this is like a soap opera. now that our children are in school my wife said i should take off from work and come home for a quickie in the morning before lunch. we've done this twice in the last week and rather successfully.
this morning, i stopped as i left the office to print some pictures off for her. she stopped and talked to her office staff and thought she would give me a chance to get home before her, turn on some music, set the mood, etc.
we ended up getting home at the same time -- she just ahead of me. instead of, hey, tiger, i got.....i was sooo hoping you would have already been home. I'm thinking, crap, there goes sex.
so she sat down in a patio chair and we had this argument for about 40 minutes where i'm not being romantic, i'm not thinking of her needs, "i'm not a *****, but i just can't figure out why you're not thinking of these things, too."
then she asks me if i'm coming home for lunch. i said, i can't, i've already been gone about an hour. what's up?
2006-08-30 04:21:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she doesn't want flowers and i can't really try this again until tomorrow morning. we've got plans the rest of the night.
she says she greats me at the door when i come home and that's simply not true, but wants me to great her at the door when she comes home. but she gets home before i do.
she is going to be starting her period this week and i feel that is some reason for her irrational behavior. this has been a repetitive cycle for months....good wife for 3 weeks, then wierd crazy wife for a week or so.
2006-08-30 04:28:51 · update #1
Uhmmm...if you give me your address, I'll make it home for lunch for ya....and have her make me a devilled-egg sandwich too
2006-08-30 04:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I belief this is what god created those gag balls for ! LOL ok bad joke and I may burn in hell for but come on you are snickering with me.
I think she is trying to respark the flame and she wants you to make her feel more ALIVE again.She is feeling less desired and she cant just come out and say it so you should try making her feel that way and let her know during any time of day what you are thinking.Call her and try some phone sex with her.I dont mean you and her call each other and start getting over board and touching yourself but tell her what you where thinking while driving to work.Like I watched you lean over the counter this morning to get the cup of coffee and I had this image ... get my idea.
This would let her know you still have the flame lite and you wanted her to know.that can be what she is seeking.Give those lil booty pinchs to her while you walk near her in the hall or she walks by you while in the living room.Whislte at her and say something like you use too.I Know my wife raises an eyebrow when I do stuff like that.Let her know she still sparks your whick and you are more then willing to let the world know you still desire her.Sorry people but I was not trying to offend anyone but little things like that can and do spark those flames burning hot once again when them seem to be burning dull.
2006-08-30 11:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't think that you want her romantically, just sexually. You need to let her know that she is wanted not only physically, but emotionally as well. Do something romantic that she is not expecting, so she can see that you are open to romance and still love her soul and not only her body. Romance to women is not just flowers and saying I love you. Romance (to me at least) is cooking dinner every once in a while, or taking baths togehter. But don't get me wrong, flowers are nice. Try taking her out to a resteraunt that you have never been to before, or get back to your youth and take her on an ice skating date. I know it sounds cheesey, but it will mean the world to her, knowing that you like spending time outside of the bed. Please don't take this wrong, I'm not saying that you only want your wife in bed, but try to show her that you care about her, so she understands that too.
2006-08-30 11:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks you're not romantic send her on a scavenger hunt. Just before she gets off work, send her a single rose by messenger with a note.......
Make up some little notes to go here and buy something red, here to buy something silky......ect.........the last one that tells her to go to a floral shop and have flowers waiting for her to pick up with a card that says to meet you at a hotel.
You can add as many things you like for her to do and people love helping out, it's romantic, adverturous and exciting!
PS get a sitter for the afternoon!!!!
And if it helps you feel better......I'll agree on the 3 weeks of sanity and 1 week insane!
2006-08-30 11:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude how long you been married? You know by now women are unreasonable, irrational, and a bit pyscotic. Theres no point arguing with her for 40 minutes about anything you wont win, she doesnt hear a word you say, i doubt she even took a breath long enough for you to speak. Just shake your head yes say ya your right then get away fast.you could leave her but they are all the same . face it youll just have to suffer like the rest of us . stop whining.
2006-08-30 11:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to be a bit more romantic, like she said, not just bump in the house, have sex and leave.
She needs to feel that you STILL love her, and this is not just a matter of having sex, it's a matter of getting together (when the children are not at home, but just the 2 of you) and making love. She wants to feel that you still want, desire her. Try to be a little more...in love, you know what I mean.
2006-08-30 11:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's a nut case like most during PMS but i wish i had half your problem ,that would be the part were you get all this great brunch.I allready have the ***** part ,we get it on about twice a week . theres not much fire here / where did you say your wife works.dont put up with to much bull /hang in there
2006-08-31 02:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u 2 must hve too many damm free hrs to come home during the course of the day just to have a quickie..... same on u too!!
Isnt the night sex enough!!!!! If not then quit ur damm jobs in that way u both can have sex all damm day and eat brick for meals....
2006-08-30 11:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, your relationship sounds better than most that i´ve heard of out there....it just seems like it´s a minor thing, you seem to get on otherwise and everything...just say sorry or whatever, and take her out to dinner, i mean u can´t help that u have to get back to work, or would u make money from making love to your wife? You wish, I wish...!
Don´t take it to heart too much, that´s my advice...
2006-08-30 11:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by SWE-girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like a major case of PMS. But seriously, she is unhappy about something in her life. Be inquisitive and find out what's really bothering her. Buy her some chocolates, it wont hurt.
2006-08-30 11:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's being unreasonable. Don't fight with her about it though - just point it out to her and list off all the good things you DO do for her. Ask her which of those she would like to replace with so-called "romantic" things.
2006-08-30 11:28:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋