how can i balance my work, school, family and him? is it even possible?
2006-08-30 03:48:54 · 17 answers · asked by Gia M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Most people do it. I don't see why you are any different. It just takes work to plan out times for all the different pressures. Just try, it's not too hard.
2006-08-30 03:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ray M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that is the age old dilemma. We all struggle with this, and once you have kids it is even more complicated.
I, personally, think there is a way to balance it all and I think that when we are talking about balance, we need to focus not on each day but on our lifetime. It is hard to get everyone in one day, but if out of 7 days you devote one to each area (and don't forget yourself - you must first nourish yourself, then there will be plenty for others!) that is balance, isn't it? I am not saying to actually do that, I am trying to illustrate that there is more to balance then doing everything in one day.
Here are some of the things that I do:
Try to visualize your perfect idea of balance - the more clearly you can see your life as you want it, the more likely you will get exactly what you want.
Try to go with the flow. I have 2 kids, work from home with my husband, volunteer in my community and have strong friendships and other family relationships that I try to maintain. I try to schedule my time out like crazy and I can get miffed when my carefully planned schedule is messed up - but I have found that if I instead go with the flow (play with my kid for 1/2 hour when she asks and then get back to work once she is bored with me) I find that everything gets done and everyone is happier.
I do still try to schedule and get a feel of what I want my days to be like. I am also very lucky that my husband and I have such similar dreams and we get to work together from home (as computer consultants) with our kids (who we homeschool). For me, making the right choice of men has made all the difference.
Peace, Sister!
PS - mine could not be more perfect and life is still a balancing act. There is so much to do in this existence, we all want to maintain a full schedule and get the most our of our journey.
2006-08-30 11:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-09-06 12:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to prioritize according to what you feel is more important to you. I know how that is I mean I went through balancing my life before my bf and then the complications of him in it now. Its tough for me because my family doesn't like him, but both him and my family understand that I care for both sides and don't want to leave one or the other. If your man really cares for you like that he'll understand and maybe he might actually help you budget your time. Good luck girl.
2006-08-30 10:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by sxykhmai22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is if that someone supports you in your dreams. They will have to understand the dedication you ahve to those dreams. Like assisting you with your school work or visiting the family with you. You will also have to make time for them alone once in awhile. Married couples do this all the time.
2006-08-30 10:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is possible. Just keep all of your dreams in sight, and make sure he wants you to accomplish them as well. Both him and your family should support you to the end. You do not need to sacrifice who you are or who you want to be in order to be with someone. Best of Luck
2006-08-30 10:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible. it's not the amount of time you spend one someone or something, it's the quality time you spend. if he loves you, he will understand that your work, school and family are important and support you.
2006-08-30 10:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the right one for you, it won't seem like a chore and you won't feel like you're doing a balancing act. The right person will be the wind beneath your wings, not try to clip them.
2006-08-30 10:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, as long as your significant other is on board. Just make sure he's supportive of you and don't try to take advantage of him, then things should be okay.
2006-08-30 10:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by asmithisluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you try, it is possible. you just have to prioritize different things and combine activities (family and him, school and family...)
If you are in love, then this feeling gives you wings to follow your dreams.
2006-08-30 10:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋