2006-08-30 04:33:51 · 28 answers · asked by Great Man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you don't have to but, if you have a good relationship and you want share things, go for it....
2006-08-30 04:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have problems then start talking about things she does not need to know. We always want to know the past of our man, but after wards we are using what we know as soon as we get mad and print stays in our memory beyond Alzheimer. Just to give you a free sample.
If they belong only to your past, just invent that you had just a few girlfriends that were from so little importance for you that there is no much to say.
Make a deal: let's start a new life and forget about anything in the past.
Remember that the less you say, the less will be used against you. As in a crime investigation.
Good luck, and watch out because your wife can be very jealous.
2006-08-30 11:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Expat Froggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, dear. lol- You only have to worry about the things that may affect your marriage i.e. kids from another girl, you get a new job and your boss turns out to be an old girlfriend. Other than things like that, you don't have to tell her everything. The past is the past and should be yours to share or not.
Have a great day!!!
2006-08-30 11:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! You love her and it will only hurt her, no matter how "easy-going" she makes herself sound, and how "casually" she asks the questions.
Deep down she's asking for self-affirmation, to make sure she is the prettiest, nicest, best sex you've ever had, etc. that's why she would be asking, or to use the past as a predictor to her future, i.e. did you cheat on others, did you lie to others, when others were demanding or bitchy how did you react? etc. etc.
It's like if you asked her if your p e n i s was big, big enough, or the biggest she's ever had -- the only answer that is good for your marriage is YES.
Same thing for discussions on past exes - be as brief as possible, don't talk too negatively or too kindly about any of them, be vague in your descriptions and non-specific (don't say, "this one time, we were...")
2006-08-30 12:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if she asks. Chances are, she may never ask, but if she does...be honest. Honesty is one of the most important things in a marriage. Communication is the next important.
You don't have to go over board, or into all the gorey details, but be honest. And request honesty from her if you ask her something. Fair, after all, is fair.
2006-08-30 11:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by Voice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.Never. You will be making a Himalayan blunder. She will nag you for your entire life. You can mention one or two incidents of innocuous nature to make it look real. You are not cheating her. You are making both your lives more comfortable. Women are very suspicious by nature. If you disclose details you will be viewed as a convict for life. Also some girls can never digest the idea that their partner had some affairs. So be careful.
2006-08-30 11:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only if you are on fourth dow nand have like 1 million yards to go should you do this.Get my point.Punting at that point would be a smart move LOL .I would jsut say no . everyone hasa past and if it does not involve MAJOR life issues and things that can effect your health now then no cuz sometimes those lil details and feaster and eat away someones feeling for you.that is a bad thing .
2006-08-30 11:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An intelligent and mature wife would not quiz you about any prior liasions, but realize that all that's happened to you in your life, including past dalliances, have brought you to where you are and made you who you are today. And that must mean something because she fell in love with you and married you. Good Luck~
2006-08-30 11:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by Designchc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of telling your wife about the past. She might think that you can also start hunting them and may not trust you. Let the past lie.
2006-08-30 11:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest after marriage it really shouldn't be about the past girlfriends or boyfriends, you started a life toghether you'll should be focusing on that and how you can keep your marriage healthy good luck!
2006-08-30 11:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is so much better if you dont. My husband told me about his ex girlfriends and who he had slept with and everytime i look at him I see him screwing another woman. It make s me cringe and im so jealous. You know the old saying What you dont know cant hurt you, it really is true.
2006-08-30 11:39:39 · answer #11 · answered by frenchiejamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋