In what ways can you tell a friend(in a nice way) that she's too self conscious!!??

Question

EeeeEEeverytime she meets a mirror, she stops,posses, smiles,flips her hair to a desired position and applies whatever type of cosmetics she has in her huge shoulder bag of hers. She does that for 40 minutes, then when were about to get going, she then asks, do my hair look okay? *flinch*

I know I know, It's normal for girls, but hers is way over the top! She's like wasting my time, I want to go on ahead but she pouts and gets mad if Vivien and i will go on without her, or will leave her for just a short while.

She takes her time in everything even though she knows there are people, frustratingly...waiting for her.

Answer 1

Have you actually told her this?

For one thing, she probably has low self-esteem (which everyone has at one point in their lives or another) and perhaps compares herself to every chick in the room including you and vivian. I would bring this up to her.

Let her know, who cares. You are out to have a good time, not to look like super models. Who the f wants to be that way anyways.

secondly if she is slowing you up let her know.

Be honest.

Answer 2

I had a friend like yours, and i know, i makes you kinda flinch when they ask to hang out cause it becomes a whole..I'm not pretty, how do i look, go to the mirror thing EVERY time. I got my Friend to snap out of it by just confronting her, i was careful i didn't upset her but i told her that it gets frustrating when she thinks about how she looks every minute, and i made sure i told her that she did in fact look great, but that she didn't need CONSTANT reassurance from me that she looked ok. And she actually took it well, and now i hardly ever have to answer that dreaded question, She'll ask if we going clubbin or somethin...hey does thing look good...and ill be like yeah, but other than that she's a LOT better to hang around. So i say just confront her and tell her straight up.

Answer 3

well if you leave her at home enough times she will stop the crap..take down all the mirrors would be a sugestion. if she is a real friend you should be able to tell her anything.
but my sujestion is to leave her behind let her find her own way to where you were going. and have a good time when you want to go out..
No one likes to be left out..so she will change if you stop letting her do this to you.. she don't want to miss out on the fun no matter how prissy she is..
good luck

Answer 4

She will never change, she will always look at her self and take ages to get ready. Just do what you have been doing, go on without her and tell her it's because she takes ages. She will soon get the message. She is over confident, not self conscious.

Answer 5

She's not really self conscious, she's vain. Either start lying to her about what time you're leaving (tell her earlier than it really is and just show up on time), or start leaving her. She can pout all she wants, but you have places to go.

Answer 6

You need to encourage her that she looks great just the way she is. both me and my wife are in a form of youth counceling, and we she girls liek this all the time, and 99.9 percent of the time its because she is insecure about herself. But what they need is someone to say to her while she fixing her hair or putting make up on. Tell her this, you know you look really great just the way you are, I wouldnt put anymore make up on because its hiding all your good fixures about your face. You look great
just encourge her.

Answer 7

Tell her that she looks better without all that crap on her face. Tell her that you like the real person under all that makeup and fake stuff turns you off. And besides it's taking time from us for you to be primping all the time.

Answer 8

ignore her when she does it and leave her when she takes to much time, there is no nice way of telling some one they are self conscious just slap them in the face and let them know what's bugging you

Answer 9

throw out an innocent insult here and there.. and she'll slow down real quick.. tell her next time she looks in the mirror the mirror doesnt flatter her.. she'll see what she wants but your insult will make her question what others see..

Answer 10

I don't think that she's self conscious...sounds like she has low self esteem and is always looking to others to boost her ego. Can't fix someone like that.