Im not married or anything but if i do i dont really want to give birth or anything.. i really want to do something nice i really want to adopt kids from africa who are living in poverty. But im chinese and my parents are kind or traditional chinese people they would like real grandchildren and chinese mosly... but i really want to adopted what should i do? i know i shouldnt worry now but ya.
2006-08-30 05:24:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
just like u i plan to adopt some time soon, i say follow ur heart u can really make a difference in a child's life and who knows once ur mom and dad sees how unfortunate some of these kids are and realise what ur doing i am sure they will eventually come around........good luck
2006-08-30 05:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by brownsugar_nil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you are asking the adult adoptees about the impact adoption has had on their lives. And, as you can see, you will get a wide range of answers. From adoptees in various stages of addressing what adoption means to them. And that is an on-going process that will evolve over time. Mine did, and many others I know changed their position over time. You can see by the answers you are receiving how polarized the adoption issue is even amongst the adoptees themselves. You might ask yourself why either extreme of opinion even comes to a public forum like this? And the answer would be that it is an ISSUE for everyone here. For all adoptees here, it is an issue. That, in itself, is telling... The typical human response to such a survey is to place your heart where your hope is, which would be that adoption is a win-win solution for everybody. If this is the case, then why would there be any negative responses? What if hope for positive outcomes is not enough? I think the reality is more that it is a crap shoot. Once a child is relinquished, their fate is up to others. Entirely up to others: whether it is the adoption agency, or the adopting parents. But no longer up to you. Could be wonderful. Could be terrible. Is that a risk you really want to take with the life of your offspring? It is true that someone in a position to adopt can give more opportunities, more attention, and more focus. But can they give them more love than you? What if their love is toxic? What if the attention is a burden? What if the focus is really on parent joy and not on the child's needs? All the opportunity in the world does not always equal happiness... I had the misfortune of not having a positive outcome. The adoption agencies failed me. Social services failed me. Despite whatever hopes my biological parents may have had for me. Despite how much effort and hope I myself put into making my fate be as positive as I could make it. I was loved too much. It happened. It still happens. So I have no real answers for you, because that would be ingenuous to tell you I know anyone else's truth. But I can tell you that the questions you're having now, should you adopt, will never go away. The uncertainty will never go away. That's why it's not surprising so many adult adoptees and relinquishing mothers are allied in their voices against the adoption industry: They share decades of questions and uncertainty. Having raised my own children, I also know that facing hardship together with my children was what ultimately defined us as a family, and that experience was worth its weight in gold. Hardships are temporary. Love will find a way. Adoption is permanent.
2016-03-27 01:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the type of person who would attribute any weight to an answer received on Yahoo Answers concerning a major life decision like this, then no, adopting isn't the right thing to do.
2006-08-30 05:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Nitrous McBread 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is noble you are trying to save the world but you are asking for a world of heartache. If you REALLY wanted to help make the world a better place I would adopt an unwanted chinese girl.
2006-08-30 05:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by CallMeDigitalBob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the very same way when I was younger!! I think when you get older you may want to have a child with the person you love.You may still want adopt, also. Nothing wrong with that!!! I think it sounds great!!
2006-08-30 05:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes adopting is a wonderful thing to do. If you're too young now I wouldn't worry about it, you might change your mind later on anyways. Good luck.
2006-08-30 05:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to u should it doesn't matter if they are chinese or not you should adopt if you want to you are your own person and it should not matter what your parents think its that you know if you adopt let the child know that you love him any way he is
2006-08-30 05:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by *♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adopt someone from Africa who will be interested in learning Chinease customs.
2006-08-30 05:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is in a persons heart the decisions that they make, if it is what you want to do , isay go for it, every child deserves a good home and love, look and angelina and brad pitt, good xample,your parents should support your decision to help needy children
2006-08-30 05:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by tara h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is fantastic. This is your choice and not your parents, they will love that child once you get it.
2006-08-30 05:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋