I am FAT, OBESE and Powerless--Can I control my eating Habits?

Question

I am also an Alcoholics Anonymous member and they tell me I am Powerless and I have a Disease!

It must be the "cross I must carry" and Jesus will surely Save me. Ask Bill W. or my very best cultist, Clancy!

Oh Jesus, Save Me and Take me Home!

Answer 1

First of all, we are not "powerless" in the fight of addiction. Having faith is a great thing, especially during times of distress and hardship. However, if you rely solely on faith to get you through, you may have a rude awakening.

The problem I have with AA is that the organization itself becomes an addiction. True healing comes with the ability to moderate what you put in your body. Of course, we need food to survive and not alcohol. But, I feel that the human spirit remains a slave to their addiction by completely suppressing desires. MODERATION. You won't hear that word at an AA meeting because they want you to be powerless. When you go through the 12 steps, you are lifting responsibility off your shoulders by "admitting you're powerless to a disease." The point in rehabilitation is taking responsibility for your own actions and moving forward from there.

Don't be a victim. Use the power of prayer to help you through and seek other forms of therapy for your troubles as well.

Answer 2

Trust me, and know this Jesus hears you...never doubt that. We all have crosses to carry, and we all become desperate, but don't become so desperate that you lose your soul. everyone has challenges in life to face that we would much rather do without, and some of us have more rainy days than others, but don't you dare give up.
You need to ask yourself when do you find yourself eating more...is when something upsets you, when your down, you sound like you need to be doing something to take your mind off all this eating, you need to find a hobby, another interest, and not focus on eating so much...the good thing is you have recognized you have a problem, so this tells me that maybe you do have some power to help yourself, and you also have a choice to continue like this, or make things better so be Strong and make a choice...i know which one I'd choose, keep the faith, be strong, keep telling yourself you can do this for you no one else...remember people only have the power to tell you what you can, and cannot do if you give them the power, keep it for yourself to work on yourself, and feel better about yourself. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Well you have to want to change and start a program for weight loss that works for you another words if you don't like fish than I wouldn't try a diet that works by eating lots of fish. The important thing is to remember that you have to try one day at a time. I don't think anyone wakes up and feels so motivated they decide to lose 100 1bs., just pray for daily strength and starting taking control of your life. Excuses don't work! We can all find them and use them what does work is telling yourself enough is enough and taking charge!
We all have the power to change and we also can whine about the woe is me mentality, they are people with real disability's people without limbs that ski, run and win marathons. You must decide are you a whiner or a winner?
Good luck!

Answer 4

There is a similar organization called Over Eaters Anonymous. You could look there. You could also seek counseling to determine the root cause of your overeating. Alternatively, if you only ate things that were available to Jesus during his lifetime, you would avoid a lot of fattening stuff. Jesus was slender after all.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you feel so terrible about yourself. Your not powerless and whoever told you that needs to have the crap knocked out of them!!! And you need to prove them wrong!

I lived with an alcoholic my whole life..my older brother. I lost him to suicide the day after Thankgiving..Nov. 25 2005. He had just turned 46 years old. I cry everyday over his death. He thought no one loved him...he was wrong. He thought he could never stop drinking..he was wrong.

You have a disease..one YOU can control. Its not cancer..it can be controlled and lived with. Its called addiction. You are addicted to food, alcohol, and a feeling of powerlessness. Our bodies create a secretion everytime we feel something..anger, love, happiness, sadness, ect. And when we eat or drink it gives us a feeling. We drink because we are celebrating or upset or whatever.. same with eating. We get used to and addicted to that secretion, that feeling...even powerlessness BUT, we can change that and retrain our bodies to secrete a different hormone one associated with happiness and laughter. You can do it.

If you believe in Jesus then you must believe in THE CREATOR. That higher power put you here on this earth for a reason. He created you and the earth to enjoy and wonder at it.You have forgotten to look at a flower and wonder at its beauty. Do you have children or nieces or nephews? You have forgotten to look at them and wonder at thier beauty. You have forgotten how to be a child and look at the world through a childs eye. You have forgotton to appreciate all things beautiful, wild, wonderful... the creations God has put here for you...his beautiful child.

You go through hardships..true..we all do. Some are really sick screwed up hardships. BUT, you can either be a victim or make up your mind and work through it. Use that hardship to help others work through thiers. You will never relize how great you can feel when you hold your head high and say I made a difference in someones life. Those secretions will spread throughout your body and you can get addicted to that.

Seek help because you need help. You have taken that first step going to AA so you must want a change. Now find a good psychologist, go to overeaters anonymous, take a walk through the park and stop and smell the roses, and volunteer at a soup kitchen or meals on wheels and start helping others. You'll feel so much better about yourself when you do. You can choose be a victim or not.

BTW, I have lost 140 pounds so I understand how hard it is..and it seems easier to hide out in your house because your embarrassed. I've been there. trust me I know. But its not easier.... because you feel unsuccessful at everything, out of control. How can that be easy? But, your not unsuccessful until you make up your mind to be unsuccessful, sweetheart...you are in control. Pray about it..give your burdens to God...and change all the things about you that you know you can change. You can't do it alone...but you must make up your mind alone. I feel so much better about myself and I'm happy with the changes I've made in my life. I decided to stop being a victim, talked to a psychologist, I help other people ( I belong to a suicide survivors group) and except help from them. Your not Powerless!!!! You are a beautiful creation with free will....
If you need someone to talk to please email me...

Answer 6

Simple solution is "dont buy anything not good for health". stock your fridge with items good for health like fruits, oats, cereals etc. when u are hungry, eat an apple. ask some family member to manage your finances. they shud not give you money to buy junk food, alcohol etc.
if you dont have it, how can u eat/drink it? if you use credit cards, ask your friends to hide em. develop some good hobbies. they will take your mind off food. so you wont constantly think about food.

if you dont have any work, volunteer at some "blind school" or orphanage. keep your mind occupied with work at all times.


wishing you all the best. nothin is impossible. spend your time in devotional services.

Answer 7

Be happy,Don't listen to know one but GOD. He will help you. You are special and looks and habits don't mean anything.You have a gift to help others and we all are born with a drive in us.Help your self,for your self not others.Don't give up because you are not like others,Different is what makes up the world. It is okay !! Live your life to help people no matter what is going on with you. you will become stronger helping people any way you can. God will take you only if it is yur time if not use him to guide you.

Answer 8

Are you kidding? You can controlled your self if you really make a decision about your self. If you don't have confident you can't do anything . No one perfect. But if you make perfect efforts and moves you will reach what ever you like. If you couldn't do by your self then you need to ask your doctor to recommend any counseling. Therapy will help you.

Answer 9

If you believe you're powerless, then pray to God to remove your desire to over-eat.

If he doesn't I guess you'll just have to die.

Or maybe, just maybe, you could start believing in yourself. You're not powerless and only you can change your behaviors.

Answer 10

The whole idea of self help groups is this: If you can change your thought process you can change your world. Good luck.