I really care for him but the chemisrty is gone. I don't feel the same it's like my heart is pulling me in another direction. I want to live on my own woth my two boys. He 's their dad and he'll get to see them but as for me I don't want him anynore. We've been together for eight years and they were difficult ones for me. I can't take it anymore I feel like I'm suffocating. I need to get out but I don't want to hurt him. He scares me because he's always saying that he can't live without me or he's nothing with out me. He's worrying me because he acts if his life is over without me. Trust me I wish that I was making this up but I'm not. I could never forgive myself if somthing happend to my kids dad. All I want is to be happy but with him I am not. Need advice please, have a heart no harsh remarks please. Thanks.
2006-08-30 05:24:32 · 9 answers · asked by friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be honest and tell him why you are leaving. There's is no other way. The one hurting the most here is you. If he threatens you with that he can't live without you, that's him using an excuse for you not leave. If he is serious I recommend calling a psychiatrist. But you my friend need to get outif you're miserable. That can cause a bigger strain on your kids because you're unhappy. Believe me kids know. I left my marriage when I realized the relationship was no longer able to be saved and I think that was the best decision I had ever made. Yes I am single but I have no worries and I am free. Good luck!!
2006-08-30 05:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by awhisper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there comes a time in everyone's life when they have to grow up and make grown up decisions. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first. You deserve to be happy. Many people survive break ups and go on to live happy fullfilled lives.....He will have a hard time at first but eventually he'll be ok and mocve on...if he doesn't and something happens then he has a mental problem that needs professional help and it's not your fault. Why don't you start with that? Go get some "together" counseling and that way he'll have an outlet for his hurt........
2006-08-30 05:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by jachooz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that the timing isn't right. That you two don't have anything in common anymore. You feel like there's no future in the relationship and you want the best for everyone, so it'd be best to go on your separate ways.
2006-08-30 05:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very honest with ur feelings and tell him that u want to end this relationship, but be very careful whatever u tell him. It can hurt, but its better for him to know the truth than just making urself feel misrable.
2006-08-30 05:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, just sit down and say we need to talk in a calm voice so he maybe will understand what will happen, tell him how u feel and want to see other people, maybe u and ur bf can still be friends. maybe he even might feel the same way hope i can help
2006-08-30 05:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you there is no way you can end the relationship without hurting him. You just have to decided whether or not you really want to do it.
2006-08-30 05:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be honest and realize that he may be hurt if he is in love with you still - there is no way around it to try to be the good guy.
2006-08-30 05:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just forget about his "emotions" and dump him
2006-08-30 05:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Shameless Women's Advocate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him is not him is you
2006-08-30 05:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Callisto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋