Is what you look like, and how much you weigh really matter in a relationship?
has this ever stopped you from asking someone out (Either because they were fat/'ugly' or because you were fat/'ugly')
is it just me or should beauty really in the eye of the beholder?
How heavy is TOO heavy? *guys whats the limit here...what do you consider as FAT)
2006-08-30 04:26:00 · 16 answers · asked by LBB 5 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
It's not just the fat issue, I joined a web dating site (yes I know - sad) and as soon as I mentioned that I have to use a stick to walk the blokes signed off faster than a hedgehog on speed! Life's not easy if your over weight or disabled - come on people look harder at someone! You could just be passing by your soul-mate!
2006-08-30 04:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should matter is do you like the person, not the way the person looks. But unfortunately many people fall to the assumption that if a person does not look good, either in dress or weight, they are not the same quality as the person judging them.
The old expression that beauty is skin deep applies. But that person who is slender could eventually become fat or the person who is overly nurished (fat) could become thin. Does the change in body weight change the quality of the person as a human being? If you think so, I would not put you even on the bottom of a list of my friends.
2006-08-30 12:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter and to a certain degree beauty is skin deep, however, you have to be sexually or physically attracted to a person with whom you are going to have a relationship otherwise it just won't work.
One saying that is true though is 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' - one person might find you repulsive and someone else might find you perfect so everyone is different!
2006-08-30 11:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not, unfortunately in today's society attraction is primarily based on looks and not what is inside. Maybe divorce rates would not be so high if people would give those who are less attractive a chance to show their innerselfs. Ya never know, the ugly duckling could be the catch of a lifetime.
2006-08-30 12:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i know people see people in different ways, but half the time no one can deny that they like a pretty thin person. Its just the way it is, for one thing you have aimed the question at guys, they are going to say they need to be thin and pretty etc, im not saying that all guys are like this, but most are. As for asking women they say that it doesnt matter as long as you love the person and we are attracted to them, and personality counts. Mr myself it depend on who you meet and what there personality is like and wheather you are attracted to them, you may meet someone and not feel attracted to them then wake up one day and fancy the pants of them. I think people should just love people for who they are and not for what they look like or if they are going to get the mick taken out of them, People in this world are far to shallow.
2006-08-30 11:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask someone out if you are attracted to them- period. One fat person may seem the most beautiful person in the world to you, while another may appear to be a slob. Equally, one slim person could be lovely and another skinny and ill.
What makes someone beautiful is comprised of so many things (voice, self confidence, look, sense of humour, wit, intelligence, charm, attitude....the list is endless) it's impossible to pin it down.
2006-08-30 11:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a huge fat ugly thing with no redeeming features then now's the time to think of some changes.
2006-08-30 11:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was once dating this sexy tall blonde then whilst away on holiday was suduced by a very large woman. On my return I broke up with sexy blonde cos I could not stop thinking about the other woman. My friend thought I was crazy I even had them giving me the are you sure speach and getting the girlfriends in on the act.
The crazy thing was after dating large woman for a month she dumped me. So I was woman less. lol
2006-08-30 13:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think for ppl that are not overweight its easier to say no it doesnt matter wot u look like as long as u r in a happy relationship.
however i have been with a man for 2years now who is nothing like the kinda man i usually go for he does have a bit of a belly but u no wot i find it incredibily sexy!!!
even so im not a shallow person so i would always say that as long as u get on well and love each other for wot u r and not wot u look like u will b fine
2006-08-30 12:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The weight issue has stopped me asking out a yoga instructor as I thought I would be to fat and unfit for her perfectly toned body.
2006-08-30 11:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋