What is a good piece of advice for newly weds?

Question

I live by this mantra:

To keep the marriage cup brimming with love
When you are wrong, learn to admit it
When you are right, learn to shut up!

Answer 1

Compromise is key

Answer 2

All of the responses you have received so far are pretty good.

So here is my 2 cents. For the man, get and read the book "Four Pillars Of A Mans Heart" by Stu Weber. I suggest that every man who is newly married or thinking about getting married read that book and work daily on becoming a Four Pillard Man.

For the new Wife, learn how to say "Yes". A man who has your approval will move mountains for you. Never go to your single friends for relationship advice, if they knew what they were doing they wouldn't be single.

Manage your finances well and learn to live below your means. Practice delayed gratification, financial hardship is one of the main reasons couples get divorced.

Marriage is not supposed to be hard nor will it be easy. Never stop dreaming, work together to develop a big vision for your lives and go after it. Turn off the TV and spend time together, just because you are married doesn't mean the corting is done. My advice is to stay in the cortship phase of your relationship forever.

Answer 3

Some good advice I got when I was married..
-Don't expect perfection from your partner unless you can be perfect yourself...
And some personal advice..
-Understand that men and women have different ways of thinking and solving problems. don't get frustrated because what he thinks isn't exactly the same as how you view things
-Marriage can be difficult sometimes, but no matter how tough it seems to get, don't give up. The reward of sticking together is great!
-Remember to keep doing nice things for your spouse, even after you've been married for a while
-Make a point to go out on dates at least once a month
-Never stop being affectionate with eachother!
-Make sure to let your spouse know how much you love and appreciate them. Don't let this stop after you've been married for a while. The best is when you say it our of the blue!

Answer 4

Here is what makes mine work:

1. Be honest with each other.

2. Never go to bed mad. Talk it out before going to bed and always tell each other you Love them.

3. Keep the marriage lively. Do things often that are romantic, special, and spontaneous, even 10 years from now.

4. Make Love often, make it special and never get in a hurry.

5. Neither one should " make all the decisions". Discuss what you want to do and agree on how and when to do it.

6. When it comes to money, save as much as you can for those special, on the spur of the moment side trips you want to make. Remember, even with only one bread winner, that doesnt give either the right to overspend.

Above all, never get tired of telling your partner you Love them, and mean it, give them kisses and hugs often. Snuggle on the coach in front of a good movie, just to be close to them. Always look for fun things the two of you like to do.

Answer 5

The biggest problem that newlyweds will encounter will be MONEY PROBLEMS for the first 5 years. The best way, I think, to solve the problem is get a JOINT ACCOUNT at a bank, decide who will actually pay the bills, but be sure to involve the other person in the process. Open a seperate account for each of you, and put $100.00 a month in each account, for yourselves. Spend it or save it! At the end of the month, put the non-spent money into a savings account.
Anyway, that's the advice I would give.

Answer 6

Keep what goes on in ur marriage private
Don't share with friends and family personal info
Make time for each other always
After having kids remember that u r a husband and wife FIRST
Be willing to compromise and forgive

Answer 7

Attack "change".

1) Everyone believes that marriage (on its own) will change certain things about a relationship and about one's partner. "It will be different when we are married ... Once we are married, this will change ... " Realize that marriage, the ceremony and paper, changes NOTHING. Don't expect ANYTHING to be different after the wedding.

2) Don't let things change. After marriage people inevitably let things slip: courtesy, looks, moments of affection, sex. Attack this type of change and vow to treat your relationship as you did the first week you met. Remember how every little thing was sweet? Remember how you would never "be short", or glare at, or put down, or disrespect your girlfriend the first week you met her? Strive for this in the first year of your marriage, and maintain it throughout.

Attack change!

.

Answer 8

The first is communication and trust. If you both wake up everyday and say to yourself, " What could I do to make my wife/husbands day better", then you will do fine. Never change into being someone else. If you have showed your true self to her before marring than she should always love who she married. So many couples change after marriage and then in that case you may not like or love the person that they change into.

Answer 9

That's a great mantra. Here's my advice:
1) In every situation, take the opportunity to add love and stir.
2) Always keep a breath spray in the night stand!
Best Wishes!

Answer 10

Remember that marriage is hard work. Anything worth having/keeping requires a bit of hard work. Communication is a major factor. Realize that there are always bumps in the road but together you can overcome them

Answer 11

communication, respect, patience, tolerance, and compliments helps builds a honest, mindful, and long-lasting marriage.
communication accepts criticism and trust
respect honors the marriage and forbid adultry
patience knows that sun comes after the storm
tolerance doesn't change a person to a created image
compliments boost a man's ego and keep a woman feeling sexy