why do married men and women have affair outside?

Answer 1

They are not satisfied!

Answer 2

The true reason is lack of communication. In any relationship there are two things crucial to help making it work, Trust and Communication. This in turn, if you can't talk with your other, causes hidden issues. This in turn, in a sense make others compelled to seek advice and council or communication from others. Keep in mind that, when there is no communication, people have a tendency to feel vonerable and attention, good or bad, is being given the person, this person is overly receptive to situations. If a relationship is to the point that the other is going outside of the relationship, there are unresolved issues at hand. Perhaps if couples would have trust enough, and be honest enough to put ALL their cards on the table, and discuss things, the outcome, no matter what, could still leave you friends or at least talking. You also need to allow time for the other person to be receptive of the news and allow them time to absorb and emotionally react to it. Everyone is entitled to their emotions. Also, with any situation, you have to weigh out the good and bad, and the "is it worth it" syndrome. Even cheating, People are human and they sometimes make mistakes. Everyones values are different, but take the time and ask if the relationship is worth more that the moment of indifference and can you "let it go", not forget, just let it go. Maybe it might be different.

Answer 3

People have affairs for varying reasons. I don't think you can actually pinpoint one cause or causes for that matter that will explain why married men and women have affairs. We all make mistakes even the worst kind of mistake. I think people have affairs as a way of hitting out, like in anger for something thats wrong with themselves, their relationships or surroundings. Instead of trying to look at the problem and fixing it, they take what they claim is like the easy way out of dealing with their problems and its kinda like beginning anew, new feelings, new rush, new everything. Its a new person thats making you feel wanted, loved, catered to, but the fact of the matter is that its an illusion. None of it is often real and often a lot of people are hurt in the process of another person's selfishness.

Answer 4

It's the wrong way to go for sure, it only complicates things and hurts everybody involved, but it's because there's something really wrong inside the marriage and they don't know how to fix it. The affair is like a breath of fresh air when they've been sitting in windowless room for what seems like forever, and to some that's irresistable.

Answer 5

Marriage has limitations placed upon individuals. At some point in those marriages, one or both of the parties, wants to test those boundaries and even exceed them.

Being married becomes a routine and in some case becomes filled with boredom. Temptation, which cures boredom, leads us down that avenue. The solution is to get and keep your marriage exciting by staying active with new and exciting things! If you don't... both men and women...will stray!

Answer 6

Oh my, there are so many reasons: not being physically satisfied at home, not being in love with your spouse anymore but not being able to leave due to a sense of responsibility, feeling old and boring and needing to do something to feel young and vibrant again, cultural expectations (Europeans traditionally have affairs all the time, and its kind of expected), falling in love with someone else outside of marriage but still loving your spouse, opportunity, etc.

Answer 7

This usually happens when people get married at an early age. My guess is that they are not being fully satisfied by their spouses so they seek that satisfaction outside the marriage. Also, monogamous relationship become boring after a while.

Answer 8

For many reasons: the relationship inside the marriage is over,the couple(both)like to cheating each other; one of the couple(woman or man),is not satisfying the sexual needs.Another reason is, sometimes in a party,drinking,the woman or the man cheat.For some men and women, cheating is an adventure they enjoy.There are more reasons.

Answer 9

a coworker of mine is seeing a man that was married until i had a detective get me his unlisted #. now he is divorced. the problem is the girl is still seeing this older man. i don't know why she is with this complete loser. he filed for bankruptcy 5 years ago after losing all his money gambling. he always had loan sharks after him to collect. the girl i work with is only 22 and he is about to turn 35. she is so naive it seems. her parents are strict since they are from the middle east. i was hoping her seeing this big time loser would end on its own and hoping it still will. she sneaks behind her parents back to see this loser. i just don't get why she is with this loser when she can do so much better.

Answer 10

Sex drive is natural and strong. Mongamy is supernatural, a gift not everyone receives.

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Other Pretty Faces

Why does she ignore the nice things I say?
Why won't she play too when I want to play?
Am I so disgusting, I turn her off?
Is my flirting appropriate to scoff?
What does it take to get her to agree?
Why doesn't my own wife lust after me?
I tell her the beauty I see, and smile.
I say I want her now, not after while.
The baubles I bring speak of my desire.
Hugs I give are warmed by my inner fire.
She gets my time, more than any other.
I love her so much, I tend to smother.
Must she reject on a daily basis?
Driven, I seek other pretty faces.

just david 1999

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Answer 11

because the other person gets upset if you bring the affair inside