My daughter started school, and her bed time is 9:00. Last night my husband had some of his friends over to play poker! and to cook out! Well he did not start cooking till 8:30 and then had the raido in the car so loud that you could here it in the house! Hey played poker till 2:00a.m. and then he is late for work. and he dont bother gettin up and helping me with the kids. (i have a 2yr old also) I am very mad, do you think that i have to right to be mad!? he knows that her bed time is 9 and yet he still pulls this crap in the middle of the week, !!
2006-08-30 05:14:27 · 16 answers · asked by bdmrplemons 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you have the right to be mad. It's a partnership to raise children. The children need a good night's sleep to do real good in school. Tell him to go some where else to party. He sounds a little insensitive.
2006-08-30 05:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this happen often? If not... then take it down a thousand. Wait until your anger subsides and speak to him nicely. Start the conversation by complimenting him on something you like about him. Basically start with something very positive you love about him or what he does for you as a husband.
Have the conversation maybe at moment when you both have some alone time. Or go out for a little walk together... Then in a nice tone (not nagging or abrasive) let him know that his timing and activity was a bit off for a work week night and was not productive or appropriate based on several factors:
- The noise level (the radio)
- Time factor (2:00am) and middle of the week
- Unavailable to assist with family responsibilities
- Late for work.
That being said... as long as you just let him know in a respectful and quiet tone...you felt it was not a wise choice and not the best activity for a work week, you'll be heard and he'll know better next time. Don't linger on the subject too long. Speak your peace and move on... do it in loving way. ALL spouses trip out from time to time...
2006-08-30 12:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband do this often? Does he go out with his freinds alot or barely ever? I think that it's important to let your guy have fun with his freinds once in a while but if his music is too load you should just ask him to please turn it down because your daughter is sleeping. I would hope that he would do this willingly because he knows that your daughter needs her rest. I think a good way to approach the situation would be to say "Look dear I know you like to hang out with the guys now and than and I think that's great, but you need to be sure that this time doesn't disturb you family and work life. Next time try to keep it down so that our daughter can sleep peacefully." Just try to stay calm and talk to him respectfully. Maybe give him a little hug or a pinch on the behind so he knows your not angry with him. I think that it's normal to feel angry about these sorts of things but I think the best way to handle it is just to keep your cool. I know that it's really hard to communicate effectively with my husband when I'm steaming mad. You don't want to give him the impression that you just want to take his fun time away. Tell him that his family and job should be his first priority. If he wants to hang out with friends that's great but he needs to be respectfull of the rest of the family and not stay out so late that he is late for his work.
2006-08-30 12:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by ms. abby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have a right to be mad things like that should be reserved for the weekend or toned down and rules set if they are going to have it through the weak he had a responsibility to his job and his family and by the sounds of it failed miserably on both counts so ya you have a right to be mad and he needs to realize he is not a kid grow up
2006-08-30 12:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by fisher_lady_1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your have every reason to be mad at your husband. He needs to start acting like an adult. Your daughter needs her sleep and he needs to make sure she gets it.
2006-08-30 12:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to take his poker game to a friends house next time, or if he insists on it being at home, tell him its over by 9
2006-08-30 12:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he is being selfish, inconsideraate and is not acting in the best interest of his family.
He will continue to do this too...
there must be a REAL consequence to his actions to stop him..
no idol threats, but real life changing actions if he behaves like that again...
2006-08-30 12:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. He should be considerate of the children's bed time too. He can have a break but it shouldn't interfere with the welfare of the children.
2006-08-30 12:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be mad. Its called no respect for his family
2006-09-03 12:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by starling_night614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset.It's not fair to you or your child.Have him move his poker game to someone else's house next time.................I bet you even got stuck cleaning up after them.....Good luck
2006-08-30 12:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋