht butttttttttt its life---- plz tell me what you think!
2006-08-30 06:37:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know exactly what you're going through right now. Except in my situation it was my grandmother. She had breast cancer. I know that it is hard to see a family member go through so much pain and never-ending treatment it seems like. The only advice I can give you is just to enjoy what time you have with your dad. I don't mean to sound so negative, but you have to look at both sides of the picture. Who knows, maybe everything will be fine and there won't be any cancer to worry about, but just in case, you should take advantage of this time. My grandma didn't have health insurance, so my family and I had to basically watch her get worse and worse as time passed. We had to deal wit the fact that there was nothing we could do to help her and of course, she eventually passed away. We knew that while she was around we had to make the most of it and we did. Now some of the best memories I have of her are from her last days. It saddens me to think about it now, but at the same time I like knowing that I have someone up there watching out for me and my family. It sounds like your dad is not a quitter either, especially since it sounds like he has had to do this more than once. Just be strong and try to except the situation no matter which way it ends up. I just always think to myself that people are better off after they pass. They are no longer dealing with the torture and they are set free in a way. I like to be happy for them rather than feel miserable for myself that they are no longer around for me to spend time with. People are somewhat selfish when it comes to loved ones passing, because they don't have them around physically anymore. Don't think of that way. Know that they are always around you later. Anyways, I hope all goes well for you and your dad. Keep a good spirit about the situation and your head up. Things will happen as they are meant to and you just have to keep that in mind even if it's not the plan you wanted. If you need to chat some more you can email me. Don't worry, I am sane! I'm 25 and have a family of my own. Sometimes I even need a shoulder to cry on too. My email address is: calaforte@yahoo.com
2006-08-30 07:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a whole long drawn out answer written out for you, but then I had to stop and think.... What type of cancer is it? Is it aggressive, is it not? There are a lot of variables that come with disease, and to give you the best advise, we really need to know a little bit more info. Until then, don't stress yourself out. Thinking about the what could be's won't get you anywhere except for a trip down breakdown lane.
I only have experience with esophageal, lung, kidney, lymph node, pancreatic, liver, colon, you know the BAD ones.
2006-08-30 14:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for u to feel scared, in the hospital where ur dad's going, see if they have an oncology unit. Ask for the social worker and she can link u with support groups for children or family of cancer patients. You can have a group that knows what u are going through....and some of them are survivors already..... You can also find books in the library that can help u deal with the fear u are feeling right now. Not all your friends can support you if they haven't experienced it in their life...but some friends can just be there to listen to you....Take care....
2006-08-30 13:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be scared.as well as perfectly normal. Is there any way you can talk to a school councillor, a minister if you attend church, actually you don't even have to belong to a church. What about community services? I believe you really need some one to be there for you. It will not change the problem but It will help you to cope,If all else fails phone up the first name of a minister in the first church in the phone book. At the very least he will put you in touch with proper help, and good luck to you
2006-08-30 13:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through but instead I had cancer!! I am all good and fine after the third time of surgery!! It is normal to be scared. Just make sure that you are there for him. And talk to him and let him know how you are feeling you Will feel much better!! Just pray and I will pray for you and him!! Just do not stress yourself out!! Everything will be OK!!
2006-08-30 13:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by onesexyg18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you are scared. That's understandable. Hopefully you father doesn't have the terminal kind. If you would like to talk you can feel free to contact me. My Dad has Hodgkin's Lymphoma and underwent chemotherapy for it. It is inoperable because of it's location behind the lung and breastplate. There are several good sites on the web and I talked with several very nice people who had the same disease and they helped me a lot. Good luck to your father, will be praying for him.
2006-08-30 13:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your father. I hope that everything goes okay with his surgery. I can't give you any sure answers concerning the cancer.
Most kids are very self absorded - and have not experienced real tragedy in their lives. It is hard for them to understand anything beyond themselves. It is times like this that we truly find out who our real friends are. You may have a friend in the place that you least expect it - someone that you may not be as close to - but has been through hardships like yourself. You are growing up before most of your friends - but there are kids that are just like you - you just have to find them.
2006-08-30 13:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by T W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look girl, i have no idea who you are but I'm here to talk to if you need me, as I'm sure others would do when they have the time. Anyway, I'm sure you are scared, who wouldn't be. All you can do is pray that everything will turn out OK and try to be strong for him. It will only upset him more to know how scared you are, and i know you don't want that. I know it is easier said than done, but try to stay strong and not show your fear to him. He really needs your positive attitude right now. good luck sweetie.........it will be OK.
2006-08-30 13:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a scary thing to deal with. It is hard because you need to be strong for you dad, family, and yourself. That's alot of pressure for you. However, it's normal to feel scared and cry. You just know that your dad loves you and you love him. There is not much more you can do. If it does come back, it's meant to be. I hope it doesn't, just understand that you can't do anything about it. Just love eachother while you still have one another. Enjoy eachother. God gives us joy for sorrow. He'll strengthen you!
2006-08-30 13:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cancer is scarey, i know i had to have a hysterectomy at 28 to get rid of ovarian and ceverical cancer. my dad had colon cancer and had it removed thank God it has not come back yet, say alot of prayers and if you just need a friend and want to talk email or im me zntnme@yahoo.com, i just moved to this area so i have no friends and it sucks being alone
2006-08-30 13:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋