I dicovered my partner of 3 years had been seeing someone else who he met on holiday 9 months ago, I found a text on his phone and wrote down the number and called her, she did not know i existed and was shocked when i told her who i was and that she had been seeing the man I lived with.
They had been meeting up on various days and nights and spending time together in hotels up and down the country, She lives 100 miles away and they met up half way, this hd been going on for 9 months and I had no idea!! I trusted him when he said he was going on business trips and can even remember ringing him while he was away and him tellinging me all the details of his so called trip (I belived him) She said they texted daily and had met up nearly every other week. When I confronted him he could not deny it any longer and I kicked him out. When I spoke to her she said she wanted him so like a fool i took him back. 3 months on he says its over still with her, but the pain i feel hurts every day!!
2006-08-30 03:48:26 · 24 answers · asked by roxyxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-08-30 03:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by Chris O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt and the pain is real. But believe me it only gets better. Yes it takes awhile and may never go completely away but it won't always hurt so much. My hubby cheated on me after 8 yrs of marriage and 2 children. My kids were only 21/2 and 3 months. I lost my youngest son to crib death, found out my hubby was having an affair, my dad died, and our house burned all in the same year. I thought my life was over and for awhile I was a total zombie. But it is a few years later now and although the pain is still with me it's not a constant thing and is bearable. If I can cope with all I have been through then just know that you too will get through your hurt and pain. I am truly sorry however, and wish you only future happiness.
2006-08-30 04:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by looking for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you took him back only to spite her. That is not a good enough reason to make a relationship work. You will not forget what has happened to you with this man. The best you can do is work through it and try to start over. The question that I have for you - what is your trust factor? Will you be able to trust him again?
These are tough questions that you have to ask yourself, and remember that if you are going to work it out - you need to be able to let it go. You cannot live the rest of your life constantly throwing his indiscretion in his face.
My guess would be that your first instinct - to kick him out - was probably the correct one for you. Even though you have a lot of pain over what has happened, and if you choose to move on without him it will continue to hurt for a while - but it will pass. You will find someone who cherishes you and have a happy life that includes being able to trust.
2006-08-30 03:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunnie you have no clue how much i understand you,...same thing happened to me...I found out in april and i stayed because i dont want ne one else to be wit him because i couldnt handle that and i thought i would give it a 2nd chance and hope that i could forgive and forget....he proposed to me this summer but today as i type this i was on yahoo tryin to find a way to figure out if i should keep this up or not...it is putting a huge strain on my life not being able to trust him and arguing all the time...the pain hurts so much and i have to see the girl he cheated on me with pretty much everyday.,...i guess my best advice and the question that i myself am trying to answer is does the bad and the pain that you are enduring outweight the good...im starting to realize in my situation that sure, leaveing him will hurt like hell...but stayin with him hurts like hell too...im tryin to pick the better of the 2 evils and i hope you are able to do so as well....good luck hun and thank u for making me realize im not the only one out there that this happened to...god bless
2006-08-30 04:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going to offer a distinctive opinion then all human beings else he would he won't it relies upon my husband cheated 4 cases left and married the final one we've been given divorced and we had a good marriage i by no ability observed it coming he wasnt a undesirable made in basic terms had some severe sexual temptation subjects i think of that became into lacking in are marriage hes looks happier now and with each and all the hell are relatives went threw im thninking he would desire to think of two times previously he does it lower back so i think that during a clean clean relationship possibly they wont.
2016-12-17 19:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two things to consider, yes you will forgive him but you will never forget and you will never trust him again, and 98% of men who cheat do it again and again. so what is the point of hanging around and being hurt 3 years down the line when you could have moved on and be happier? and to me a relationship without trust is not worth anybody's time. take your time and think about things and all the best
2006-08-30 05:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by malaika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like you do lack a lot of logic. You should tell him to **** off and never look back at him. Get over the 'pain' cold turkey; its possible but once its gone you realise how stupid you were to feel even hurt.
Have some standards and integrity, its unbelievable how many women lack that too.
2006-08-30 03:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by psy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain you feel is your self-worth kicking your mental butt. You should never have taken him back. A one-night stand may be forgiven, but a long-term thing is a whole different story. He has no respect for you and you have none for yourself. Get him out of your life and get back your self-respect. No man is good enough in bed to make up for you hurting.
PLUS GET TESTED FOR AIDS/STD's RIGHT AWAY!!!!!!
2006-08-30 04:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think this through without emotion. What would you tell your best friend? In fact, I'm sure your best friend has already told you to dump the guy.
If you haven't got children, the answer is straightforward. Dump him. He's broken trust and that can never be mended.
If you've got kids, well, that's more messy ...
2006-08-30 04:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will do it again and again cuz he knows you took him back the first time sorry im speaking from experience. when they lie for so long they actually start to believe the lie themselves. you will never get over it hun just move on else everytime you argue its always gonna be brought up. the pain is tremendous i know but you are worth so much more than this 2timing lieing decieving turd. good luck
2006-08-30 04:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋