How do I get over someone that's hurt me time and again?

Answer 1

stay away from that person. Take up something you like to do. Start going out with friends and maybe you'll enjoy their company. I was once told that you shouldn't go out looking for love. When the time is right LOVE will find you. Take care and feel better about yourself and that YOU are special no matter what anyone else thinks.

Answer 2

Time and time again: Your answer lies in that statement.
When you are so involved with someone that you allow yourself to be hurt repeatedly, You must break it off and stop putting yourself in a position to be hurt.

Find someone else to devote yourself to and stop knocking on a door that will never open for you. He is hurting you, because he can't stand you. There is nothing you can do at this point that will improve your situation except end it.

Close that book and start a new one that will be more compatible with you.

Don't worry about getting over it, Time will take care of that item. The longer you stay away, the less it hurts. Finally it won't hurt at all and you will wonder why you put up with it.

Answer 3

Stop believing that people changes so easily. Every time you see him - if not possible to avoid it - then remember the bad times instead of only thinking that a new beginning is possible.
Sometimes if you want to start over and have a real chance to be happy, what you have to do is to leave everything behind and just choose what sort of life you want to have.
Whoever hurts you, has no good feelings for you, or is mentally disturbed through drugs or nature.
If you are trapped in such sort of relationships, then your best choice might be to consult a group of mistreated women. If you can, start psychotherapy. One day, you will reject any situation that makes you suffer.
Self preservation is a primary instinct. If you are close to loose it, watch out. Then you already started to not care anymore about your own life.

Answer 4

the best thing to do is to try to find someone you know will treat you right and start taking time for yourself by doing things you like pampering yourself and try to always let people know when you not ready to be around them forgive the person that has hurt and then and only then the healing process can begin so you can move on with your life with someone else and be patient love will find you when you least expect it it is never easy to get over someone you love for a longtime even if they hurt you a broken heart needs time to heal get rid of everything that reminds you of the person also and that should also help with the process of a broken heart and you will be fine but you have to forgive the person so you can move on even be friends with them to show them that they may have hurt you but they dont have the power over you anymore for you to feel anything and learn from your mistake dont take them back again even if you still love them so you wont end up in that same situation again and good luck to you i hope you find someone who will give you the love and attention you need from your mate and the tools for a good relationship is trust,compromise,honesty,love and understanding of when to give the person space when they need it

Answer 5

Honestly... This is going to sound a bit nuts... But by forgiving them.
Once you forgive someone it's like saying, " I don't have to hold on to this." and ultimately if you aren't holding on to the hurt, they have no hold over you. It still may hurt for a while. Wounds take lots of time to heal. But make the choice to forgive every time you find your self getting angry at them and watch and see what happens!
I've been hurt before too in large measures but because i know the one who heals I am a new person! Forgiveness is the path to take, even though it doesn't seem like the most obvious.

Answer 6

there is a old saying once bitten twice shy. the fact that u went back was enough u want to get over this person find some one who will love u for u and not use u and hurt u. and maybe get back some of the self esteem this other person took away from u. move on get away from his person. u will never forget just forgive so u r at peace with urslef ,move on and dont look back

Answer 7

first off don't keep going back to him and you won't get hurt. if youre not anywhere near him then he can't hurt you. find someone else that will be there for you and wont hurt you. go out with the girls or just chill at home with your best friends. just don't give this guy a chance to be near you for a while...or longer...and you wont have to worry about being hurt by him again.

Answer 8

Spadesboffin, had this answer (the first answer)
"stop going back to him"
Hun . . . how do you know it's a HE? That's a sexist reponse for an answer. You sound like Ann Coulter.




As for my answer, I suggest you talk to some one. Talk to a threapist. It seems silly, and you may think only "mental" people see threapists, but they help because you can tell some one you've never met, who won't riticule you, anything you want and they can give you options on how to handle the situation :-)

Answer 9

You gotta get to the point were you say to yourself that you had enough of this pain and heartache. if you aren't with this person it will take time to heal, just try to focus on things that will take your mind off of him. Also express your feelings to him to let him know how he really hurted you sometimes getting things off your chest really helps.

Answer 10

i have been hurt many times by my boyfriend and i know it hurts really bad. he has changed and turned into someone i love. if it doesnt stop then you have to give up on him and in time you will be ok