im lik super shy and i would never express my feelings to a guy. My guy friends are like geeks so i wouldnt go out with them. should i be feeling embarresed about it. i had not even had one relationship in my life. WHAT SHOULD I DO?????!!!!!! IM SUCHH A LOSER!!!! OMGGGGG.. I DUNT EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO PEOPLE WHEN THEY ASK ME!!!!!
2006-08-30 05:19:53 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are not a loser - only young. You are just 14 - don't rush the dating. You will date when you find the right guy who catches your eye and is not a geek.
Being shy is normal especially at 14 - but you know what - confidence is what catches a guy's eye - so get some confidence, and get to know lots of guys until one of them catches your eye. Then you can ask him out or he will ask you when the time is right! Good luck and enjoy your youth - it goes by so fast!
2006-08-30 05:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel embarrassed.
There are many 14 year old girls who have dated and wish they hadn't. Many are pregnant or have an STD. You're lucky not to have dated yet. Be wise; don't be in a rush to date; you'd just be giving in to peer pressure.
You're also lucky that geeks hang out around you. Try to learn from the geeks. They have something of value to offer. Try to stay away for the bad guys. They have nothing of value to offer.
Imagine yourself being very smart (something geeks can help you achieve) and later being married to a really smart guy, and living the good life that comes from you and your husband having great jobs and making lots of money. Also imagine being dumb (something that can be reinforced by bad guys) and later being married to a dumb guy and struggling because the only jobs you and he can get are crappy jobs that don't pay much. Which sounds like what you want out of life?
The fact that geeks hang out around you tells me you have great potential, and they can see it. Ask them to help you, so that your brain will have a chance to blossom along with your beauty. As your brain expands, and the good looking geeks notice, you might find yourself with more popularity than your shyness can push away.
2006-08-30 05:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!! Do not be embarrassed!! You are not a loser!! You still have a lot of life ahead of you and it is too early to worry about such things. When you are ready to start dating it will be easy and you won't be worried. Try getting involved in groups or volunteering to help with sports. I was very shy until I starting as a student athletic trainer for the football team in college and that really helped me come out of my shell and not be so shy. Don't rush things enjoy every moment of life and don't stress about the little things they will just happen. Oh and when someone asks you just be yourself and enjoy the moment.
2006-08-30 05:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweety u r 14 dont give up just yet and u r not a loser it will happen for u dont rush in to any thing. just be carfull of and hey those geeks u are talking about may be one of the guys u are looking for. dont climb over the mountian to see what is on the other side just to find out u all ready seen it. U R NOT A LOSER
u r just confussed
2006-08-30 05:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have all the time in the world at 14 to date. Most guys your age are too immature and too shy themselves to ask you out and besides that they don't have any money to take you anywhere. Just hanging out with them makes them feel you are a close girlfriend. Don't be in too big a hurry because in the next couple of years you'll get more than your share of dates. When people ask just tell them when it's time it will happen, that's all you have to say.
2006-08-30 05:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by vlr90662002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be embarrassed, my cousins who are both 14-year-old girls, like to go out and have fun like hooking up but they think that at their age, it's too much confusion to have a boyfriend. They think that they have their whole lives to live and they don't have time for boys. And also when you're this young, having a boyfriend will cause many problems, like broken hearts and stupid fights and more drama that you want to handle. Take my advice, have fun kiss some boys and when you've decided you have the time and the capability to deal with what comes with a relation ship. I started young too, and I wish I would've just waited, cause my hormones were raging and it was horrible. So take life calmly cause if you rush it, you're gonna end up regretting what you do.
2006-08-30 05:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jess♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14. This is no age to think about boys. You have your whole life ahead of you. You are not a loser. Don't rush life, you don't need the headache. If anyone asks, just say I don't want to have a boyfriend right now, I want to find myself first and concentrate in my future.
2006-08-30 05:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That only means you know what kind of a man you want. And you know that these boys around you does not qualify.
Embarrassed? No. Be proud, to say the least. You know what you want and someday you would find it and it would be all worth it.
And you are not a loser. You're just a young girl with so many untapped potentials.
2006-08-30 05:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by arnold m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW - first of all, im almost 29 and i remember i was EXACTLY like that when i was 14. i had boys asking me out and i wouldnt because i was so shy and didnt know how to act/what to do. i wish i wasnt so shy back then but listen.....if you feel you arent ready, then dont push it. if you feel you ARE ready to start dating, then take it slow and just have confidence in yourself. just dont have sex for gods sake! sorry, thats the mom in me...but seriously dont :) youre much too young and will regret it later. i was a late bloomer and it took me a long time to figure out what i wanted and who i was, dont worry youll overcome your shyness eventually. stop calling yourself a loser....youre not. find out WHY the guy wants to go out with you - be friends with him first. youre still very young. take your time and have fun
2006-08-30 05:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres plenty of time for boyfriends you're only 14. If a boy asks you out at some point say yes, but don't be embarrassed about it, there's no rules to say when you should have your first boyfriend. Your confidence will grow as you get older. Don't worry.
2006-08-30 05:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋