My brother and his family want to come visit this weekend. They want to meet my 3 week old baby. I would love for this to happen but they each have a cold, runny noses. I said I would rather they wait to come visit until they are better. They think I am being to dramatic and that I need to relax. I think her immune system doesn't need this. It's already gonna be a long winter, why start now??? Was I wrong for telling them not to come as long as they are sick??? And making them angry with me?
2006-08-30 03:21:29 · 29 answers · asked by TIA 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
First off, you're never wrong if you're keeping the best interests of your baby as your first consideration.
That being said, though - are you breastfeeding? If you're breastfeeding, your baby is going to be a lot more resistant to sickness - and you have a lot less to worry about. My husband's family came to visit our baby right in the hospital on the day she was born, and the both had a little cold - they decided not to touch her, but she certainly didn't get sick even though she was only a day old. Babies are a lot less fragile than you think! Otherwise none of us would ever survive...
Have you had your baby out in a public place yet? She's just as likely to get a cold from being out as she is being in a room with sick people - you touch something that has germs on it, then you touch your baby - both of mine were out shopping with me the first week, and again, neither of them got anything.
Are you sure that they have colds, and not just allergies? It's allergy season, and a lot of people have itchy noses and watery eyes right now even if they don't have allergies.
Also, the visit wouldn't be until this weekend - a cold has a limited time that it's infectious - so it might be just fine by this weekend, and no one would be contagious any longer. You may want to consider meeting them in a well ventialted area, and limit how much they hold her/touch her - don't play "pass the baby" LOL.
All that being said, if you still don't feel comfortable with seeing them - then just don't. It's your call, and your comfort is just as important as your baby's. You're still recovering from birth and from being sleep deprived etc - and you're the MOTHER. Being the mother means - you make the decisions.
Hope it works out for you! And if your brother stays mad for an unreasoanble amount of time, well.... then limiting contact with him and his family obviously isn't a bad thing. You have your own family now, and he will have to get used to that.
2006-08-30 03:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by ceekryt 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you weren't wrong at all my son was born on thanksgiving day 2003 "nov. 27" He was born 7 weeks early but was perfectly fine until I got sick and my husband was sick. Everybody had a cold and there was nothing I could do b/c he lived with me and when he was a month old he was hospitalized with RSV and had to be put on oxygen for a week. They told me if I had waited another day or 2 I would have been burying him. So no don't let anyone tell you your being over dramatic this is your child remember that not theres. If they really want to see the baby then they'll come around when they aren't sick any longer otherwise it's they're lose.
2006-08-30 04:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by rochelle s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you was not wrong. A baby immune system is not yet strong on top of that they do not have their shots yet so you don't want to put them in a situation that you could of very well avoid. If anything you should be mad at them for even thinking about coming to visit your 3week old with a cold. They would not want you to come visit there newborn with a cold, so they should be more understanding
2006-08-30 03:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by mookie_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did the right thing. Your baby is so young. Even if your baby was older, I still wouldn't want them to come over if they're sick. If they are offended that you are trying to protect your baby from being sick, too bad. Any doctor would tell you did the right thing. You're right it is going to be a long winter, don't need to start getting sick now. Maybe they can know that you were offended that would be so rude to you about something that effects the health of your baby. Sorry I just get tired of people who offend get offended, when you are clearly doing the right thing.
2006-08-30 04:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by pinkdaisy3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You were absolutely right. They should completely understand; they should not be angry with you for wanting to protect your child. At 3 weeks of age, any kind of illness is much harder on their little immune system than an adult. A cold for an adult could be much more serious for a baby of that age. Do not feel guilty for being a caring loving mother to your baby. If you don't try to protect and keep her well, who will??!?!?!?
2006-08-30 03:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by CB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not, you are right. An infant needs to be careful in what they come into contact with seeing as though they immune system needs time to get stronger. I would explain this to them, they aren't caring about the baby if they would want to infect him/her with a cold at such a young age. Good job mom....i would have done the same thing.
Jenn
2006-08-30 03:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Army Love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ur baby so it's ur choice. That's the bottom line. I think u were right. Most Dr.'s don't reccomend having babies in public b4 6wks. To avoid germs & allow there immune systems to get acclimated to the world outside the womb. So, why would anyone knowingly invite germs into their home w/ a new baby? If they're angry they'll just have 2 get over it.
2006-08-30 03:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by eji7997 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong at all. What you decide for your baby is YOUR choice. And I think its a good choice at that. Babies don't need to be around people who are sick. Babies will get sick anyway but why put them in the danger of being so. I wouldn't worry about if you angered them. Just tell them that all you ask is for them to respect your wishes because you would respect their wishes if it was their child.
2006-08-30 03:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO you are not wrong. I think it's terrible on their part to think it's ok to come visit with a cold. 3 weeks is way too young to subject your baby to runny noses. I have no doubt your baby's Dr would agree.
2006-08-30 03:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by 10 pts for me? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if they are truly sick then you did the right thing. Most people would not want to see a baby while sick, but then you have others who only think of themselves
2006-08-30 03:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋