I'm happily married, (honest), but recently I bumped into an ex and I've become a bit obsessed with what ifs. We split up cos I dumped him for my husband, not because was nasty or anything. If I went with him the one time would it get him out of my mind? Or escalate? And would I ever get over the guilt?
2006-08-30 03:17:37 · 32 answers · asked by hadjama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl, you better leave him alone. Why would you want to mess up a good thing. Evidently, he wasn't the right one for you then and he is not the right one for you now. It is nothing but lust, get your mind right.
2006-08-30 03:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by colleyshey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it will get him out of your mind.. The best thing to do is probably not to go there in the first place, because once you cheat, you will find it easier to cheat next time and harder to stop. I guess I'm saying it will escalate it. What ifs is not a good reason to ruin your marriage. If you are someone with morals then I don't think you will find it easy to get over the guilt especially if it ruins your marriage. Remember as you lay your bed you'll lie on it. If your are happily married (honest) then you really shouldn't be asking this question, the answer should be obvious you have a lot to lose.
2006-08-30 03:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously chose your husband over him for a reason(or many reason) am I right??? Remember the reasons that you made the decision to spend your LIFE with your Husband rather than this ex... Also ask yourself is your family worth losing over one time with him??? My bet is it is not!!
Would it really stop at that one meeting?? It might settle your mind(but I highly doubt it) or it might leave you always wondering... And you already know the guilt would haunt you..
You will always have things that you wonder about and say what if?? but those things are better left in the past as a good memory or part in your life... no use in spoiling the memory and your happy married life...
Remember what is important to you and go through in your mind everything you love and appreciate in your life with your husband.
Tell him you love him give him a cuddle and let Mr. man of the past stay there where he belongs!!!!!!! have a good life
2006-08-30 03:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You claim to be happily married, yet this old flame has clearly caught your mind. It is very dangerous to entertain the notion of getting together with your ex AT ALL. You simply must not even let the thought enter your mind. Put him behind you and go out of your way to avoid him.
In the meantime, try to make your happy marriage even happier, so the temptation doesn't grab you again.
My hubby recently had a fling and it has nearly destroyed us, I'm trying to get over being a paranoid wreck. It's not just the sexual betrayal that gets me, it's the fact that I truly believed we were happily married too.
check out the link, read some of it and stay with your husband.
2006-08-30 04:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unfortunately all good things must come to an end, if you do say go out with your ex he's gonna want more and so are you and your husband is gonna get cast aside because he's not the main area of focus. But this relationship with your ex can lead on to crossroads and you don't know where to go. So something's gotta give because you can't have them both and both of them be satisfied.
2006-08-30 03:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you still have feelings for this person. Check out all thats going on in your life now and ask yourself, Would change make this different? If you can't answer that, you're probably content in where you are in your life. Keep this person in your heart and your emotions in check, that is if you want what you have now. If not, keep in mind, that everything that you do effects you and everyone around you. Think hard and look at all of the evidence before you make the best choice for yourself.
2006-08-30 03:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you married you made a vow to love,honor and cherish your husband. If you went with your ex that would be unfaithful on your part. You say you are happily married well then you have to let go of the lesser to obtain the greater. forget the past and go o to the future.Please stay faithful to your husband. Its the christian thing to do.If you want to get your ex out of your mind then keep your husband in your mind and heart and reverence him.When you get insecure make love to him. show him how important he is to you. Please stay faithful.Keep your family together.
2006-08-30 03:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By going with this guy you could end up opening a whole can of worms. Only cheat if you are prepared for what will happen when your husband finds out and you lose everything.
If you leave the security of your marriage for this guy, he may mess you about and leave you with nothing.
Marriage is for life.
2006-08-30 03:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by twystiejunior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an ex for a reason. You made vows when you got married, if you went with him you would violate those vows. We all have what if's when ex's are involved. Take a good look at what you have now and do nothing to jeopardize that.
2006-08-30 03:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay to still have old feelings appear when you bump into an ex. its just you can't let it escalate to anything more than feelings or memories of the past.
2006-08-30 03:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by rundown46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop all contact with this guy and focus on your relationship with your husband. How would you feel if the roles were reversed and you find out that your hubby is thinking of hooking up with an ex?
2006-08-30 03:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋