My boyfriend has been busy lately but his routine of calling and seeing me has changed so I asked him if he was seeing anyone else he answered no! of course not but now he is very upset with me because I asked the question I did apologize to him but that did not help any ..... I really like him a lot and I dont want to lose him for this what should I say or do.....
2006-08-30 04:24:04 · 8 answers · asked by flipper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
give him some space. don't blame yourself for asking him. dont let him take it out on you either. if he leaves you for this look at like it is his loss.not yours. you can do better
2006-08-30 04:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will often get defensive like that when accused of doing something(usually mostly when it is true!!!). In my experience, if they are doing nothing wrong they don't get defensive, and brush it off easily. On the other hand, one man i was with who had cheated on me many times was always extremely defensive when asked if he were cheating on me. He even said to me "if you find me in bed with another woman, only then can you accuse me of cheating" ...and later i found out he was.
If he is so angry over something so simple he is not worth fretting over. Find someone else. If you stay with him , keep a close eye on him.
2006-08-30 11:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he got awfully defensive when you asked that question. If he is truly not cheating then he would have just brushed the question off.
2006-08-30 11:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by bitbee26 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps his high level of defensiveness is his way of projecting his guilt on to you. I would not be too quick to dismiss the idea that he may be seeing someone else....
2006-08-30 12:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by inet_guy_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe is is seeing someone else, thats why he got so defensive.
2006-08-30 11:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes when u ask him a ????, and he gets mad because u asked it, He probably is. My x bf did the same thing.
2006-08-30 11:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bandice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably IS seeing another, and that is why he became so angry and defensive when you asked.
2006-08-30 11:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP THE DRAMA stop trying to make there be a problem where there isnt one .
2006-08-30 11:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋