my husband is 50 and i am 30, we have alot of differences in opinions about everything from raising kids to everything in between.
2006-08-30 04:08:30 · 25 answers · asked by supermomma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well its kinda too late to back out we been married 9yrs. and have a 5yr. old together, but i have 2 older kids, one is a teen and it seems like the longer we are together the more we disagree
2006-08-30 04:20:45 · update #1
i still love him like he is my best friend, but all the disagreements drive me crazy
2006-08-30 04:55:43 · update #2
I am just speaking from my own experience, I think it is very hard to mix your age. My husband is 45 and me 30 I think life can be very difficult at most times. If you love each other I guess age isn't a factor..............but really I think it is. I am just as confused as you. Sorry I tryed to give some good advice but I guess I bummed out. Difficult yes especially when you have kids from a different relationship as I do.
2006-08-30 13:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by shadow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience let me tell you that even though age should not be a factor, it will become one at some point. I am married to a man that is 14 years older than I am and we see life very differently, we have issues in the bedroom because he is older and I am younger, he acts more like my father than husband somedays.
If you are married to him already, all I can say is it will be a ton of work but I do wish you much luck.
2006-08-30 11:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with a guy who is........hmm.....not going to say, but we have a much bigger age gap than that so i know what you mean about having different opinions about almost EVERYTHING, the thing is if you can both reach a compromise then i'm sure things can work out, it tends to be the older in the relationship thinks they are the ones who should have the most say but as long as you stand your ground then he will have no choice but to compromise, be sure yourself before you bring a baby into this, didn't say how long you had already been together??
2006-08-30 11:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkgem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a big gap, you'll probably be alright for the first 5-10 years if it goes that long but as the years go by it will feel like the gap is getting bigger. if you see red flags now (disagreements) its only a sign of whats to come. it will be easier to go your seperate ways now than when your married with kids.... give it alot of thought, look at the positives and the negatives and make the best decision with your interest in mind. good luck.
2006-08-30 11:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know this before you married? Yes, it can work out the age is not the problem. You could still have these same issues with a man that's closer to your age. It all depends on how you and your husband are willing to compromise. That's what marriage is all about - the compromise (give and take).
2006-08-30 11:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel lthis is going ot be a rough road.not only did you state you both ahve 2differentview on issues but with the age comes FRIENDS and family.I read every post and all state age either plays a role or not.
The answer is YES Age matters , you have family and he does.Friends are involved also.When you go to their houses , some will view you as a child ( his being 20 yrs your senior ) and yours will veiw him as a grandparent.Know this now and lear nto accept the facts other will avoid you or remove you from their circle for this.Also child will play a HUGH role in your lifes .Parebnts of other child will veiw this slightly different and will pass this on to their childre nand it may effect your childs life .
All of this is SAD and unfair I DO AGREE , but we all know how others pass judgement.Compromise is KEY and your ability to OVERLOOK others treatment of you and your Family with him will be the true test.It may work but it will be rough.
Family can be just a big pain just liek friends so watch those small whispers and lear nt ooverlook those narrow minded fools and you wil wetaher the rough roads well.
2006-08-30 11:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a few that have. It isn't the age difference that is the problem, it is the communications between the decades. The older, can treat the younger as a child. But what they need to remember is that you are both adults with you own ideas and opinions.
2006-08-30 11:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a stupid number... but on the under hand u guys needs to work on ur diffence in opinions fast cuzz this is not good for a healthy relationship
2006-08-30 11:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disagreements do not occur because of age. You can work through this just like any other problem. Just be open and honest with each other and have calm, non-judgmental conversations.
2006-08-30 11:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Just Another Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I'm sorry, but no. He's 20 yrs your senior for one....that means he was a sophomore in college when you were born!! I'm sorry, this is not a good idea. Especially if you differ in opinions about everything.
2006-08-30 11:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋