I have been in a relationship for the past 14 years and being bored with sex and i have noticed my partner is in the same shoe as i am. Both of us are watching x rated films to drive up the sex libido. but i wonder, will it work if we have one more partner, just for the heck of sex? please need an advice,thanks. By the way, am talking about same sex here.
2006-08-30 03:50:17 · 15 answers · asked by javo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh dear dear dear. No, I don't think threesomes actually work in the Long-run. They do work well in the short term; but as affections grow someone ends up being the odd-man out and jelousies begin to affect what once was a fun time. My advice would be to really carefully consider this. If it's just for casual sex, have a good time but please just be careful. Blessings.
2006-08-30 04:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you must discuss it extensively and choose your (temporary) third person carefully. You want to make sure that neither person in the couple feels that this is being suggested because they are not adequate.
Be careful in choosing the third person that it is someone that you both find attractive. The main problem, I always found, in threesomes, is that it sometimes turned out to be a twosome and a onesome. Then someone feels left out (not usually the invited guest).
That's why a foursome or more sometimes works out better, there's a lot more sharing and less possessiveness.
I'm serious. With a past partner, a 4- or 5- some was always a lot more fun, and one person can easily sit out for a while and rest/recharge without diminishing the action level 100%.
Good luck!
2006-08-30 03:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your partner both need to talk this out between yourselves and decide if this is really what you both want and need. Maybe a romantic getaway or a candlelight dinner or some other non-sexual activity out of the ordinary might "boost" your feelings for one another. If you do decide to have the threesome, make sure your partner knows that HE will be the one with whom you stay after the orgy.
2006-08-30 04:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and/or your partner may like the threesome a little to much, but it never hurts to try it. Maybe some toys and try to get like a kamasutra book, they have lots of good idea and position that you guys may enjoy, cause i know i do! Lol But Toys are very good too even when having toys in the threesome, it's different and fun, Enjoy!!
2006-08-30 04:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by sour_apple809 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I have had a few. While we have been good with it -- through lots of communication, we have had these with friends and almost always the friend becomes no more. I'd say it is best not to have someone that one of you is more attracted to, but rather someone who you both think is okay - - and might be a good laugh.
2006-08-30 08:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might think of he's finding to fulfill a fable and needs me to be somewhat of it. adult men look at various porn and there is various MFM in porn. the two adult men not often ever have any interplay with one yet another, so it is not a gay ingredient. He might discover it a activate to exhibit screen you fulfill yet another guy. basically be careful. some adult men do no longer understand they are jealous until whilst they have began something. Swinging is large if the two events are pleased with it, in spite of the shown fact that it could end a marriage if the two has jealousy themes.
2016-09-30 04:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you and your partner honestly talk about the issue,then you two can decide if it is a good idea.let your partner be included in deciding on a partner if you two decide to do it.have you tried role playing yet with your partner?it can be fun without an outsider.
2006-08-30 03:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by eajake3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've found that it can work with first and foremost a lot of communication and honesty!!! i mean a lot!!! then your third should be someone you know well enough to have some knowledge of history and attitude towards safety. i found it was best with someone that was not in either of our lives on a daily basis. we knew her, but didn't have the same circles AT ALL!!! tried it with a friend and that got dramma filled and ugly. talk talk talk!! be safe, have fun!
2006-08-30 08:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a big fan. It may spice things up for a little bit, but then the jealousy of seeing your partner with another may kill you inside.
2006-08-30 04:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask your partner about it, and if you're both open about watching porno I'm sure you can both be open about adding something else to your sex life.
2006-08-30 09:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋