Is it possible to hold a 4 mo. old baby too much, so that they always demand it ?

Answer 1

No, you can not hold a child too much. It's called fostering a sense of trust. Do you really want your child to come to believe you won't always be there for him/her. Hold them, hug them, snuggle them, and treasure this time because before you know it they won't want to be held by you at all. PS Ii's not spoiling, it creating a loving trusting, well-adjusted child.

Answer 2

Nope, totally impossible to hold a baby too much. I held my son for pretty much the whole first 5 mo of his life. Of course, I also had him doing tummy time probably once a day from the time he was about 2 months old, but tummy time is supposed to be supervised, so it's not like that was a real "break" for me. My son was high needs, so he really needed to be held. Well, he was crawling and sitting without support at 5 mo, cruising on the furnature at 7 mo, took his first steps at 9 mo, and was full on walking by 10 mo. So don't let anyone tell you that holding a baby "too much" will impede his motor development! lol He also started being able to play by himself for up to an hour at a time at 5 mo. He's 16 mo now and very healthy and intellegent. He goes to daycare about once a week and the workers there are always commenting on how well he's doing and how easy he is to take care of.

Answer 3

No. But parenting starts early you may not have time to sit and and hold a baby later on so get the baby use to being put down. It is so hard because they are so cute. Some babies require more time being held than others you have to learn how to tell the difference between a baby being spoiled or just needing extra attention. My son often demanded to be picked up frequently during his baby years and occasionally during his toddler years. He is now a well adjusted teen not spoiled one bit, and he still requires a hug every now and then.

Answer 4

You are gonna get a lot of flak for this one. The truth is it really depends on your baby. Some babies need more affection than others. But typically speaking its difficult to hold a four-month old "too much". Should you be holding him/her in their every waking moment? Probably not. Infants will cry when they need you. Even if its just because they're bored or want to see your face. Try spreading a blanket on the floor and surrounding it with toys, blocks, mirror, etc. To give your baby a chance to experience other things and to give his/her arms the chance to get ready for crawling. If you have it, use the bouncer, swing, etc.

Remember that as he/she gets older he/she will need room to grow. Which means you'll have to let go a little bit over time. You especially don't want to continue the holding habit after a year old because then you'll end up with a clingy toddler. But most importantly, do what's best for you and your baby.

Answer 5

OK...this question will forever be debatable -- but here is what I think. Let me first say: hold your baby as much as you like. You gave birth to him or her, so you can do what you want! But...

I feel a baby at 4 months can not necessarily be "spoiled", but I do believe that a baby can be "conditioned". Remember in Psychology class when we learned about "conditioning"? The pet owner rang the bell and put food under the dog's nose. The dog got used to the smell of food and connected it with the sound of the bell...so, everytime that bell rang the dog knew it was time to eat. Well, the owner was training his pet.

Now of course pets and babies are TOTALLY different, lol, and I would never compare the two, but I think that if you hold your baby all day, everyday, then you will condition him or her in wanting to be held all the time. She or He will begin to connect crying to being held...maybe, or maybe not...I am no specialist.

Like the other posters said, tummy time is important. Try that more. I wont encourage you not to hold your baby, b/c trust me, I hold mine every chance I get. But, I still allow her to sit on her own, give her tummy time, and all those other fun things that she can do on her own at 4 months.

Answer 6

Yes, definitely. Baby's after they are born seeks the warmth they were in all these time. Then suddenly they do not have that. That is one big reason smaller babies sleeps well swaddled. But eventually with time they learn the other way. That is the point to let them learn, slowly. If you hold the baby all the time or most of the time she or he will be used to that and will feel secured that way. But given the chance they will also learn to stay by them selves. Its not they will demand to be held but they will feel unsecured when they are not held the way they are used to. So given the time slowly a baby will learn to be by them selves for some amount of time.
My conclusion is "No you can not hold a baby too much. Babies are the thing to be held and cared for, there is nothing called too much for them. Slowly as they grow bigger they will need their space and you will need yours too. So hold them as long as you can and let them go when you think its time. You can not spoil a baby but you can only teach yourself and the baby in due time."

Answer 7

Hope you're ready for the fall out on this one.

I don't think a mother can hold her baby too much. At 4 months, baby should have a little floor or tummy time to try things out, like their legs and arms. If you want to hold baby, hold baby as much as you want.

Answer 8

Contrary to old-fashioned beliefs, you can not hold a newborn baby too much. It helps them feel secure and builds their trust in you. Four month old babies should NOT be held ALL the time as the mother or caregiver can not do anything else. Babies at four months should be given "floor-time" on their back and on their bellies. This enables them to explore and to develop abdominal muscles that will enable them to roll over and sit up and crawl in the near future. Also, "Boppy" pillows are good for helping babies in this manner. Bouncy seats are also great.

Answer 9

Yes and no. Too much is quite A LOT but younger babies need to be held to be shown love. And so they know that they are not alone. It's very comforting to them. But if you think it is too much try some other activities to help your baby learn to play on his or her own like tummy time with toys while you watch TV or putting your baby in a walker or play center.

Answer 10

It is not possible to spoil a baby that young! They need all of the love and attention that they can get. They will get attached to you and want held a lot, but if you have the time then what is wrong with that? He/she will get over that when they start to be able to move around on their own though. Just make sure that baby gets plenty of play time including some tummy time, and shower all of the love and attention on them that you can.
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