last night I asked him to bring me some jello from the fridge (he was already in the kitchen)
Out of the blue he says: " the dirtiest, most tasteless and the ugliest jello?"
...apparetly he didn't like the color and flavor, but to me it was so pretty - light pink strawberry and kiwi, sweet and lemony, it was so lovely to me...
I got so sad about the words he used, I yelled at him and warned him that this is the last time - almost everyday he says something mean. I clearly stated that if he doesn't have anything nice to say to keep his mouth shut because I can't take it anymore!
What do you think is his problem?
2006-08-30 05:25:26 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is saying nasty things to hurt you he is obviously unhappy. Talk to him and find out why he is trying to hurt you. People tend to hurt people when they are hurting themselves.
If he continues to do this - try counselling and if all else fails, leave him if he is making you miserable!
2006-08-30 05:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might only be foulmouthes because he is onfluenced by (work)mates. But badmouthing jello, I don't really see a problem. If it's little things like this that gets beneath your skin, I think you really need to tell him why it makes you feel so bad. To ease communication between yourselves, when conversations don't go well, counselling could be an option. I loathe counselling by the way, but it's mostly seen as a solution to make life all shiny and new again. If you understand that is not how it works, but could provide you with a parachute before you jump off a psychological cliff so to say, it's quite handy.
2006-08-30 05:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by McAtterie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a silly argument actually. I would try talking to him and letting him know that everyday he has something negative to say and it really bothers you. I don't know the both of you personally (obviously) so i couldn't tell you if he does this just to kid around with you, but if he is noticing it is upsetting you, he should ease up on it. Communication is KEY in a relationship, and the way you present the problem to a man is also key, they tend to get defensive and don't take "constructive" criticism very well.
2006-08-30 05:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look on the bright side - at least he's observant about your jello. He could have just scooped it into a bowl and brought it to you without even saying anything. If an insult to your jello makes you sad perhaps you should re-prioritize your thought processes. His problem? His marriage maybe?
2006-08-30 05:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by heartforhelping 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has some anger issue with you which you need to discuss with him - or better still, go into counseling. My ex used to do that too and well, now its history between us.
Personally, I'd advice anyone to stay clear of obnoxious, loud or/and mean people but since he's your mate, well, better to work things out first then to ditch right away.
Good luck!
2006-08-30 05:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you let him get to you. Most man are that way. They don't appreciate what you do but yet they want you to bow to them for any dumb thing they do. It's good that you told him how you feel maybe next time he'll think about what his going to say before opening his mouth.
2006-08-30 05:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him maturely. Tell him you think his behaviour recently is upsetting you and you think he is out of order. Could he be worried about something or is he depressed? Maybe there's something going on in his life you don't know about. Bottom line is you need to talk, maybe you could go out for a meal or something to have a proper talk away from normal surroundings.
2006-08-30 05:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry he insulted your jello honey but there are women out there putting up with far worse.
2006-08-30 05:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just having trouble at work. Don't take it personaly, a lot of guys can be a*s holes. It should stop soon. Try to talk with him and ask him what his problem is.
2006-08-30 05:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's his problem? He's a smartass and thinks he's funny. He needs some whipping into shape by the lady of the house.
2006-08-30 05:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋