He's back in the routine of things, like before. And I feel that something's not right. I have never cheated on him and I don't understand why he keeps doing this to me. I have been good to him through the years. We've been married for almost 13 years. He's very sneaking. Thinking I', dumber than dirt, but I'm not.
2006-08-30 04:03:20 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would follow him and see where that leads. If you have the $ - hire a PI.
You need to see his cell phone bill, credit card statements. I would also sit him and down and ask him point blank if he is cheating on you again....
Why do you stay with this man? I mean is love enough for you to be treated with so little respect. He obviously doesn't respect himself or your marriage. I honestly would go to marriage counselling and tell him that if he is having an affair you will leave him. You won't be treated this way and want a man who loves you and doesn't just love you when it is convenient to him. A man who doesn't need other women to fulfill him - you would be enough! Good luck and my heart goes out to you!
2006-08-30 04:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just need a break, you need to find yourselves again. In a marriage, you can start losing the reality of who you once were, and time apart is the only way to find that.
If you think he's cheating, and he thinks you're dumb, then show him you have some backbone and leave for a little while.
Or ask him to leave, or get divorce papers and start filling them out and "accidently" leave them where he can see them.
It will definately be a conversation starter, (if you know he won't get abusive upon seeing them)..
Men do what they think they can get away with, if you ignore the problem, it makes it easier for them to do it. Noone deserves to be cheated on, once it's a learned behavior it's not easy to stop.
You have to put your foot down and show him that it's not how you want to be treated or deserve to be treated.
2006-08-30 04:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just needs to sow some "wild oats." Sex drive is a natural thing and hard to overcome. It takes the supernatural gifts of a special kind of love to achieve monogamy.
So decide whether you forgive him and stop worrying about it, or if you have already lost this round in the game of love and move on. You can't control him, threats won't work, and even if it did, it wouldn't be "real."
So do you love him enough to forgive his shortcomings?
If not, then don't torment him and you both...
2006-09-01 09:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Just David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't understand why your husband needs to cheat, then you don't understand men.
What are you doing that's driving him into the arms of someone else? Not providing enough sex? Nagging at him demanding things of him? Making these shallow judgments accusing him of donig something to YOU? If he's cheating, it sounds to me like the problem is he's NOT doing something to YOU. Maybe youre' just really bitchy to be around. What is your part in his behavior? If you don't have one, then maybe it's your attitude that's the problem.
If you didn't want a husband that cheats you should have chosen more wisely. Or did you marry him believing you would change him?
2006-08-30 04:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by gift_of_the_dragon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, don't let him do this to you. Better yet, don't let him even explain. There is no explaination for these acts. Pack his stuff for him, put it outside the front door and change the locks on the door. All before he comes home from work. Let it really sink in that you are not playing this time. give him a kick in the a**. A real reality check.
He wants his cake and to eat it too. Don't let him. Let it be known that you mean business..
2006-08-30 04:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by luv him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I were married 12yrs and she cheated on me the last 4yrs. We had a son together who was 10yrs old. I made a vow to her that it was forever. I couldn't leave her. Eventually she left and we've been separated for 9 months now. I can't tell you want you should do. Obviously it is not fair to you. If you don't have children, it is easier to leave but my wife broke my sons heart. She gave me custody when she left. If you have children you need to weigh the options. I still love my wife and hate that my son was hurt. I would've stayed in the marriage for him to be happy and also because I couldn't break my vow to her.
2006-08-30 04:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by scheib65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes, but I left after the first one. You should get out and GET A LIFE. There is a whole world out there for you. You DESERVE more. I am amazed at what a different person I am now than when I was with my ex and he was cheating. Your happiness, self-confidence and success will skyrocket. Good Luck.
2006-08-30 04:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Designchc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, just say to him baby you know I love you so I have decided to invite your little female friend over you have been cheating on me with to chat because I wanted to make sure you are happy after all I am in this relationship for your best interest! Smile wait on him hand and foot and make sure you prepare him a meal like a king! After wards make sweet love to him and then when he least expects it bring him a piece of cake and smash it in his face and tell him now he can have his cake and eat it too! Then just disappear with out a damn word. He'll never know what hit him go apply for divorce papers and serve his behind! Then tell him you let him get a taste of what it's like to have it his way like Burger King and now it's your turn after all you did do EVERY THING IN YOUR POWER TO MAKE HIM HAPPY! I have no explanation for his behavior accept that he wants his cake and to eat it too! Leave him sweet heart!
2006-08-30 04:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
file for a divorce mine did it 3 4 times but this past time was his last he is gone i am in the process of a seperation i been the best wife any man can ask for there is nothing he ever wanted for he claimed he needed attention the girl 1 of them keeps calling me he is trash so he belongs with trash I am better than that get away dont let him bring you down he is a low life not you good luck
2006-08-30 04:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people cheat to make themselves feel better. It's exciting and thrilling. Cheating can be very addictive and unless you confront him and threaten to leave it's highly unlikely that he'll change his behaviour. Just be very careful that if you threaten to leave... it may give him an "out" and be exactly what he wants... so be VERY sure that you don't want to be in the marriage anymore before the threat. ALSO... seek legal counsel. Good luck
2006-08-30 04:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by puresatin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋