i approached him & he said he don't know why he did it i am 1/2 step away from a divorce please answer if serious this is a serious matter my sister does not know yet anyway
2006-08-30 03:59:21 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my sister has no idea she came home from the hosp very sick on oxygen he set the camera up on his dresser & did it I may not know him but I know my sister she would never want him plus she was very sick at the time
2006-08-30 05:05:22 · update #1
I think u should cut your losses now........good - luck
2006-08-30 04:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by outback 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister first! And find out from your hubby how he would feel if you taped his brother or his brother taped you. Your relationship has a dent on two places which makes it a very hard call. If you and your hubby are supposed to be equals find out if you can still see him as such, if not either of you should start packing.
Keep in the forefront of your mind however that love is not logic and you may regret any logical conclusions as such. So reconsider the half step you've taken so far not only with logic and common sense but mostly with your heart!
Oh and kick your sister in the nuts, what was she thinking!!!
2006-08-30 11:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would KILL him...but don't just jump into a divorce...talk to him...see if he even takes it seriously...tell him how upset you are, and I'm sure he'll have an answer for you. Sometimes, it's better to scare your man than to pretend you never saw anything. Once they realize what they've done, and what they could lose as a result, he will be running back to you with at least a reason for his stupidity. But, you need to find out what is behind this video...most of the time, men are just stupid, and do stupid things that they can't control becasue they are men. Men don't have a sense of control, well some men, and because of that they make poor decisions. He saw a naked girl, doesn;t matter if it was your sister, and decided to videotape her. STUPID yes, DISRESPECTFUL yes, and also a man's move.
2006-08-30 11:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a bombshell... If the sister has been taped, how many others have been, too ??? Time for some serious consideration. I know what would happen in my house, it would be a Lorraina Bobbit case all over again, but I fear my outcome would be a lot more severe... Dude needs counseling, maybe , or you need to find someone that can manage to be faithful...
Good Luck, but I can tell you this, he knows EXACTLY why he did it...He likes to look at women naked, which I totally understand, but do not recommend for married indivuals.....Unless, of course, they are your partner...
2006-08-30 11:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by mobileminiatures 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not divorce him over this but I would be watching him and my sister very closely. Your husband needs help because that is not normal behavior to go around video taping women especially if they don't know about it. I believe it's against the law. I would talk to him and he would have to come up with something better than he doesn't know why. Either he get some help or he's got to go.
2006-08-30 11:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she should know. Maybe she was in on it. Ask her about it.If he loves you so much then why was he even looking at another woman especially naked? Sounds like you need to throw the pervert out of your life. How many other women has he been looking at and how far did THAT (look) go? Check the camera honey, you may be in for a shook
2006-08-30 11:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by lcj43938 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh heck that ain't nothing hes just trying to stay within the family,i'm married twins and i'm pretty sure that they have swapped more than once me around especially when one was single// what makes me think this is becaused when i'd get undressed they would just kinda look more intensely and was a little more aggressive than usual which was okay but it seemed a little strange because i could not keep from thinking that the other one was watching it all,but i'd get mad if i were being filmed//
2006-08-30 11:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by ma_2st 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him, Look at what he done, taped your sista, she suppose to be your sista what in the H@%$ do she think she is doing. This a so disgusting of them and why would you want to continue to be with him, if he videotaped her nude than what makes you think he want sleep with her if he aint already have. He is your husband let him go he aint worth trying to discuss anything with him, he videotaped your fleshing blood-your sista, if that was me he would laying in the hospital right now with some hard to heal bruises. This is a serious matter and what he needs to be doing is getting the %@&& out. You don't deserve this man at all.
2006-08-30 11:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at your previous questions it appears you have more than one problem going on with your husband. I think you and he need to go somewhere that you will be alone and have a calm, honest, non-judgmental conversation about where you and want to go with your relationship. The sister tape I would let go, you are already dealing with one problem, don't start one with your family because they will be your support group should you and your husband split up. So he saw her naked, is that really big deal in the scope of what you are dealing with?
Pick your battles, and limit your fronts.
2006-08-30 11:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Just Another Guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cyndi.. NO. This is truly awful. Its cringing... and its probably just the tip of the iceberg. I am sorry, I know you are married to this guy... but NO. What would your sister think.... How dare he. This is wrong on every possible level. Some things are just plain weird and not excusable. This is worse.... NO.
2006-08-30 11:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by madgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister she has a right to know she has been viloated , then leave him cant trust someone like that one thought away from divorce or not thats no excuse. when everyone else is gone you have your family and you need someone who fits into that bracket , id lose him fast
2006-08-30 11:08:49 · answer #11 · answered by Kitten,Doc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋