Why can't men pee in the toilets or put lids on toothpaste?!!!?

Question

My hubby never puts lids on, always puts the roll of toilet paper on upside down and can never put away food or pitchers of drinks. That's just naming a few!!!!!!!!! It's so frustrating! I wanted a husband not a son!

Answer 1

Well if you continue to do these things for him, he's going to continue acting like another child honey. The next time the toilet is peed on, hand him a rag and tell him to clean it himself. The toilet paper roll...sorry, but you are just going to have to let that one go. As for for the food and pitchers? Leave it out (it'll drive you nuts, be really annoying) but when he goes to use it again and sees that he left it out and you didn't put it back for him, it's going to register in that thick skull of his that he has to do it himself.

I have a husband and four boys at home. I went through this a few years back. It took a week of me not following them around cleaning up after them for them to understand that they were capable of doing half of this stuff themselves. And it was pretty basic stuff that I thought everyone knew, like put your clothes away, put your shoes away, wipe down a counter when you've dirtied it...and then don't wipe it onto the floor, etc. Once they realized there wasn't a cleaning fairy, they started doing it on their own. Prior to that, I would yell and it would fall on deaf ears. Now I pick my battles wisely. If they complain about dinner, I'll get something fast food and they'll either cook for themselves or starve...but they get the point. I hate to say this but men aren't the sharpest tools in the shed. But women? I think at birth, we were all handed this thing called...a thought process....and low and behold...we use it!

Good luck honey!

Answer 2

You sound as if you are frustrated with something else and is just looking for something to nag about....Some guys are still grown little boys, if their mothers did all those things for them when they were little..well guess what?? They expect the same things from you. My mom would wake me and my little brothers up if we didn't put the toilet seat down..no matter what time of night it was so you can't put all men in that category. We're not all neanderthals!!!

Anyway you can have so much more to worry about....be grateful that he has his little idiosyncracies and is not out cheating or mistreating you. Just ask some of these women who have had the latter, they would switch guys with you in a heartbeat if they only had to worry about those little things instead of beatings or disrespect!! I'm sure you have your own little "quirks" that drive him over the top too!!! BUT......if you want to show him how much that stuff annoys you without nagging about it....start doing some of the same things....don't flush the toilet on purpose when you know he's about to use the same bathroom....when you brush your teeth take the toothpaste with you in another room where he has to either look for it or ask you where you put it...When he starts to ask you what are you doing then tell him thats how you feel when he does the other stuff.....now the toilet paper is another story...anyway it goes it still rolls you know!!

Answer 3

my husband does the same things, except for the food and drinks. He doesn't see a problem with the toilet paper and says that I am doing it backwards, he has his own toothpaste so if he leaves it open it is his problem if it dries out, not mine. I don't think there is a man in the world who can pee in the toilet and get it all in. My problems lies in the fact that my hubby refuses to pee sitting down for any reason, he will take a dump, clean up then stand to pee, he says that because his penis is small he is afraid that if he sits to do both at the same time he is going to pee out the front between the bowl and the seat. Where do guys get these ideas?
My husband refused to bathe our son for the first oh almost year I would say, at least not by himself. He told me that it was wrong for one guy to touch another guys parts. I don't know what the difference was but he never had a problem changing diapers at all. I barely had to change our son the first 2 weeks because he wanted to do it to let me rest more. I don't know how I managed to change that idea, but now every Gabe has a bath and Shaun bathes him every other time, he will even pick-up the slack if I am not home when it is bath time and my turn.
He does a lot of the cleaning and playing, I do groceries, laundry, cooking, bills and we split on bath time, garbage recycle and food bin, and dishes. It feels like I do a lot at times but he cleans up after me as well. He looks after me if I get sick, he loves that part of it. I can handle our son being sick but not my hubby so he is on his own then and on the couch.

Answer 4

Because they've had mothers following them around all their lives doing it for them. Ask him to put it away, don't do it for him. Re-teach him. Because if all you do is complain about it, you're teaching him to ignore the complaining b/c he knows you'll do it anyway.

And no, I have no idea why it isn't common sense to put a pitcher of drink back into the fridge. lol

Oh, the peeing in toilets bit--I actually had a guy tell me once that it's rather like trying to pee through a long, thin soft, rubbery hose. IOW, not easy. But I took from that some men just got better aim than others. ;D

Answer 5

It's gonna be tough....I call mindless. Man do not have a mind for details. so certain things do not occur to be wrong for them like putting the toilet seat down or putting the toilet paper up side down. but your problem seems more then that. he's actually careless or forgetful. talk to him and tell how you feel about it. good luck... it's gonna take a while before he grows into a minded husband.

Answer 6

You actually have a lot to be thankful for. At least you know his prostate is good and he's brushing his teeth. If the jars are open, it just means easy access to the contents. As opposed to most of us, he is replacing the TP roll. And, even though he doesn't put things away, he is taking nourishment. Finally, you have to remember, every man is somebody's son. Have patience, you'll eventually get him trained, sooner or later every wife does.

Answer 7

Because men only think about whats convenient for them, not about how their actions effect others. Not all men...but most of the ones Ive met. I hate having male guests over to my house. They never put the seat down and I always end up cleaning urine off of the front of the toilet...Its disgusting! Men need to go to charm school or something...

Answer 8

maybe your just a nag.. perfectionist OR maybe they just have learnt the art of selective idiotness.. it pisses me off that men suddenly gain a phobia or are unable to operate a washer, hoover or wash the dishes yet they can still operate t.v.s and computers.. strange how they suddenly get an allergy to washing up liquid or other hygienic substances..
to your list id like to add turning lights off when they leave a room, and drinking out of the bottle are two other annoying habits most men seem to have...
can i just add hislady has hit the nail on the head with her answer

Answer 9

Well my best advice is... worse things could happen. He could be out cheating on you, could beat the crap out of you... if this is the worst that you've got I really don't think its worth complaining about. What do you think his list about you would consist of?

And by the way, I put the toilet paper roll on upside down to. Guess what, it is a roll so either way it still works.

Answer 10

Why can't women parrallel park ? Why can't they change the oil in a car ?? Why can't they walk through a store without buying something because it's "on sale" ????

You sound like a real pain in the azz and I feel sorry for your husband because he married a bitchy old lady