ok i had ababy by the one i love i thought this was the one for me.well he tells me about a month ago that he cheated on me but then he didn't(meaning: he was only talking to the girl no sexual contact but was talking to get intimate) and i am no longer with him anymore and it's very hard for me to move on. i wanted my baby her father and i to have a happy little family but........he goes and do this and i dont put up with cheating because i feel that he thinks "o well, i did it once before and she took me back i can do it again and she's going to take me back because she loves me
2006-08-30 06:11:53 · 18 answers · asked by datgurlronda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And u r absolutely right. For evey action there is a reaction and he needs to feel the pain from his infidelity. 9 out of 10 he did cheat. So be strong ....pray....and love that baby with everything you got. Make him beg for you back...not the other way around..its hard but keep positive in your heart and positive people in your space and things will work out for the best either way. Ill put you in my prayers.....
2006-08-30 06:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by kinthomas72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of what little info I have been given, your bf may have been creating a force field around the two of you by coming clean that there was an event that might have lead to a sexual encounter but it didn't and you were the reason why. Other than this event, have there been any other negative issues that have arisen since your baby was born that says he couldn't be Mr. Right? I am a firm believer in honesty and communication. I've been married to my partner for the past 16 years. The more clear the picture, the better the ability to see what the subject matter is.
2006-08-30 13:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by jlsmith92104@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct in thinking that he will do this again sometime. You have taken the best steps for you and your baby. There are wonderful men out there who would love you and your baby as you deserve to be loved.
The thing about men is that you cannot judge them by their appearance. Just because a man is a 6 instead of a 9 doesn't mean he is not worth getting to know. You need to judge them by how they treat you and not how they look.
I have met so many wonderful men who would love to meet a lady with a child. They want families and want a lady who will be a devoted wife and mother. You just can't find these guys at bars and dance clubs. They are more mature than that. You meet them in chat rooms or even here on answers. You meet them on dating sites. Just be very careful about your selection.
2006-08-30 13:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats good that you decided to leave. You do not need that in your life. My daughters father and I are getting divorced but my me and her father split the time evenly between us. This way we are both in her life and she has a good relationship on both ends. I think the best thing you could do is stay civil with the childs father and still handle things as parents together. You can find another man who will make you happy and give you what you deserve, as well have a healthy realtionship between you, your child and her father. Good luck!
2006-08-30 13:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Take care of yourself, give your baby all the love you've got, love and respect yourself. Hopefully you have trusted friends and family who can support you through this hard time. Try to let go of the pain; there's still plenty of time for you to try a man who will treat you respectfully, and will make a great father for your child. Good luck.
2006-08-30 13:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it some time stay just friends for a while and see how everything works out if hes trying to get back with you and showing you that hes sorry then maybe he really means it and wont do it again
2006-08-30 13:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he was trying to get your attention with the other girl thing.Well I guess it back fired in his face and you to broke up. Since you broke up that gave him the right to be with anyone he wants. People makes mistakes, that what makes us human. If you want to try to salvage this, you better do it soon or their won't be anything to salvage. and your child will have two moms. Sounds like he will not wait around forever. Good luck and think about the whole picture and fast!!
2006-08-30 13:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by mdzevolveddammit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids change everything. That man regardless of his faults is the man that birthed your darling daughter and if he is removed from her life you are punishing her for his indescretion and your comfort. You can try to find a replacement for him to soften that blow but your daughter needs the best Mother and Father role models she can get in order to have any hope of raising a normal family for herself. You owe it to her to try to remain with her father and provide her a loving home
2006-08-30 13:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a good, trustworthy guy, believe it or not, they do exist, you just have to take the time and energy to find one that will tret you right.
2006-08-30 13:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by blinX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not accept unacceptable behavior! concentrate on your sweet little one,cuz something beautiful came from this union. Love will find you, when you least expect it. do not be desperate!!!
2006-08-30 13:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋