When me and my ex were together he was was jealous of my male friends especially my friend who lives in another state. He told me that i couldnt talk to him anymore and I told him I wasnt about to do that cause what kind of friend would I be to stop talking to a friend cause my boyfriend asked me to, it the prinicple too. Even though thats not why we broke up,he told me the other day that thats how he knows were not getting back together this time (weve broken up several time before) cause I chose my friend over him, and all he has to do is think of that. I loved my boyfriend and would have did a lot for him but i felt like that was too controlling, if I let him control that then what else would I let him do. I feel its messed up cause I have forgiven him for so much crap. On top of all that he didnt treat me that well to begin with. If he know were not getting back together how come hes still sleeping with me and still trying to go through my phone ?Was I wrong?
2006-08-30 03:13:32 · 16 answers · asked by michelle m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has female friends as well. They even spend the night at his house. I didnt hang with mines cause i know he didnt like it. All I did was talk on the phone. Whats the big deal. But just all together stop talking, thats taking it too far.
2006-08-30 03:24:14 · update #1
no you are not wrong. he shouldnt be that way. you have to have guy friends too. i bet he has friends as girl. so why isnt it fair. anyway you are doing good. dont bother with him. leave him you dont need that kind of **** in your life. good luck
2006-08-30 03:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still sleeping with this guy then obviously there was no real relationship there to begin with. You are allowing yourself to be used and that is exactly what this "boyfriend" is continue to do as long as you let him. He never loved you and is never going to love you, it is rare that a guy will love a woman who allows herself to be used, real men want women who respect themselves and you've already said in your own post that you don't respect yourself. Either break it off with this guy or go on being used. You are however entitled to have your friends. No one has the right to tell you otherwise, and by telling this "boyfriend" that you want to maintain your friendship with the other guy you were not choosing your friend over this "boyfriend". He actually wasn't your boyfriend, if he were paying you he would be considered a "john" a regular of a prostitute because from your own post that is all you seem to have had with this guy. I wonder if you are actually mature enough for any kind of relationship since you obviously don't know the first things about such a relationship. Sex is not the focal point of a loving male/female relationship and sex is all you had/have with this guy. No way did/does this guy love you, most people don't love those who don't love themselves.
2006-08-30 03:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the right decision... A boyfriend who tells you that you can't talk to your guy friends is insecure either because he's cheating and dont want you to do the same or has had bad past relationship problems. Most couples do have a trust problem and I think that's what this is if u do wanna be with him u need to sit him down for yall to talk and figure out why u talking to your male friend is such a problem and about him going through your phone thats another trust problem there. But him going through your phone is a sign he does care about u he cares enough that he don't want anyone else talkin to u
2006-08-30 03:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by kbrobinson05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were right to stand up to him and not let him control your friends! there is nothing wrong in being friends with a guy. it is a question of trust. he did not trust you enough if he did not accept this friendship and he is controlling and domineering to ask you to choose. Also, what I don't like is that he is blaming you for the problems that you had. And from your side, why don't you move on with your life and stop sleeping with this guy if he does not want to get back with you? And why does he control your phone? Another sign of selfishness because he seems to want you for pleasure but nothing else.
2006-08-30 03:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nonetheless youthful and performance something else of your existence to stay so if Mr Y cant manage Mr X chuck Mr Y, because Mr X will continually be there while Mr Y received't be. Mr Y can't be that useful of someone if he's attempting to do away with your ideal chum too, no matter in the adventure that your ideal chum is male.
2016-11-23 14:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by allotey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you werent. I dont think you were anyways. I mean your not married and hes not the boss of you. And whats the big deal with it anyways. Its not like your going behind his back, and not telling him anything. Your friend is in another state! So no I dont think your wrong at all. And just think if you let him control you now he is gonna try to do it for as long as he can.
2006-08-30 03:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm I have a very close male friend. I chose him over my booyfriend, because I think it is wrong for someone new to come into your life and expect you to give up a friend who has been there for you for many years. IF you are ONLY friends. if you had slept with this guy before, you're going to have to make the choice if you really love your bf. It's only fair.
2006-08-30 03:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by lynswil_25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your principles. If anyone ever makes you choose between him/her or another person, pick the one that doesn't put you in that position. You did the right thing.
"If he know were not getting back together how come hes still sleeping with me"
because you let him
don't confuse sex and emotions, they are not related
2006-08-30 03:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to draw a defined line....if you wish to keep your boyfriend, you'll have to let go of your guy friends. How'd you feel if your boyfriend keeps the company of many women friends as well?
2006-08-30 03:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love makes you do some crazy things. I know my girlfriend has some friends that like her and once I found out it drove me crazy. I told her to chose and she chose me.
2006-08-30 03:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by ImOuThEreUdigg!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋