i am 1 month pregnaunt and im 18 scared what my parents is going to say please help must i tell them?

Question

if i do tell them my mom will take me for an aborsen I have a boyfriend who is the baby's father and he is very supportive
please help

Answer 1

One funny thing about pregnancy... its just a matter of time before you are told on... either by the growing of your stomach... or by miscarriage.

You really need to let someone know very soon. You need to start your prenatel vitamins and such. I mean..you are 18 this is when you should start acting like an adult. If your boyfriend is very supportive then he should be out now getting a job or saving money to support the both of you.. such as roof over your head, food, doc visits, etc.

At this age your mother has no rights to have you get an abortion. You are now of legal age and you have a say so in it. If you are living with your parents however, I see where their say so can be. You and your boyfriend created this baby now its your decision on what to do. No need for abortion though. There are many many familes out there who unfortunately cannot have children and are really wanting to adopt. Explain to your mother not to deny them of this. During the pregnancy I am sure she will start getting excited herself. Allow her to be a part of the pregnancy such as asking questions, listening to her. You are two adults that need to speak rationally about this.

But to answer your question Yes I think you should tell them. No matter the conquences you made your bed now you have to lie in it.
Good luck.

Answer 2

First, think through the possible outcomes, which would include abortion, adoption, raising the baby with your bf, raising the baby alone. And maybe other possibilities as well. Then decide, of those possible outcomes, which one do you really want to happen the most? Then do that.

I will tell you there are a lot of childless couples out there looking to adopt. Did you perhaps see the NBC show Dateline last night? It may have been the best one they ever did, and Vicky Corderi moved way up in my book. If you have a computer and Internet access, which you obviously do, you can find adoptive parents for your baby.

Answer 3

He may be supportive, but does that make you two able to care for a baby in all his needs? You have to consider a whole lot of things, babies need lots of care and love (and money, of course) to grow up. If you both have a job, that would help. If you're both mature enough (not only think it, but act it), then that's a good thing too. If you're really close, that's one more good point. But parents' support is fundamental, when you're so young.
18 still is a very young age to become parents, even though there are some people I know who made good parents at a very young age.
I think talking to your parents might create some riot but it still looks like the best thing to do. Try to sit down and write a letter, explaining your point of view and how you mean to care for your baby, what you feel, etc, and then either give it to them or simply use it to work out a sort of "speech" better. It won't be easy on them in any case, you know.
Remember though that even if your bf loves you dearly and says he will be supportive, this doesn't mean everything will work out fine with him. He might still leave. This isn't meant to wreck you or lower your trust in him or anything, just remember nothing is 100% sure, and fatherhood at 18 is a tough thing to handle.
If you do not want to abort your parents cannot force you to, still they can make your life hell. Telling them after the 4th month doesn't make it any better, anyhow. Think about it and see if there is anyone (relatives, family friends, etc) who is willing to help you out if your parents turn out to be too critical on it.

The news is most probably going to shock your parents, so try to find a "soft" way to tell them, and then give them time. They might need lots of time to accept it or understand it, but keep yourself opened to speech, try not to fight about it, that will only make you seem less mature.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Since you have posted this question right here, I feel you are in a dilema but certainly you wish not to carry on with the pregnancy. I strongly feel that in any case you should go for the abortion and that should be conveyed to your bf but certainly not to your mother. If you want to continue with the pregnancy then only you should convey your parents. Since you already know that your parents are going to go for the abortion so you should be prepared for the alternative plan, like you may have to leave the house.
In all probability abortion is the right decision but without telling your parents and in future beware of it. Play safe till you get married. Society thinks differently for an unmarried mom. Legal issues raised by some of the fellows are just for academic interest.

Answer 5

Your mom will always be there for you there is no guarentee that your boyfriend will. Your only 18 having a baby right now would limit what your options. Think about what you want to do and what is the best for you and your baby. You never know your mom might be supportive or giving you child up for adoption may be the best way to go.

Answer 6

I am 17 years old (I'll be 18 in November) and when I foound out I was pregnant i had to tell my mom... how could I hide THAT? My fiance was in boot camp and he couldnt even help me tell her. So what I didnt was hand her the pregnancy test that said postive! I didnt have to say anything and she knew what it meant! She was mad at first (like any parent) but now she cant wait to see her grandbaby! Your mother can not make you abort it you ARE 18! She may suggest in but hold you ground! My fiance is home, our wedding is in 10 days, we have our own apartment, and the baby will be her soon!You just got to get through the hard times! Good Luck and email me at [e-mail] if you have any questions

Answer 7

It sounds like a very complicated situation.....i think it probably best to tell your parents.....BUT at least have a mediator present when you do, such as a doctor, community worker or councillor, so that if you are feelin unsafe/frightened at all they can be there to support you.....if you think your boyfriend is supportive, thats fantastic......but alot can change over 9 months and it is a big responsibility to bring a child into the world........you really need your family to know, and to have their support as well, just in case things do go bad....and quite frankly if you dont tell them, this will find out soon enough by themselves anyway.....give your parents credit.....they really are smarter than they look.

Answer 8

Have you and your boyfriend decided to keep the baby? If so, tell your mom the truth but stay firm with your decision to keep the baby no matter what. 18 is really a very young age to become a mother but you have to take responsibility for what you and your boyfriend did. If you don't want the child put it up for adoption.

Answer 9

How did you no longer recognize you have been pregnant for 5 months?? Goodness. different posters are asking how previous you're....and from the style you have worded your question, curiously you at the instant are not of criminal age yet considering you're afraid to tell your father and mom. basically sit down your father and mom down, or basically your mom (in the journey that your father would be thoroughly disillusioned with you), and clarify the region. right here is the deal although....you and Jace extra effective arise with a stable plan on what you are going to do to offer to your toddler. Having a set plan once you tell your father and mom makes you the two look extra mature and in a position to take on the duty of a baby.

Answer 10

if ur boyfriend is supportive than u should be ok. Do you want to keep the baby? This is very important and either way will effect your life.

Make sure of what you want before confronting anyone.

If u do decide to keep baby then ur mum will find out one day.
(U need to be mature, make important decisions and not just think about urself bcus this will effect ur baby's future)

You need to be sure and keep talking to other family members if possible. You can get support from them too.
So, yes ur mum may need to know soon but ensure u have back up from another member of family if possible.
If this is risky for ur life, then u need to seek professional help.
(You have the right to live ur life how u want).