Do people chose a partner with the same attractiveness as themselves?

Question

Do you think this is true?

Some great answers coming in....
manonthestreet: I like your list but these paople have oodles of charisma and fame-that kind of guy is the exception - they can get any girl they want. Look at Peter Stringfellow! I met him once, he's butt ugly but very attractive!

Answer 1

i'll ask u a question....is it so much a matter of choice in our days?....in this big big world is it not a maytter of needing someone with u sometimes?....just thinking loudly a bit....

Answer 2

Julia Roberts and Lyle Lovett

Kate Hudson and Chris Robinson of The Black Crowes

Mike Tyson and Robin Givens

Anna Nicole Smith and That Old Guy

Donald Trump and Any Woman

Marilyn Monroe and Joe DiMaggio

Marilyn Monroe and Arthur Miller

So to answer you question, no, that's is not always the prevailing factor.

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Reply:
Well, you used the words "same attractiveness". If one has beauty and the other has money, that's not the "same attractiveness", so they didn't choose their partner for the same reason their partner choose them.

also, how can someone be butt ugly but also attractive? You can say, "he's butt ugly but he's got a great personality," or say, "he's butt ugly but he got more money than God". But I don't get the butt ugly AND attractive (assuming you mean physically attractive.).

Answer 3

I suppose there are two classes of people who use looks as a qualification for their partner.

1) Insecure, achievement oriented people. These types feel that life is an endless series of tests where one must achieve. One of these tests is making sure that you will get a mate that reflects well on you, that looks as good as you, that projects well in society. Hence, a "good mate" quickly becomes a "good looking mate", and looks become crucial. The fact that there are lots of lots of insecure, achievement oriented people in the entertainment industry only makes this "are you good looking enough" drama more frequently public.

2) Self-knowing, highly sexual people. There are those individuals who realize that there really are very few "great" things in life today. A subset of these people believe that having sex with someone that you a)think is beautiful and b)really care about is the highest experience you can have (repeatedly) in a lifetime. Hence, these people use looks (or "what I like") as a requirement when looking for a partner. Their only interest is how the partner looks naked (or slightly clothed) in the privacy of their own house. What other people think, whether the mate is "better looking" than themselves is irrelevant. What is important is wetness and wagging.

Beware of type #1. Find a type #2 and live with he/she forever.

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Answer 4

I would say that in general that is true. Unless they are in the entertainment industry or very rich. For us "normal" folks if there is a big difference in attractiveness there can be jealousy on the part of the less attractive peoson.

When I got married to my first husband at 18 I would say I was an 8 and he was a 6. He was always jealous though but in the end he was the one who cheated on me.

My 2nd husband and I are equally attractive and have never been jealous in our 15 years of marriage.

Answer 5

I think some people do it that way and others don't. For some looks matter more than anything else but even then it doesn't mean that they will want someone with the same attractiveness. Different people have different tastes in partners. People perceive beauty in different ways. Some value good sex over looks, others value personality and intellect over the other things. I have seen good looking successful men be attracted to unsuccessful fat women and really good looking women that prefer nerdy guys.

Answer 6

You know, I don't think it's on purpose but you noticed that also?

Facial characteristics can be indicative of personality traits and may be why some couples may look similar, says a University of Liverpool study.

The researchers -- in collaboration with the University of Durham and the University of St. Andrews -- asked participants to judge perceived age, attractiveness and personality traits of real-life married couples.

Photographs of female faces were viewed separately from male faces, so participants were unaware of who was married to whom.

"There is widespread belief that couples, particularly those who have been together for many years, look similar to each other," said Dr. Tony Little.

"To understand why this happens, we looked at the assumptions that people make about a person's personality, based on facial characteristics," said Little, "we found that perceptions of age, attractiveness and personality were very similar between male and female couples."

If the female face was rated as "sociable" then her partner was also more likely to be rated as "sociable," said Little.

Answer 7

Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:

-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?

One more joke:

A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.

Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!

Answer 8

Yes, maybe, sometimes. Allot of people care to only have fluff on their arms and others want only the personality. Most want something in the middle. It takes a very comfortable person to not be attracted to anotheir based on looks. But on the flip side what if your attracted because of ther personality and they are HOT?

Answer 9

I think people choose partners with the same values as themselves. Women who put a lot of effort into their appearance will be more attracted to men who do the same...and the amout of time someone spends on their appearance has a lot to do with how good-looking they are. Look at Britney Spears--without a lot of makeup, she's be pretty average-looking, but you hire a good makeup artist, and voila! Suddenly she's hot!

Answer 10

Ever seen an ugly ugly (I mean real ugly) with a darn nice looking chick. And you were wondering what the hell did she see in him.
Well its not the looks that count its his heart and the way he treats her that counts. Sure at one time she probable taught of having a darn good looking guy but life is like that she is happy and that is what counts.
Not necessarily the same attractiveness consider
Blacks with whites
Indians with chinese
Blacks with chinese or Indians

Answer 11

Usually they Want To Get Someone Who's More

Like A Prize Or Trophy.