this is gonna sound so stupid I have a dilemma I have met a Moroccan guy and he seems to be real sweet and caring yet I don't know much about his culture I want to believe him when he says that he cares but But I have my doubts I know he lives in Morocco and that he is 23 and muslim the thing is ,is that I don't know what the whole deal is I like talking to him as a chat friend and I have seen pictures of what he says is him but I am not completely sure he seems like a good guy but I gave him my address and he backed out of coming to see me but he says that he wants won't tell me why he can't he has asked if I want to come see him but I don't think that over there we could be a couple as we would over here. the problem is that recently he started saying that he loves me and that he really means it but I don't know if I should believe that I mean he's 23 and guys that age don't love they are players so any one want to help me out on this and let know if I am reading him wrong??
2006-08-30 03:06:23 · 9 answers · asked by asdfghjkl; 4 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Morocco
I never intended to go meet him and I have told him that I think he is a nice guy and that I like him as a friend and he understands this but he claims he feels really differently about me and that his feelings are true but I can't seem to believe him I can't really see how one can love someone that they have never met face to face yet he claims that he does I know that he is of mixed race his father is moroccan and his mother is french but I don't know exactly what to think about him I have heard that some are honest but I don't know and he didn't back out really he has to go to college I just feel I am being mean by not actually caring or listening to him most of the time I just go invisible to avoid him and I feel bad for not treating him this way when he has done nothing wrong he never once said anything mean to me or asked for anything like the other creeps do I think maybe he is infatuated with me&I can't get him to see that I don't want to be mean to him he has become aok friend
2006-08-30 04:02:38 · update #1
it seems noone has any good things to say about where he is from I understand he is culturaly different and marrage isn't exactly what I was thinking I figured meeting would make him see that we to different but he says that his own mother is christain and his father is mulsim but I don't know maybe I am too nice to be mean to him
2006-08-30 04:08:31 · update #2
I have done the other ID thing along time ago and I didn't let him know it was me but he talked to me and flirted a little but when i asked for a picture of him with that ID he said no and i did this for about aweek with four different ID's and he never talked to me in those ID as he does in the ID i have as a main ID he never mentioned liking me and he didn't know it was me so i do't know what to think I could try again it was fun but I don't want to hurt him if he really thinks that he loves me I kind fo want proof but i am using cation and i keep him and a distance i have even told him that i ahve someone he just claims that who i am with dosen't desever me and i ahve had guy friends tell him off but he has convienced them that he really means it
2006-08-30 08:02:08 · update #3
okay! well, there are some of these men who are only in it for the visa(if you are American) they will play you til they get that card. then, you are gone. it sadly happened to my sister. she was married for 5yrs. then he received his citizenship. he kicked her out within a month. and on the side he had his Moroccan woman the whole time. my sister lost everything. she is now trying to start over with her life after he took everything.
but, this is not to scare you. not all of them are like this. I have lived with Moroccans(they r thick in FL.) and I am married to one. my hubby is the most loving,caring person. we have a daughter a & he is such a good father. I prefer him over any American man, any day.
the key is with your situation is ; if he is being pushy about things,then he is desparate to get out of his country. he is only wanting something else. the reasin he backed out of coming is,he probably didn't have the visa& or money to leave the
country. but, if you meet his family & get to know them. and he encourages this,then he may be serious. but if he refuses for you to meet &talk with them, then heads up for you. or if he has excuses that don't match up,then be careful.
and, remember ----- how can he love you if he has not seen you in person? and, do you feel love for him ?
just be open-minded and don't get hurt.
2006-08-30 09:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by malak 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have seen many Moroccan men marry an American, divorce, and then marry a Moroccan women (having nothing to do with a green card). There are several factors that increase a person's chance of being divorced and one is being from different cultures and another is being from different religions. Once burned, some people probably are afraid of making "the same mistake twice" and go back to there own. I wouldn't say this is specific to just to the Moroccan man. I know several American women that after an unsuccessful relationship / marriage with a Moroccan (or Hispanic or Asian) have said never again and only date Americans. I know if my husband and I were to divorce, I would definitely never date another Moroccan. Who wants to be reminded of their ex - lol?
2016-03-27 01:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe a word he says. If he backed out of coming to see you & refuses to give a reason but keeps wanting you to come there then that tells you immediately that something is NOT right. I've seen waaaaaaay too many people fall for that. It just ended badly cause from what I've seen, most (not all) foreign guys try to pick up girls from the U.S. just so that they can get them to marry them so they can come to the U.S. Half the time they don't really love you when they say they do, they're just buttering you up & sweet talking.
I don't mean to offend anyone by any means but this is just what I've seen in about 75% of those situations.
2006-08-30 03:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by §uper ®ose 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I know some people from Morrocco. RUN AWAY as fast as you can. I am not kidding. They have some strange ideas about relationships. If you are not raised that way, you will not understand them. Otherwise, study the Koran and find out all you can from other muslim women. Do not ask the men about it, they lie just like all men trying to get some on the side. Also, they believe in having more than one wife. If you are an American, I do not know if you could accept this way of life. I am not saying that they are wrong, I am just saying it is not how I was raised, and it might be difficult to accept this way of life. I hope you consider everything before jumping in too deep. ( Know that this is the same advice I would give all three of my daughters if they asked this question.)
2006-08-30 03:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by mark_jw2006 2 · 3⤊ 5⤋
first of all ,, i dont think hes playing you ., but you got to make sure he does ,, you girls know how to check guys hearts lol.. CHECK IT see if he does or not ..
second ., if he does then u should go n see him , morocco is a nice place ,trust me .. im arab i know the best places of arabian counrties ,, but if i were u i would take a friend with me when i go see him so incase u know he plays around of u two didnt like each other anymore ,, ur friend may be usefuall u know .. ohh and maybe he cant go to usa cause he thinks the us gov will give him a hard time cause hes arab we all wont go there cause of that reason .. tho .. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-30 03:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
it seems that you are niether arab nor a muslim, you are going to hate my answer but I would tell you a truth of all closed cultures that give a lot of power to men. just read this answer from a neutral prespective and try to think why I am writing this. I am telling you some facts that I know personally
1) there is a hell lot of difference in the culture adjusting would be very tough, if you are from a developed country like us, uk then forget it , you might like the way people are at tourist spots but once you are part of family the defination changes.
2) can you live with his mom and family and work like a servant I mean a good wife get the message. sometimee the family themselves dont like a girl who is non arab its like an unwritten code that the guy should have an arab wife. some guys go out with girl and settle abroad, others sadly use them till the time there mom finds a good bride
3) arabs are a very polychronic and machoistic soceity a woman is very attached to the man that means , you wont marry the guy but his family so it means that you would really have to see his kids and forget things like career and freedom , if you dont beleive me then ask for yourself how many arabian women truly have freedom like having a job and going out with friends and being really open. Are you ready to give up all this for a guy you hardly know online at the age of 21/22.
4) there are times the guys come over to USA but once they get the papers they can even leave the girl, coz now she aint worth anything, if you dont beleive then go to canada and you would know why am I saying this.
5) I really dont mean to piss you but he didnt keep his word and now wants you to come over and biggest of all says that he loves you !!!!!!!!! what kind of guy is he and why are falling for him there are many girls who have been tricked from european countries by guys in arabian countries about a good life and all but it changes for the worse.
I personally know 2 german girls one married an egyptian , another fell for a algerian, both are divorced and back in germany , one of them is a single mother. The love initially is great as you are new to the culture but after some time you start having problems as women are not allowed to do many things plus the mindset is actually very closed.
I am sure if the guy is great he might try to adjust but how can he adjust the society and his family, and biggest of all the values that he has been brought up in. even the muslims in western countries are conservative and the ones in arab land are far more.
he may be persian eye candy in the pictures but sadly this is where it all ends, rest its you life but as in my opinion stop now girl before its too late or you would repent this love affair. sad but true.
2006-08-30 03:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
i am married to a moroccan man and have known many morccan freinds from chatting on the net...from my own expierence dear....you need to be careful. most are looking for a way to come to america. how many others is he saying that he loves them...try this---approach him with a differnt id in chat and see how he talks with you..i think you will see very clearly what he is looking for......best of luck
2006-08-30 07:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start looking closer to home, where distance is not such a big problem.
Start with your own zip code.
2006-08-30 10:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Giggles 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Aren't there any men around where you live?
2006-08-30 03:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋