What is the best way to know what someone REALLY means when they are talking to you?

Question

Body language is the one I already know,but what are the other ways?

Answer 1

Liars tend to move their arms, hands, and fingers less and blink less than people telling the truth do, and liars' voices can become more tense or high-pitched. The extra effort needed to remember what they've already said and to keep their stories consistent may cause liars to restrain their movements and fill their speech with pauses. People shading the truth tend to make fewer speech errors than truth tellers do, and they rarely backtrack to fill in forgotten or incorrect details.
. People who lie tend to avoid details in favor of bold facts. Liars tended to string together very simple actions. They tend to avoid details.
. Sadness is very hard to fake. When someone is genuinely sad, the forehead wrinkles with grief and the inner corners of the eyebrows are pulled up. By contrast, the lowering of the eyebrows associated with an angry scowl can be faked by almost everybody. If someone says they are sad and the inner corners of their eyebrows don't go up, they are likely faking it.

. People who are uncomfortable or lying often repeat the question you ask them.
. When we smile genuinely we move more than just our mouth, the orbicularis oculi, the muscle around the eye that gives us ‘crow's-feet’ also moves. Liars tend to just move their mouths. It takes only two muscles, the zygomaticus major muscles that extend from the cheekbones to the corners of the lips produce a grin.
. Liars may also feel fear and guilt or delight at fooling people. Such emotions can trigger a change in facial expression so brief that most observers never notice. These split-second "microexpressions." are emotional clues are as important as gestures, voice, and speech patterns in uncovering deceitfulness.
. Speech Pattern Changes. Liars may mispronounce words, mumble and take longer pauses between a question and a response than honest people. This happens because the liar is not sure where they’re going with the lie or might be having trouble following through with the lie.
. Looking down while talking may indicate someone is embarrassed or does not know.

. Fidgeting may indicate nervousness due to deception.

. Touching the face while talking may be a sign the person is uncomfortable or deceptive. The higher up on the face the worse the lie.

. Shifty Eyes. A liar often will not look you straight in the eye.
. Changing Pupils. A liars pupils may change in size. This happens because when under stress (e.g. lying), adrenaline is released causing the pupils to dilate. Enlarged pupils can also indicate attraction so don't forget always look for patterns of lying.
. Speech Pattern Changes. Liars may mispronounce words, mumble and take longer pauses between a question and a response than honest people. This happens because the liar may be hesitating before they make up a lie, or they are searing for a suitable lie that fits the occasion.
. Fidgeting. Tapping the fingers, nose scratching,, fake coughs and playing with something in their fingers could all be the signs discomfort and lying.
. Heavy breathing, sweating or tight jaw.
. Looking up while talking may indicate someone is lying.
. People who lie tend not to use pronouns like "I" or "me".
. If questioned enough liars often will not be able to remember the lies they have made up and will attack or leave before they are trapped.

. Liars are afraid of getting caught and they might feel guilty so they may express anger or storm around as a show to hide their anxiety. That way the anger or anxiety they show has reasonable explanation, besides the real one, which is - they are lying.

Answer 2

People who are nervous, anxious, have a social phobia or just don't know you or care about the conversation may have difficulty holding eye contact. Grilling people will make them uncomfortable, back away and break eye contact.
On the other hand practised liars often make a point of holding eye contact to cover the fact that they're lying!
The only way to tell what someone really means is to really listen. Ask appropriate questions if you need to.

Answer 3

The best way would be to put the person into a trance and make them tell you through hypnotherapy. It is amazing how much information people will volunteer while they're in a hypnotic trance - even when it could jeopardise their own success.

So...the next time you're talking to your boss just simply take out that pendulum of yours and start swinging it gently but deliberately before their eyes. Or turn on that hypnotic screensaver on your computer and just watch your boss slip into a hynotic daze. Then ask them all the questions you want. Easy.

Answer 4

Depends on culture-gender of person w/whom you are communicating. For example, in the middle eastern culture, eye contact between men and women are not kosher. Body language is one means, another one is voice inflection, facial expression, and cultural context.

Answer 5

sweating - people sweat when lying or under more stress. Most other things come under body language when speaking generally. You would need to study any particular individual in depth to discover other more personal habits.

Answer 6

Direct eye-to-eye contact. People will not hold your gaze if they are lying. Eye contact is very important in conversation (not sure if it's included in body language, though!)

Answer 7

Ask as many questions as you can, plus, they say if when talking the person looks to his left even if it was for a second it means he is lying.

Answer 8

the actual language

Answer 9

Watch for the pause and the shift, they're buying time to avoid saying what they really think and seeing what they can get away with.

Answer 10

Fact is if you don't get it, then you may not ever get it, so leave it alone. It's not you. It's that person. Sometimes people just don't make since and that's all there is to it.