if you are how do you change from being a possessive person
2006-08-30 03:57:35 · 12 answers · asked by Marsha B 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Insecurity & fear of abandonment is what usually drives people to try to control others. Also, somtimes it is due to childhood abuse.The feeling of being controlled by another individual, causes the abusee to grow up trying to control everything around them, in an effort to NOT be controlled themselves.
Recognition of the problem and it's possible underlying causes is a step in the right direction.
Seeing a qualified therapist is another.
2006-08-30 04:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by DG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many things can cause a person to be possessive. If its possessiveness over another person it can be attributed to jealousy, insecurity, their instabilities, etc.
If they are possessive over objects or materialistic things it can be caused by pride, envy etc. If you are the possessive one you can speak to a professional who may walk you through some mental tasks you can do in situations of possessiveness. If it is someone else do not bother trying to change them as it will never happen.
2006-08-30 04:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly what "azoasis" said, fear of losing someone,first off this is just my opinion, and i mean just that!!!
if you are doing all the things that you believe are right in the relationship then you have nothing too fear,you cant stop someone from leaving if that's what they want too do.
it's not your fault they want too leave, so you should let go of them and conquer your fear.
i am not saying don't try to talk to them or come too an understanding and maybe they might change their minds but being possessive or trying to keep them from going only makes it hard for the people involved.
( i want too add this does not include Minor's )
2006-08-30 04:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by lesdrake2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity & fear.
The best way to cure insecurity is to deal with unresolved core issues and identify the negative lies we believe about ourselves. Every person is incredibly valuable, and has a unique contribution to make. That truth doesn't really help us though until we believe it.
The best way to rid oneself of fear is whenever you have a thought that is based in fear, replace it with the appropriately related thought that is based on love. Love is the only thing that can conquer fear.
2006-08-30 04:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change someone else. You can change your own behavior though, you just have to really want to. A behavior like that is usually learned from your parents. To get it out of your system, counseling is probably the best way.
2006-08-30 04:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by kittyluver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As perplexing because it will be to accomplish that, you will ought to positioned a give up to this. It very virtually looks that she is captivated alongside with your infants and have self belief it or no longer it is very risky to your infants to be getting to understand from their relationship together with her. reckoning at this manner of guy or woman she is and the type you experience she will have the capacity to react on your confronting her, you will ought to weigh out your innovations. perhaps sit down her down and tell her in an extremely extreme-high quality way that it "fairly" bothers you that she is doing those issues and be brutally honest together with her in this technique so she will have the capacity to comprehend how undesirable it is bothering you. on the comparable time, tell her which you delight in the certainty that she admires your infants lots yet which you're feeling there's a line that should not be crossed. enable her comprehend your limitations. If she would not comprehend then she will have the capacity to aim you to work out how far you will enable her to circulate. some MIL attempt to proceed to run their son's residences while they have moved on with their lives. My son and his spouse in simple terms had a toddler and that i'm attempting to be very responsive to my DIL thoughts. i desire this works out for you. stable luck.
2016-10-01 02:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by luera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's from the lack of knowledge that a person has. They feel that they may not be good enough or do not measure up so they become this way.Sometimes pure Jealousy to.
2006-08-30 04:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lack of control over subject or situation. Otherwise, anal-retention.
2006-08-30 04:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by CherryBam.com 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lack of self esteem & confidence.
2006-08-30 04:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have to be overprotective about something and want it so much that it leads to fear and mental sicknesses, at least thats what i think.
2006-08-30 04:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋