2006-08-30 03:00:12 · 20 answers · asked by fork401 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
This question, in my opinion, is almost the same as someone asking whether or not it is appropriate to declare one's love immediately after sex. The same biochemistry is affecting judgement in both cases. Being with this other person has given you this inflated sense of the pleasures of life, this incredible lightness of being, and the items responsible for that are testosterone, dopamine, and serotonin. There are people who go through years of living with someone only to find a totally different side to that person and so it is unlikely that someone who goes on a date or two with another person can know that this is the right one. If you are feeling in love perhaps you have been feeling lonely and she stops the loneliness. Some type of neediness could be responsible for this perspective or else it is your first time feeling such arousal from being with another person and as such you are confusing love and lust. If you are very experienced in dating perhaps you love the feeling of being in love but remember that, if this is the case, it is not the person herself that you are in love with. You may like that person, you may think that she is sexy, and you may have an intellectual and emotional link to her but that does not mean that she has suddenly materialized as the right person for you. I don't imagine that we are ever in love with a person. We are in love with how that person makes us feel when we are with her and the percolating, titilating feel of the chemicals inside us when we are with her but that is all. All the wise people tell us that compassion is the only true love and the quicker we come to that realization the quicker we will be able to explore a giving love instead of a taking love or a barter arrangement of mutual caring which also has its selfish side.
2006-08-30 03:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by Steven S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just how much do you know about this person? I suppose it is possible to fall in love that quickly, but what things do you have in common? Religion is a common problem area, because children need religious training early in life. Lifestyle after courtship can be a problem. Can you afford what the other person expects? Can she or he live up to your ideals? Some kids? Lots of kids? No kids? You cannot ignore this, and you cannot pretend that the issue will never come up. Will the love be there with 10 years age and 40 pounds of weight gain? Attraction is not love! It is a physical attraction, but may not sustain you further down the road. Slow down! You have the rest of your life to make big decisions. Get to know each other better!
2006-08-30 03:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lance U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not tell you that it is wrong but, what I will say is that it can scared someone away, I mean if you really like someone that is okay to like them but, to be honest how can you be in "Love" with a person you have only known of for two days?
What are some of the things that they like?
What is there favorite color?
How much education did they get?
How do they act when they don't get their way?
Are they an abusive person?
I mean some of these things you can just ask of a person but, you need to be in a persons present more than just two times to know if this is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with...........
"Look Deep Before You Leap"
2006-08-30 03:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its not wrong but it is kind of odd. After a couple of dates there is no way that you can determine love. I mean you really don't know the person. Their mood swings, there logic and reasoning, their habits. Its more than likely lust or just the feeling of experiencing something new with a new person. You really need time spent with the person in order to determine that. 2 dates some phone calls and emails wont really get you to a point where you can truly determine love. Get to know the person well first before you proclaim your love for them.
2006-08-30 03:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by TBONEZAP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never wrong to express your love if it is actually love and not some other emotion. But in this process you may get hurt and must prepare yourself for rejection or for her to think you are a psycho/stalker or something else, but she may also feel the same about you, but doesn't want to sya it because she thinks it is too soon.
2006-08-30 03:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by chaoticmagician 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not wrong. However, you better distinguish love from "romantic" feelings---infatuation. I don't think you can love her when you haven't taken the time to know her. This is the honeymoon phase and to a certain extent she has her "guard up." I think it would be premature for you to say it is love. I also feel LOVE is an act of will not a feeling that one is "overcome"
by. Remember feelings wax & wane. Therefore, love becomes a decision.
2006-08-30 03:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait awhile. She might think you are a stalker or a nutcase. Give it at least 6 weeks.
“Love is patient; love is kind
and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, and love;
but the greatest of them all is love.”
2006-08-30 03:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong, exactly. But don't expect them to be able to say they love you back after just two dates - that wouldn't be fair.
2006-08-30 03:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. you may not date somebody while ur in love with somebody else. it isnt honest to kaitlyn. Plus u havent even met those people in individual. yet while u particularly love them the two u cant in simple terms date one and prefer theother thats incorrect.
2016-12-14 14:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you aren't really in love. i usually run the opposite direction when a man tells me that he loves me before at least 9 months have past.
2006-08-30 04:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dizzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋