Will my baby mama change?

Question

My fiance and I dated for 10 months last year she got pregnant in November. Spent half the year depressed deing diagnosed with Lupus and Thyroid. She would get drunk and beat the crap out of me and wouldn't remember till I reminded her the next day. Would beg me to get her pregnant and when I did hated me for it. I tried leaving at 2 months, but she begged me to stay. Cried every night mad and then happy the next. After she got pregnant 4 months into it, I finally hit her. She was ok at first till her mom found out 3 days later and kicked me out. She wouldn't answer the phone or see me for the rest of the pregnancy. I had to call her unc to see if she had it. The other day I begged to see 4 the 1 time.(7 days). Her mom says she is scared, but she sat across from me. I think this might be something else like her hateful mother, but does anyone think that she will change her feelings? What should I do? She's 21, Im 22. Plus refuses to put me on the birth certificate

Answer 1

This is really messed up !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Honestly, If you want to see the baby call an attorney and talk to them. They can help you work something out as far as visitation, birth certificate, and so forth. But if you think that you are too young and this may be a stage of your life you want to get past, think about this, if she doesn't put you on the birth certificate you will not be responsible for child support. If you really want to see your child you have rights too, it is not just about mothers. Take her to court.
By the way do you know that just b/c she is a women doesn't mean you can't file assault charges against her for hitting you? You should have. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Just remember buddy, the same way females can insist on a male taking a DNA test so can the male to the female. You have legal basis to believe that the newborn child is yours, which entitles you to proof of guardianship->paternity testing! Ding you're right. Now in the event that things get a little messy and she doesn't want to go through with this then look to the constitution for justice-GET A COURT ORDER! This way after you have been proven to be the father or proven not to be the father you can take it from there. According to your message you apparently would love to be the father of this child. This would give you legal basis, responsibility and rights to this baby without having to receive her permission! Let justice be served. Good luck.

Answer 4

Although there is never an excuse to hit a woman, it seems she was very abusive herself. She will prolly change her feelings if you get some time alone with her and the baby. Are you ready for the commitment? She may need some counseling to deal with her issues and you may need to join her at some point as well. The number one priority should be this baby. It does not need to watch abusive parents beat on each other. Seek help for both of you. Good luck!

Answer 5

First, you can have a DNA test done and once it proves the father, you can have your name but on your child's birth certificate. If you want her back, tell her so. Sometimes hormones from pregnancy can cause extreme mood swings. So get to know her again. Be the sweet guy she was dating. Take it slow. She needs to know you'll be there for her. If she gets violent with you again, you need to go to the hospital, document it, and take her to court for full custody. No child should have to live with an abusive parent.

Answer 6

sounds like a toxic relationship. Glad you got out of it-- even if its her mom whos causing the problem you gotta understand that her moms gonna be there forever and thus, causing dilemmas for you the whole time. Try to get custody if she drank while preggo thats child abuse in my opinion.

Pregnancy, and thyroid both affect moods too tho.. So keep in contact with her at least for the babys sake.. But be aware before you try to patch it up with her.

Answer 7

If you want to be involved in the baby's life you need to go to court and you need to set up chil support payments and a visitation schedule. You BOTH need counseling because you BOTH have anger issues. You could have just walked away and taken her to court before she had the baby to let them know what was going on and that you feared for your baby's safety. No matter what, even if she was hitting you, the courts will see that you hit her, and that looks bad. You will have to pay for a DNA test, most likely to get your name on the birth certificate. Also if she has been collecting welfare, you will have to pay back child support to them...not her.

Answer 8

okay if you were my baby daddy i would because hey you want to be in my childs life and not a dead beat parent and we dont have to do much communicating out of the childs life but she should forgive you hey you are the father of her baby and tell her hateful A** mama to stay out of yall business and that her daughter put you through hell as well by getting drunk and beating the hell out of you and they cant go from there take it to court

Answer 9

believe it or not im 18 7 months pregnant and tha same thang happen with me and my babi daddi but not exactly like urs but she will change she jus is going thru alot right now in my case it was my mom making all the decisions 4 me and my babi daddi hated that cus him and her were always in 2 it with each other but trust me things will get better i kno how ur feeling trust me

Answer 10

get a lawyer and take her butt to court. Fathers have rights too!! From the sound of it, she has a couple of screws loose. Just imagine her getting drunk and hurting your baby and not remembering. good luck

Answer 11

lay it on the table, let her know exactly how you feel and everything that has happened that has hurt you. dont let her mother get in between your relationship. im going to be 23, i have a 4 year old son, my parents and boyfriend dont even talk, and my mom tries to get in the middle all the time. just let her know.