Thanks for all the response. But why do I feel so guilty?? I feel like I actually cheated on her. Is this normal? Does anybody else feel this way? By the way I think I should mention that we been married for 9 years now.
2006-08-30 06:04:56 · 17 answers · asked by hunting4u 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your fine...its all normal and I say you are a good man
2006-08-30 06:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by baseballmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world we wouldn't have these thoughts. But we live in a less than perfect world. It's natural to feel guilty...but you shouldn't. I think it's a problem if you're actually contemplating acting out on these fantasies. Then you would be in the wrong.
One piece of advice: If you don't think about acting out on them..do not tell you're wife that you have these fantasies. Things like this can hurt women's feelings. It makes some of us feel like we are less of a woman and you want something better!
2006-08-30 06:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 14:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by girardot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it is normal to feel bad, I feel bad just for looking at other women, but my partner kinda gets a kick out of it. Have you talke d to your wife about these fantasies that you have been haing, maybe if you actually tell her what you have been experiencing they either might go away or your wife might want to get into roleplaying....I am not trying to be perverted here, but try honesty, I think that is the glue of a relationship!!
2006-08-30 06:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by radioradioradio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you fantasize obsessively? Is it a compulsion you can't resist? If you're in control of your feelings and fantasies, you shouldn't feel guilty. You either feel that *any* fantasy is wrong (which is not a realistic view) - or, perhaps you feel like your fantasies are starting to control you. I don't know, just guessing. Believe me, it's not "wrong" to engage in fantasies every once in a while, everybody does that.
2006-08-30 06:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to get too "preachy" or anything but in the Bible God says having lust for another person other than your spouse, meaning if you are fantasizing about other people, then you have already committed adultery in your heart. Which is not actual "sex" but it's close enough to be considered bad. Be strong. If you love your wife, try to focus on her, not other women.
2006-08-30 06:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty because your conscious mind is conflicted with your animal instincts. Having fantasies is perfectly normal. Don't feel bad about. When you act on these fantasies then you have a real problem and should genuinely feel guilty.
2006-08-30 06:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its completly normal for a male to fantasize about other women. you have done it since you were little right? It just sucks for us women because we want you to only think about US when were with you not other gorgeous skinny blonde B****ES! Its nice to hear you feel guilty tho
2006-08-30 06:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by TEMPTRESS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest only a very good person would feel guilty... just shows how much you care about your wife.. like they said earlier fantasizing is very normal... it can actually help your love life... but i really think you need a vacation alone with her if you are over fantasizing... see how it works!!! might make you feel better.
Good luck to you :)
2006-08-30 06:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzywishes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, Hunter, then if you feel really really guilty about this and i agree that theres no harm in it, i think you are worried that you
may actually act on this. have you ever had thoughts like this before? if you did then you might have an issue. otherwise if this is new, then youre going to have to get over this.
2006-08-30 06:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be a sissy. This is regular long time married stuff. Dont think you can assuage your guilt by telling her, because it will only keep you from getting laid for a year. Then you can have any fantasy you want while you rough up your suspect.
2006-08-30 06:10:15 · answer #11 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋