I'm 33wks, she's 35 wks. We're both in not so good situations (I'm single w/ 2 jobs and worn out .. she's divorcing her husband that gave her an STD) But I'm trying to see the silver lining of my situation..but talking to her depresses me. I love my friend but at the same time I need to take into consideration that I cannot be depressed during my pregnancy. How do I slowly inch away from her without leaviing her with no one to talk to in her time of need?
2006-08-30 06:14:42 · 9 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Depression could be caused by her situation but it can also be hormonal. Instead of letting her get you down why don't you try to lift her up? Join a yoga class for pregnant mommies or share a banana split. It will life you both out of the blues.
2006-08-30 06:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Jordan B., If every time she calls you are just sooooo wrapped up in busy work that you don't get a chance to talk (or at least talk very much) she will get the hint that your not interested in talking to her. Also, do you have caller id? Check who's calling and skip taking as few calls.... if she asks why just tell her you were completely worn out (as I imagine you really are) and you were napping and didn't hear the phone! Good luck.. as a mother who works full time I know your gonna need it, fortunately for me I'm married to my daughter's father and he is an excellent help! But with the hard working ethic and determination you seem to have you and your baby will do VERY well!
2006-08-30 06:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by Princess Veronica's Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her about her negativity and maybe she will realize that if she doesn't change her attitude she might lose a great friend. But don't give up on her too easily. You will both have babies soon and things may become much more positive. Try not to cut her out completely.
Good luck and congrats on the baby!
2006-08-30 06:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You work 2 jobs, I'm suprised that you have much time available to visit. Use that as an excuse. If you have a regular schedule and she knows it then maybe you always need to be "in the middle of something"...cooking, laundry, cleaning, now that you are at the end you will want to be nesting.
2006-08-30 06:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by JordanB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question. I mean you could always change the subject when she brings these things up. Or tell her you have to go. Tell her you aren't feeling well and want to rest.
I know what you mean. Like on your day off you want to spend all your free time bull crapping on the phone about nonsense.
My best advice is to change the subject and if she keeps on after that...tell her you have to go somewhere.
2006-08-30 06:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with her about her negative attitude and tell her that she has her health and the health of her baby. You on the other hand need to take care of yourself. Tell her you understand she is going through a hard time, but that both of you need to focus on the babies you are carrying.
2006-08-30 06:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her shes an energy sucker...lol thats what i call them...tell her you love her alot but pregnancy is getting to you and you cant be around negitiviy all the time....tell her your doc said so then you pin it on someone else
2006-08-30 06:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by mommaof2girls&1onway 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
better to get away from there.
2006-08-30 06:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by shamrahulfan 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
why would you get pregnant if you are single? way to go... way to think of your baby's future.
why the hell are people so damn selfish? unreal.
2006-08-30 06:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by Rat P... 3 · 1⤊ 6⤋