I know you may say pack up and leave but we have kids that are involved. Plus everything is in my name the house, cars etc and I have tried telling him to leave and that has been unsuccessful. Any suggestions?
2006-08-30 03:36:28 · 9 answers · asked by mzladyj01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have had the "conversation" sever times and I have told him over and over again that it is not working out and he keeps telling me that is not an option and tries to keep going on like nuthing has happened or been said
2006-08-30 03:47:56 · update #1
You really need to contact a lawyer. Divorce is expensive but I will tell you what I have learned from watching several....she who files first has the most rights. I am not kidding about this. My SIL got screwed over because she was an at home mom and her "loving dear" husband filed for divorce first, got the kids and kicked her out of the house. She had nothing. Zippo. Nadda. And the fight goes on even 3 years later. She is divorced and remarried to a great guy now but she still doesn't have her kids. She didn't have a job, therefor couldn't afford a lawyer.
GET ONE NOW IF YOU ARE SERIOUS ABOUT THIS BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T YOU WILL REGRET IT.
Good luck and Goddess bless!
2006-08-30 03:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by crazygodddesss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation as you are. I am trying to seperate and I suggest that it will take time and not to be too pushy. Be sure you and if you have kids have a place to go or he has a place to go. Then do it. I will be doing this soon, but I have little support where I live, because see I moved to another state to try to help our marriage and here I am 2 years later and I will be leaving for good this time!
Good luck and I'll be thinking of you!!!
2006-08-30 06:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by jpet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly not happy and things can not be worked out, then go ahead and file for divorce and that will force him to get out, I know you dont want to make a scene around the kids, so have them stay with family or friends and tell him that if he does not get out you will call the police to escort him out. If everything is in your name he will have to get out once you file for divorce anyhow, maybe he doesnt think you are serious contact a lawyer then give him the name and number of the lawyer and tell him to contact the lawyer and that he has "x" days to get out. Good luck sweetie!
2006-08-30 04:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just need a break, you need to find yourselves again. In a marriage, you can start losing the reality of who you once were, and time apart is the only way to find that.
Depending on how long you have been married, if you have children, it can really take it's toll on them without you even knowing it! They see and understand more than we know, and if you are miserable...they are!
You can have him physically removed by the police if he isn't willing to leave. Talk to the local police dept. they can tell you how they can remove him without incident.
Good Luck.
2006-08-30 04:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is not rite her? Why do u want to seperate from ur spouse?? there must b a proper reason y.
Well just sit him down n talk to him calmly that things r not goin the way it should n that u want out of the relationship, and if he dont take it seriously then throw his damm things out and move on
2006-08-30 03:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him one more time.if that doesn't work and he becomes violent call 911.restraining orders are a good idea but are only good if followed by other party also.an order of protection works a whole lot better because if he violates that,then he will immediately be put in jail.talk to a divorce attorney immediately!
2006-08-30 04:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by eajake3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not taking you very seriously when you ask him to leave.
Sit him down, tell him its simply not working for you (whatever the problem is) and you want a separation.
I wish you luck.
2006-08-30 03:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer, a restraining order ( cause the boy dont sound right) and a divorce
2006-08-30 04:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by wilfreds805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
filed for divorce......
2006-08-30 03:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋