I work full time ever since i graduated high school now 2 years later im going back to school full time but still working full time....My boyfriend who i love very much and who i live with and who has helped me alot thru the years tells me that i should wait alittle longer because i just purchased my first car (i would have had another one but my mom took that away from me even tho it was my graudation present) Any way he wants me to get everything in order so he wants me to push it back another year..but i want to make him understand that I need to go back I want and need to go to college and get my degree and its not like im going for 4 years ill be done by january of 2008 if i start this october! How do i make him under stand that i can do this and that i need to do this for me and am i being selfish because im doing what i want to do and its going to take time away from being with him? *im not going to break up with him..he cares about me and he thinks his way is best but i dont*
2006-08-30 04:43:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My boyfriend works at a law firm....he also is going to school but only part time but his hours are different and much easier to work with school he works from 230 to close i work from 8 to 530 so i would have to take night classes when he can take day classes and have an easier time. But because i bought my car i have more bills to pay as to where he doesnt have a car payment and his insurance is lower and he already pays the utlities by him self. So because i have my car payment and rent and insurance and buy the food i dont really have the money to go back to school but i keep telling him fincial aid will help me some...but he doesnt seem to get that...I have to take night classes cause thats what i have time for and i dont have time or the money to drag out my school so its full time or no time....I CAN DO THIS!
2006-08-30 05:10:50 · update #1
I also make less money..but i make more then enough for my car and insurance and books...its just the whole paying for the shcool is my problem...
2006-08-30 05:13:24 · update #2
You sound like a smart girl, so surely you know you have to make your own decisions. It sounds to me like you know exactly what you want. Tell him you have made your decision and you would appreciate his full support in this. His support in the past has helped you to get to where you are today. Tell him it is for your future together, and there is no time like the present to start working on it. If you think you can handle it, he should be right behind you telling you that you can. What is the worst that could happen. If it is to hard, you can always stop and push it back until you are ready, but how will you ever know if you don't at least give it a shot ?? Stand your ground, that is why you have gotten this far.!! You go Girl !!
2006-08-30 04:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if its something you NEED to do for you. It will benefit you both in the end if he can stick it out. If anyone may be being selfish, it's him. It could just be that he doesn't want to lose you, but whatever the reason, he needs to understand that life doesn't end with love. There are other things to be attained and achieved. And love won't pay the bills 5 years down the line either. Try to make it easy and not too much of a change for the relationship if you want it to work, but still do what you NEED to do which is finish school.
2006-08-30 05:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by ushouldnoidontplay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does purchasing a car have to do with going to college? For that to be the reason you don't go, would make no sense. You can't really allow him to decide whether or not you go to school because it has too much of an impact on your future. And although I'm sure you and your boyfriend are in love, he's not yet your husband, and although you live with him, you have to make decisions based on what's best for you and your future.
You didn't mention what your boyfriend does. Maybe he should be doing a little more to prepare for your future, too. If you do decide to go back, you have to make sure that your relationship doesn't suffer. While it's your decision, He should only be affected to a small degree. He shouldn't have to make huge sacrifices because of your decision. You'd have to work twice as hard to keep your relationship together. But I think it should have to be your responsibility, since it was your decision to alter the ways you guys currently do things.
2006-08-30 05:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been exactly in that spot. I chose to continue my education and it was the right decision. All relationships of value go through times of hardship and differing opinions. I strongly suggest that you sit down and make a plan of how things will be structured for you both once you are in school. Maybe if he sees that his life won't change that much he won't be so quick to squash the idea. Good Luck!
2006-08-30 05:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by jessie1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your education should not be an arguement. He should be supportive of you and your determination. It's not you who is being selfish. Your education will benefit the both of you later and you will always need that to fall back on. Go to school and do what you have to do and if he can't understand that then he needs to figure things out for his own.
2006-08-30 04:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ready vs Not 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an education will get u further in life than a car. travel by bus for a few yrs until u gradute and find a better job than u have no because of ur education. tell him that if u sacrafice now in a few yrs u can afford a better car and a better life. u have a chance now and who knows what will ur situation be next yr. u r not doing it for only u u r doing this for both of u
2006-08-30 04:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does not understand and no amount of explanation will get this through his head. Some guys are intimidated by girls with higher aspirations, this is another subject as to why (control issues, low-self esteem) this is.
You are not being selfish. It's called using your talents for all your worth.
Finally, there is no "perfect time" to get your degree.
2006-08-30 04:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by medic_7083 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never let anyone tell you that going back to school is wrong. you need to make your own decsions. if he loves you he would understand what is important to you & support you all the way.. you need to do what is right for you, if he falls to the wayside, it wasnt meant to be. have a good life & be proud of yourself for being strong & going after what you need to do.... keep strong, & i am proud of you
2006-08-30 05:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to college. No more words need be said.
2006-08-30 04:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come first not him. Your education is important you can always find someone else if he doesn't support your decision.
2006-08-30 04:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋