ok here is one for the ladies serious answers only please!! What is more important Love or Money for example if you had a decent paying job would you mind it if your man was a Stay At Home Dad?
2006-08-30 03:15:44 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would mind if my husband was a stay at home dad and it is not about the money. anticipating the issues i would encounter...imagine, you come home tired from work and yr hubby is looking all relaxed, watching football or something...what do you think you would feel? maybe a bit frustrated? even if he has cleaned the house etc, it is either going to get to u or him eventually. initially he might not feel it, but sooner or later he is going to feel as if u are the "man" of the house, and it is going to be nasty for his ego. he is always going to feel as if the kids are looking up to u and not him, because u are the breadwinner. if u were at home, and him working, the kids would look up to both of you, not only him altho he is the breadwinner, but bcoz now the roles their parents are playing is something they are more comfortable with, mummy with the love and hugs and kisses, but being there when they come home from school, and the busy daddy with the love, but it is still a situation they would understand. a stay at home dad would be bad for them at some stage or another, bcoz kids at school are going to be making fun of the situation. i know yr question was abt money or love, but i think you have to look at everything on the whole. you may love him very much, but letting him stay at home won't be fair to you, him or the kids, even if you both think you want it that way.
2006-08-30 03:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by abstract 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If I was making enough to support us and the kids and not worry about the money then I wouldn't mind. But he'd have to take on the responsibilities around the house and not try to get me to do it. I know it works having one person stay home with the kids (I stay home) but being the one at home can be hard on your self esteem and confidence when others find out the situation and assume you're lazy (I always worked 50 -60 hrs a week before my 2nd kid was born so I'm by no means lazy!) I think it could cause problems in some relationships more from that then that the guy isn't making money.
2006-08-30 03:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a stay-at home mom until my son was two, then I got a job and have it for over a year now. My husband has been on vacation for about a week. I LOVE it!!!! I still cook dinner every night, but I love to cook so I don't mind that, but the house is clean, he's spending quality time with our son. The wife needs to be confident with herself and open to a non-traditional family. The answer to your questions is LOVE for me. Money isn't everything. If you're living comfortably, why stress everyone out?
2006-08-30 03:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I choose love...my husband has been on high blood pressure meds for a year now, he was at work couple of days ago and he had his heart do crazy things. He was taken to the ER, before we really new what was wrong I made the comment to him that if he can't handle physical work because of his heart then he could stay home and take over my daycare, and I would go get a job outside the house. Basically I love him more than money and would be willing to do whatever it would take to maintain our house hold and stick together. Everything worked out he was put on meds and released back to work.
2006-08-30 03:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by e_deckwa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love.. always love!
If I made enough to support us, I wouldn't mind at all. As long as I was able to expect from him what he would expect from me if I were a stay at home. You know, come home to a clean house, not have to make dinner.. I would expect him to do the stay at home stuff.
I love my husband dearly, we have been in many situations where he had been laid off and taken a less paying job than what he had been doing because he thought he would like it a great deal. I support him no matter what he does, as long as it is possible for us to survive and it makes him happy.
2006-08-30 03:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not like a stay at home Dad, I guess it just goes against everything I know. I want to raise my kids, I have to work full time, in the middle of a divorce, but there isn't a time when my kids are sick or have a snow day or whatever that I don't feel guilty that I can't be there.
2006-08-30 03:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i made enough money to support everything then no i would not mind...cuz a stay at home dad is a job to...you have to watch the kids, feed them, bath them, play with them, change them, then you have to do all the house work and cook so no i would not mind just as long as i could support everything
2006-08-30 03:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Megan T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun if i had a good paying job that i enjoyed, id love for my husband to stay at home with the kids, he is an excellent father, only problem i for see is i better make enough for a maid cause he sucks at house work lol.. but other then that, id love him to be a stay at home dad.. plus i wouldnt have to worry about him straying if he was always home JK JK JK
2006-08-30 03:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love prevails! No I would not mind if my hubby stayed home with the kiddos if I had a decent paying job. I think that would be great.
2006-08-30 03:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in mad love w/ lazy guy , we decided to get marry ,then we started to have economy problem , i asked him to find a job but he was really lazy, we loved each other even after 6 years i do remember the good time we spent together but at the end we broke up coz there was no money to build our life.
2006-08-30 03:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by behnoush_k_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋